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aries_star
May 2, 2009, 01:57 AM
I'm feeling really down at the moment and just wondering if getting it out on here will help at all.

I was with my boyfriend for 4years, but I wasn't happy and thought it best to get out of the relationship while I was still young and could move on. So About 2months ago I moved from my 2bedroom house with my boyfriend and back in with my parents. I have a mortgage with me ex and am finding it really difficult in trying to sort all that mess out.
It's hard getting over someone even though it was my choice to leave, it wasn't because I didn't love him, it was because we didn't want the same things in the future and I thought he didn't love me the way I loved him.

I have a good job that I enjoy, and I am dating someone who I like. But the only problem is that when I'm not in work, or out on a date I feel really depressed. I haven't got any friends and all I do is lock myself in my bedroom and cry all night. My family are great but they don't realise how down I feel. I just hate feeling like this and wish there was just a quick fix solution. Im young, I want to go out and enjoy myself but with very little confidence and no friends I'm finding it really difficult.

Anyway sorry for rambling on, just thought it might help me get it out. Xx

Dr Retclass
May 2, 2009, 02:51 AM
Sometimes it's just good to vent. Don't worry about finding too many friends right now. If you can find just one good friend to completely share yourself with and have fun in the process that is a good way to start. I haven't seen Betty Boop in awhile, so it was neat to see her near your screen name. That made me smile. Take care. James

Bluerose
May 2, 2009, 04:03 AM
Can BF aford to take on your half of the morgauge or buy your half of the property? I think you'll feel beter if you can resolve some of that responsibility. In the meantime talking to your doctor about the breakup and feeling down might help too.

aries_star
May 2, 2009, 05:22 AM
Bluerose- no my ex boyfriend can't afford to buy me half and it's difficult trying to sell at the moment. I would consider buying him out but unfortunetly the house his next door to his mother so I don't think it would be such a good idea :(

The problem is that the only few friends I do have have babies and partners so their always busy ans don't seem to have time for me :(

Thanks for the replies though, makes me feel a bit better.

Bluerose
May 2, 2009, 05:36 AM
Sorry I couldn’t be of more help. Paying for a mortgage when you don’t even live in the property is tough but there will come a time when you have to deal with it. Hopefully by then it will turn out be nice little investment. Just don’t sign anything without talking to a solicitor. Think about having a chat with your doctor about feeling down sh/e can give you something to help you over the worst of it. Even friends with babies can be good friends and are often in need of a little support and a helping hand. Why not get a little more involved with those friends. You might even make new friends through those friends. Take care of you and good luck with everything.