I have a daughter with an ex boyfriend almost 13 years ago. We only dated a couple of months and when he dumped me I told him I was pregnant but I told him it wasn't his baby and that if it was I will have an abortion. I ended up having the baby and didn't let him know about her at all. Later, I ended up getting a dna and back and current child support established when my daughter was two years old. When he found out that he indeed had a daughter, he looked me up and wanted to established a relationship with my daughter. I was okay with it but I also wanted to get back with him. He didn't response when I asked him to get back together, but instead got married to another girl shortly after. I was so mad that I didn't allow him to see my daughter anymore. He then went to court to get visitations. I didn't care about that and I would let him see her on days when I felt like it. This cause problems for his marriage and his wife couldn't handle it. After she went away, I started to allow him to see my daughter but only because I thought he would give in and be with me, after a couple years passed he married another girl. My family and I wanted to teach him a lesson and the stupid girl for being with him so not only I didn't allow him to see my daughter I made her tell lies so he can go to jail. But after that plan failed, he and his wife decided to not have anything to do with me or my daughter. It's been almost ten years and I am still angry. I want to get him for child abandonment and other things. What else can I get him in trouble with? I'd like to put him in jail so he can suffer. He moved away too, so how can I ruin him long distance? Oh by the way, he does pay child support so I can't put in jail for that. Too bad huh. :mad:

Well dear, you made a huge mess I'm sorry to say. There is NO way to 'get back at him' or get him put in jail. He has done nothing wrong. You did not tell him about his child until you felt like it. You tried to make your daughter LIE about him to get him thrown in jail.

My advice is to move on. Don't dwell on the past and any hurt feelings.

And try to remember that your daughter depends on YOU to grow and learn proper behavior. You are not setting a good example for her.

Wow, you made your own daughter tell lies to get her father put in jail?
I feel so sorry for you daughter.

He broke up with you and you said you were getting an abortion? How is any of that his fault? He didn't even know the child existed.

I praise him for wanting to be a part of the child's life after you finally told him that she was his.
Sounds like you made his life a living hell so he thought it was in your daughters best interests not to have anything to do with either of you.

Wow! You are a piece of work! You got pregnant, lied to him about the baby, then when he found out and wanted a relationship with your daughter you did everything in your power to make him miserable, including getting your innocent child to lie about him.

What is wrong with you?

No, you can't do anything to him, but he could file charges against you and win!

I feel sorry for your daughter, you've taken your hatred and unhappiness and made it her life. No child should be used this way.

My hope is that he does take you to court and gets custody of this child before you ruin her for life.

You truly are a selfish cow, You lie about having his daughter for two years, you then try and succeed in ruining his first marriage and then try again with his second. This man doesn't love you, and its very clear as to why.

He tried to be a father to his child, you didn't let him, you took away your child's father from her. And you forced her to lie to the police to get an innocent man sent to jail. You are setting a really bad example for her.
You are the Deadbeat parent here, not him

I have to agree with Altenweg above in saying that I hope he takes you to court to get custody, as your daughter would be better off with him.

And you can't get someone done for abandonment of a child if you forced him away.

Excuse me? By what right do you have to call him a deadbeat dad? Everything you have said leads me to believe this is someone who tried to do right by his daughter and that YOU are the one who tried to mess that up!

You are very lucky he didn't try to get custody from you. If I were the judge in this case, I would have awarded him custody and made you pay child support.

As others have said I feel sorry for yout daughter who you are raising to be a lying, vindictive female canine, just like her mother.

Well it would be hard to get back with you since you are married,
At least that is what you said under your other user name
When you posted this
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/parenting/crazy-baby-mama-345776.html

But I know your child needed help so your IP address though Bresnan internet so that has been reported to all the proper authorities so they can contact children's services and other agencies so that you can get all the help you deserve.