When I was living in NY I liked this one girl that I did end up sleeping with and liking a lot. Things where going great for about a month, and then out of the blue she just dropped me. She basically ignored me for a whole month and a half, blocked me from AIM, and didn't answer any of my calls. A month after that some personal matters came into my family which made me move to Michigan and away from NY and her.

My first month here, she unblocked me from AIM and would not want to stop talking to me, I will admit it felt good because I didn't have any friends out here and she was like my only one. Things went on like this for months. Sending pics back and forth sometimes dirty lol, texts messages, phone calls. Every night before bed we had to talk to one another or we wouldn't get a good night sleep lol.

Back in late January of 09 we had a talk about me liking her more than a friend. Of course I said yes. I actually told her that I loved her and she loved the fact that I said that. Things with her and I where like puppy love for the past month till we hit another snag in the chain. She told me she was seeing another guy which was an ex of her's. Of course it sucked for me because I poured my heart and soul to her and this happens. Luckily her ex was still a douche bag which was making her talk to me again. Things kind of started to get back to the normal routine of online talking, texts, and calls. But with my luck things started to get weird again. I can remember the exact date March 26, 2009 I sent her a text message with my picture saying "I miss you." And then on Match 28, 2009 I sent a myspace message saying "can I call you tonight or tomorrow night...I miss your voice hun." The next morning which was on a Sunday I went to check my message on Myspace didn't get anything back from her. So I clicked on her name and I got a message saying "This user has blocked you and removed you from their friends list." So I went to AIM and saw she wasn't on my friends list, so I logged on to my other name and notice she was on. I've tried everything so far. I've tried calling, texting... I get nothing back. I don't know what I did for sure. I can take it if I maybe pushed to hard when she came out of the relationship with her ex, but I am so confused right now. I've asked my friends on what I should do and I hear the same thing "Move on man, forget about it" But the thing is I can't. I am also worried that I hope I'm not to late because its been a month since I haven't heard from her... I miss her so much, she was a good friend at first then I fell in love with her, then we went back to good friends and now I can't even talk to her because she won't answer my phone calls or text me back, plus the fact I am blocked on her Myspace again as well as AIM. She has been one of my best friends since I've been out here. And it sucks now. And I don't know what to do. As much as I want to let her go I can't because I know she is just confused and she needs to know from someone that she is making a mistake because I am the only one that has not treated her like crap. I have always been there for her. Can anyone help me out please... I am so confused:confused:

It sounds like it is over, you need to get out of the house and make some real life friends. I promise it will be a healthy thing to do and make take your mind off things.

That's what happens when you let someone treat you bad, and then take them back, and become dependent on them. Being strangers, you were happy to have the contact with her (and the sex) but things changed.

You had to see it coming, she told you about the ex, and shut you down, but instead of red flags, you see she's back, happy days are here again, and that's all you saw.

Let it go man, and do what you should have done in the first place, leave her alone and made new friends and enjoyed yourself without her. She was a flake, and if you had looked before you leaped, you would have seen that.

Do you think she will ever talk to me?

Do you think she will ever talk to me?


You're not getting it buddy, she is not a good thing. Leave her alone and start to live without the pain and misery. She will not bring you happiness.

Thing is I don't want to be in a relationship with her. I miss the friendship we once had. That's why I want to know if she would ever talk to me again. I made it clear to her that's all I want. I am more upset to lose her as a friend then anything. This is why I hate sex sometimes it makes everything complicated!

I'm so sorry, but this isn't friendship (and it sure as hell isn't love).

This girl has been using you, when she wants, how she wants and you've been going back for more. You may have been the only one not treating her like crap, but you've allowed yourself to be treated like crap by her.

If this is how she behaves with her friends then no wonder they treat her like crap!

Don't kid yourself that she's making a mistake in not contacting you. She's not confused. She knows exactly what she's doing.

She's got you exactly where she wants you, lolling after her with your tongue hanging out, like a love sick puppy.

Listen to your other friends, "Move on man, forget about it", block her from your AIM, delete her numbers and email addresses, delete the dirty pics.

Yea, it's hard to be rejected and dejected, but do you honestly believe this is friendship or love? It seems to have all been one way in her direction!

Linker,

Some people get turned on by the chase, others by the sex, others by the tension of making their GF/BF jealous. The same people can get turned off by fighting, or intimacy, or commitment. This girl is absolutely left cold by love, especially the kind of "puppy love" that you seem made to enjoy. Kindness and thoughtfulness are not what she wants. She wants a rogue to keep her off balance and to confirm her "badness" by being bad to her. That's not what you bring to the party.

She's not confused; she's busy running from anything that looks like a real relationship. She will only rip you apart. Give yourself a break and go NC.

Tao

Tao that makes a lot of sense because every guy she has dated has been a to her and I can see why. The thing is, is she knows I can't be an hole to her because its not my nature. I am not trying to make myself sound like a wimp here but its true I can't be mean to a girl don't know why. But to tell you the truth I hate begging the victim all the time, seriously how can the guy play the game? Every girl knows how the play the game when it comes to screwing up a man's head even if they are not trying to. Seriously I want to know can a guy do the same thing?

Tao that makes a lot of sense because every guy she has dated has been a to her and I can see why. The thing is, is she knows I can't be an hole to her because its not my nature. I am not trying to make myself sound like a wimp here but its true I can't be mean to a girl don't know why. But to tell you the truth I hate begging the victim all the time, seriously how can the guy play the game? Every girl knows how the play the game when it comes to screwing up a man's head even if they are not trying to. Seriously I wanna know can a guy do the same thing?

Of course they can. Read some of the other posts on this forum!

Tao that makes a lot of sense because every guy she has dated has been a to her and I can see why. The thing is, is she knows I can't be an hole to her because its not my nature. I am not trying to make myself sound like a wimp here but its true I can't be mean to a girl don't know why. But to tell you the truth I hate begging the victim all the time, seriously how can the guy play the game? Every girl knows how the play the game when it comes to screwing up a man's head even if they are not trying to. Seriously I wanna know can a guy do the same thing?

Like Gem says, of course they can. You can do the same thing, but it's not what you are looking for. You might be feeling the urge to exercise some power in this situation, and that's reasonable. But, if you start thinking about how to even the score as a way to feel better, to "play the same game," it turns out to be a mistake.

First, It ignores the fact that she is doing what she believes is necessary to survive. Her method might be really screwed, but this is what she learned to do. She can't have a decent relationship, only compromised ones. She's suffering plenty; the sooner you move on from her the better.

Second, consider what it will do to you learn how to do "the same thing." Playing the game of screwing up somebody's head takes your focus off having a genuine relationship with anyone, and directs your thinking to manipulating people instead. Once you get found out—and you will get found out; it's part of the game—you realize the damage you did to yourself and her. The time you just lost mindf**king could have been pleasantly passed in the presence of the one you can really be in love with.

Drop contact with her. Clear your head and heart. You are looking for a soul mate. She's out there looking for you, too.

What do you mean by "She's suffering plenty?"

What do you mean by "She's suffering plenty?"

I can't imagine that she likes being treated the way guys treat her. Or that she doesn't long for a loving, reliable relationship, instead of being "A Playah." She's suffering in her self and will continue to do so until she learns how to be genuine.

Once again, drop her. Move on.

Tao