View Full Version : Why is it that when your single you feel alone?
jeepgrl015
May 10, 2009, 01:38 PM
I have been out of a serious relationship for almost 8mths now. All of my friends have moved on either married,engaged or new parents. I am the only one single again, and I have never felt more alone. I feel like I'm going to be single forever. I want to be normal again. I feel like I'm the one being looked at as abnormal. I know its probably all in my mind but I still wish I didn't feel alone. I need help. Is there anyone else who feels like this? Will I always be alone?
talaniman
May 10, 2009, 03:10 PM
What do you do for fun?
Gemini54
May 10, 2009, 06:24 PM
Feeling alone is a matter of perception. People that are married and have many friends can and do feel as alone as you do.
Again, it's the 'my glass if half empty, my glass is half full' analogy.
You can choose to see being single as awful or you can choose to see it as an opportunity to meet people and have a good time. (Believe me, many of those friends of yours that are new parents will be wishing they are single when the baby wakes them for the fourth time during the night!)
There may be a deeper reason for your feelings of distress about being alone, perhaps you know this and that's why you feel you need help. If you feel that you need help, ask for it.
I've found that one of the best ways to alleviate that feeling of 'aloneness' is to get involved with other people. Visit your family, have a meal with friends, go out to a movie, talk to people at the supermarket, your neighbors, your work mates. Just connect with people, take an interest in them and their lives and take the focus off yourself.
You're not alone - we are all connected - you just need to see that it can be so.
IWHO
May 10, 2009, 06:37 PM
I was married for 24 years and felt so alone, I got a divorce. My sister asked me if NOW I felt alone. I said it's diff when you are married and feel alone, and when you ARE alone... I have been separated for 1-1/2 years now... I feel alone at times, but I have also found ways NOT to... do as Gemini suggests... connect with people... also, take this time to find out more about YOURSELF... I had forgotten who I was, what I liked... I am using this time to think about ME...
Clough
May 10, 2009, 11:18 PM
Hi, jeepgrl015!
You've already received some fine answers above!
This may not be exactly what you're looking for, but if you would like, there is an activity that I like to do with people on this site in order to help them be expressive and also feel better about themselves.
If you might like to know what it is and to participate in it, please let me know.
Thanks!
flowerchildfala
Dec 11, 2010, 10:13 PM
I get that feeling as well but I guess maybe try to take up a new hobby and go and meet new people because it helps to know your broadening your socail circle and thus increasing the chances of someone special entering your life!