OKEY , I dated this guy alan
He was really nice & we got along like so good . His really a passionate lover /fun guy .when I met him I was not in the mood for a new relationship but his personality made think twice about that .before I met him I thought about not liking or being in a relationship again because I got broken -hearted but he opened my heart .
When we broke up the next week we made-out ,I thought we were getting back together but I don't know what happen :S
We really liked each other &he told me he loved me & I never felt it until like last month when we broke up I could see it in his eyes .but he hates my attitude because I flirt with other guys & all that but I changed that now .I never thought I could love him but I do & I care for him&would be there if he needed me.so it was going well at first but now he doesn't want to talk to me .but then we met with some friends he said hi & I said hi but he doesn't smile or whatever .he says he hates me & I hear that but his friends & some people say he talks about me all the time in a bad way .I want him back but I don't know what to do?:S&how to start .like whenever we see each other we face the other way .
Last time to a friend of mine his girlfriend told my friend that he was depressed it was the same time he saw me.everytime he sees me he acts emotional & still holds on to what happen before or maybe that's what I think.I just want to know if he still likes me .he told me he doesn't but the way he acts & how he talks about me to his friends after 5 months past I think if he was over me he wouldn't be still acting like that.
Sorry I messed up the writing its all mixed up but please need help.I want to get him back he has a girlfriend but I don't think he likes her that much they don't hangout out of school that much his always with a friend we have incommon & that's not all .just help me I want to make things better with him.

He talks in a bad way & then he takes them all back .so it makes me more confused please help!!

OK, first thing, act as if it don't bother you. I don't care if it's been 3 years and you still cry, just pretend it don't bother you. Make sure you always look cute and pay him no mind!! Unless you are face to face or something... then look him in the eyes with a big smile and say hi. Keep him guessing girl. And don't let on that you still be sweating him.
Men are weird, you'll soon learn that it's all about mind games. And please don't make out with a boy until you know 4sure y'all are together, you don't want to give anyone a reason to talk bad. Boys, especially immature ones, love to gossip, just like women... in fact they be worse.


Keep your head up girl

... thud.. . thud.. . thud...

That's the sound of me banging my head on the desk in despair.

You hardly know this guy and you had a 'passionate' relationship within a week. You broke up. You flirted with other guys. He talks about you in a bad way. He's got a new girlfriend. You want him back. Blah, blah.

Honey, he's taken you for the sucker that you are. You've both been playing silly childish games, and you've got burnt. He's got into your pants, and now he's in someone else's.

I would stay far away from this guy. Far away. He's not respecting you and you need to respect yourself before everyone says you're the town tramp.

There is a great Aretha Franklin song called "Respect".

Listen to the words - they apply to you.

Nope.. I knew him before that but we just didn't get to meet that much .my brother dated his older sister .
& we dated for about 4 month then we broke 2 months ago.. because I have ignored him & flirted with other guys.we broke he was okay with being friends then last month when I talked to him he was acting weird .like he doesn't want to talk to me .then when he sees me he runs away & acts emotional .
He talks about me to his friends that I am ugly then he takes them back its all weird . Sorry I mixed up some words because I was typing fast yesterday at night .

Thank you stykowski but it don't seem to work .he still doesn't want to talk to me but this Friday I met him I was saying hi to the guys I cought him looking at me.. then passed by didn't want to say hi .so he looked at me & 3 minutes latters he did what he kept doing past weeks leaves .
So I called him & I was like I am sorry I didn't say hi but I thought you don't want me 2.so I was alan stop running away from me ,we agreed to be friends but now when you see me you act weird . He was like I don't like you is that hard to understand & then he says he don't want me to talk to me I already caused enough problems & I don't even know what he's talking about . It was late so I asked if he's sleep he was like No then he was yes I am ,
Like message me on Facebook or call me tmmrw then he was hesitating like nope don't call me tmmrw I got homework or you know what send me a message on Facebook .Also one time I called a friend so he answered we both have incommon friends so she tries to be friends with both of us at the same so this is what I sent him... [[ME]

I TAlked to sazzy she said you took the phone from her by force .
Keep your limits .seriouslly you don't know me to talk to me like that
You never saw the other part of me so seriouslly keep your ed up comments about me being weird or ss at a time that I was depressed & acted a bit weird & you think like that you know me ?
You ing don't ,so just keep away like I said I don't ing care if you hate me
Or don't deal with it .when I break up with a person ,if I was wrong I would apologise & try to make things better by trying to be nice .& if that person don't accept it then ing go to hell .
Sazzy told me you're her best friend so I didn't want to insult you or tell my bro to kick your seriouslly hate me as much as you want but just know it doesn't matter for me if you do or if you insult me because when I take you out of my mind nothing you say will hurt me .

p.s I didn't ing call on your phone so you could talk to me like that .

[Him]
A BIT weird? Look don't talk to me anymore. I didn't take Sazzy's phone by force she gave it to me because she didn't want to see you. Im telling you the truth. Don't get pissed at me. And stop sending me messages really its kind of useless. I read one line and deleat them. No point in writing a lot.



SHE TOLD me she didn't want to see me because she didn't want him to be pissed & I am the one who told her to say that when's there .::S I am sooo confused .

thank you stykowski but it dont seem to work .he still doesnt wanna talk to me but this friday i met him i was saying hi to the guys i cought him looking at me ..then passed by didnt wanna say hi .so he looked at me & 3 mins latters he did what he kept doing past weeks leaves .
so i called him & i was like iam sorry i didnt say hi but i thought you dont want me 2.so i was alan stop running away from me ,we agreed to be friends but now when you see me you act weird . he was like i dont like you is that hard to understand & then he says he dont want me to talk to me i already caused enough problems & i dont even know what he's talking about . it was late so i asked if he's sleep he was like No then he was yes iam ,
like message me on facebook or call me tmmrw then he was hesitating like nope dont call me tmmrw i got homework or you know what send me a message on facebook .Also one time i called a friend so he answered we both have incommon friends so she trys to be friends with both of us at the same so this is what i sent him ...[[ME]

I TAlked to sazzy she said you took the phone from her by force .
keep your limits .seriouslly you dont know me to talk to me like that
you never saw the other part of me so seriouslly keep your ed up comments about me being weird or ss at a time that i was depressed & acted a bit weird & you think like that you know me ?
You ing dont ,so just keep away like i said i dont ing care if you hate me
or dont deal with it .when i break up with a person ,if i was wrong i would apologise & try to make things better by trying to be nice .& if that person dont accept it then ing go to hell .
sazzy told me your her best friend so i didnt want to insult you or tell my bro to kick your seriouslly hate me as much as you want but just know it doesnt matter for me if you do or if you insult me because when i take you out of my mind nothing you say will hurt me .

p.s i didnt ing call on your phone so you could talk to me like that .

[Him]
a BIT weird? Look dont talk to me anymore. I didnt take Sazzy's phone by force she gave it to me because she didnt want to see you. Im telling you the truth. Dont get pissed at me. And stop sending me messages really its kind of useless. I read one line and deleat them. No point in writing a lot.



SHE TOLD me she didnt want to see me because she didnt want him to be pissed & iam the one who told her to say that when's there .::S iam sooo confused .

Er, what? Him, her, she, me, phone... I'm confused.

OKay yesterday we were at a party so he was there I thought he didn't want to talk to me .but suddenly I see him making out with his girlfriend I joked about it with him & he suddenly stopped making out with her & started talking to me .& then a friend got drunk so we told him to go after him.so he hugged his girlfriend fast then this girl & then he hugged me it was like 6 sec even his girlfriend was like staring & I felt good because I missed him & it was a warm hug like he compeltely squeezed me .so he went down the stairs & stopped & I was like are you okay.? then he comes back up & doesn't leave :S.
Anyway we all started dancing again I was talking to his girlfriend then he comes up & bugs in .he touched his girlfriend's hair then he starts playing with my hair too .
Also I broke up with my boyfriend at the party so I talked to him about it he was like kick him in his balls he deserves it .so I don't know if my ex still likes me?! :S :S

Read my previous post.

He's playing silly, childish games and lovin' the attention he's gettin' from you.

Continue playing with him at your own risk. He's trouble.

Well, I'm 16 to start with, so I'm thinking we might be around the same age. Your thing with this guy, that's how my ex acted and I let him get away with it for a while cause I just didn't care but finally I just got feed up with his crap. So I confronted him and turns out he still liked me, so maybe this guy really still likes you and wants to be with you. But your never going to know unless you ask him. One day when you see him just pull him aside and be like "hey, i dont know what your deal is but your playing hot and cold with me. One minute were cool and then next your being a total jerk. What is that about?" So try that and if that doesn't work let me know and we will go from there.

He is bipolar or he has issues or he misses you alott hhahahah lol same thing happened to me...

It sounds to me like he really doesn't like some things about you.
You either need to tell him you have learned from your mistakes and present a new image and he sees it or
You need to leave him alone and move on.
You say he has a girlfriend so why are you after him?

Well Lilah.. it would have worked but he left to his country and I am not going to see him again which sucks & I never got the chance to know his feelings and never got the chance to tell him goodbye which hurts more but thanks... iam trying to be over him now...
You know now my other ex is trying to make me jelouse like he asked me on Facebook who I was dating and I told him someone you don't know then he suddenly turns up today with this girl that was with my other ex that left . So I wasn't jelouse but I was shocked that she's always around my ex bf's which is really weird but what I am 100% sure is that he loves me because we got back together like 4 times and he was always the one coming back and I really liked him but it doesn't matter anymore because I am still in love with that guy he took my heart & its going to be really hard to let go.. but thanks both :)

You guys are right but it don't matter anymore because he left to his country .but thanks I wish I got your advices weeks ago :)