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husky04
May 5, 2009, 12:11 PM
I have been going no contact for about 2 months now. Lately I have been having some sexual thoughts about her. That I want to hook up with her or something.

I really don't want these thoughts back in my head. I really have no interest in talking to her and know I won't let myself do anything stupid. I just see her around in school and I don't want to have these thoughts.. good thing I'm going to be done with school for good soon. But is there any way to get these thoughts out of my head?

Romefalls19
May 5, 2009, 12:13 PM
Time my friend, it's sad to say but these thoughts are normal but they do go away.

Triysle
May 5, 2009, 12:14 PM
As long as you maintain NC, time and staying active with other things in your life will help you lose those feelings.

Some part of you may always have a bond, and you cannot deny yourself of that. Accept it, but don't let it control you. Don't allow yourself to hope for things that are not going to happen again.

I'm going through a similar situation right now (not sexually but emotionally) and just seeing the person makes it harder. Try to figure out a way to minimize the amount of time you have to see them. Learn to ignore them, learn to not look for them when you enter the hallway or a common area.

It just takes time, but you can recover faster if you acknowledge that you need to let go of a situation that is out of your control.

~ Tee

BobbyVandeyar
May 5, 2009, 12:16 PM
Its normal dude, I remember when I had my last relationship it was indeed hard to get over her. But if you want some real insight, summers almost here, schools almost done, relax, chill, have fun, and when your ready, go meet some new people, in this case a better girl for you lol.

Hope this helps.

husky04
May 5, 2009, 12:23 PM
Thanks guys, I'm sure it will go away. Its only been the last few days, emotionally I'm fine I wouldn't go back ever. For an odd reason its just sexual urges I guess? I don't know.. I have done things sexually with others since the break up. I'm sure ill be just fine, just some weird thoughts/feelings

I wish
May 5, 2009, 01:14 PM
It's just a phase. With time, these thoughts will pass.