I have a lad who is 16 and keeps looking at not very good pic of girls and porn on the net... I know he is at that age. But last year my son had some porn on his phone when he was 15 and my 8year old daughters saw it... but what I did not know that my daughter had memntioned somethink to her teacher what she had saw on her brothers phone.. and a week laster I has social service wanting to come to my house to see if my daughter was OK after the teacher was saying that he thought that she was getting abused.. as you can imagine I was horrified!! So I had very strong words with my some and told him how much trouble he had caused by having picture on his phone and I asked him notg to do it again.. BUT he has gone and done the same thing again I asked ti use his phone and he had porn on there again.. thank god this time my little girls did not see it this time.. there is no talking any sense into him it seams to go in one ear and the oput of the other.. I don't really want to see that kind of filth in my home anyway.. nor do I want my girls to see it.. any reply would be very gratefull I am at the end of my teather with him I really don't know what to do he keeps hidding the stuff he has been on on the internet or deleting it before I have had a chance to see what he has been on.. if anyone can help that would be fantastic.. one very distraught mother.

Take away his cell phone. Control his computer use. Would that help?

Set the content filters on his computer and take away the cell phone! What do kids need them for anyway? If you need to, take away his computer. Haven't you thought of any of this yet? Hello!

Take away his cell phone. Control his computer use. Would that help?

I have he dose not have a phone anymore I have the laptop computor but he hates it when I say he cannot go on it unless I am in the room but that still dose not stop him from trying to get on to these site..

I have he dose not have a phone anymore i have the laptop computor but he hates it when i say he cannot go on it unless i am in the room but that still dose not stop him from trying to get on to these site..

So what if he hates it, I hated eating broccoli.
Take away the laptop mom!

Set the content filters on his computer and take away the cell phone! What do kids need them for anyway? If you need to, take away his computer. Haven't you thought of any of this yet? Hello!I am not stupid so doont be a fool with me!! But it don't stop him from trying.. some people we are not all stupid

I am not stupid so doont be a fool with me!!!! but it dont stop him from trying.. some people we are not all stupid

Then why are you asking foolish questions if you already know the answers?

I am not stupid so doont be a fool with me!!!! but it dont stop him from trying.. some people we are not all stupid
If he has no phone and no computer, how can he try?

So what if he hates it, I hated eating broccoli.
Take away the laptop mom!he still tries to get on it...

Computers come with parental control and as for his cellphone why does he have internet on it?
Contact the cell provider and have them take off any and all service other than the ability to call.
If he insist on such activity take away his phone and password the computer.

Boys will be boys but he needs to understand
His curiosity almost caused a serious issue.

Either respect your wishes or take it all away.

Lock it up.

If he has no phone and no computer, how can he try?
When I am out he tries to get on the laptop

when i am out he tries to get on the laptop
Protect it with a password.

he still tries to get on it...

Well then take it away totally. What is so hard about that?

Can't we just get along...
Q&A no judging, we are a great fun site lets not tarnish that.

cant we just get along......
Q&A no judging, we are a great fun site lets not tarnish that.

What? She asked for an answer, she's getting one. Nothing off track at all.

No not off track, but comments have been supplied from both sides causing this thread to escalate into something other than a helpful answer to the OP.

no not off track, but comments have been supplied from both sides causing this thread to escalate into something other than a helpful answer to the OP.

I don't see it getting more helpful than that bro. Didn't I sugar coat it enough? She knows what to do, but lacks the will to act. We're talking about kids for Christ sake.

Lock it up.



Lmao!!

Sorry, I miss understood when I seen this post by Wondergirl.
After reading a post by you and OP I felt things getting warm, then I saw "lock it up"
I thought holy crap.


Shutting up now. [ my bad]

lmao!!!
Lock up the computer.

There are pron blockers and of course there are pass word to protect the entire computer.

And in the end, a parent grounds and does not allow the chlld to do certain things

He will do whatever you let him get away with. He gets upset that he can only get on with you in the room? Tough. Step up.

Whose name is that phone in? If it is in your name and one of those pics ends up being a classmate (under 18) you can be charged with having child pornography.

When social services comes to your house because of it that is grounds to take away the internet. Period. You're the parent hold him accountable.

Take away the cell phone, get rid of the cable, and get rid of the internet.

Why has he had this urge to search for this stuff and to have it on his phone.

Influences from home maybe??

When I was 15 I had centerfolds attached to my shades... the one you pull on and they roll up.

Lol

But searching for major porn online and porn on the cellphone, that's too much.
Either something is up at home to cause this or he is trying to prove/show off w/ the guys at school.

You might want to get more involved w/ him and check his friends out and talk to their mothers to see if anything similar has happened w/ their kid/kids.

The only way he is going to learn is by you taking his privileges away. Having a cell phone is not a right, it's a privilege. Using the internet is a privilege. Taking those away lets him know that he's done something wrong, and you're not going to stand for it. And it will keep your girls from having to see any of that again

Take away the cell phone, get rid of the cable, and get rid of the internet.

Why has he had this urge to search for this stuff and to have it on his phone.

Influences from home maybe???

That's a really unhelpful thing to imply/ask.

We all know how predominant and accessible porn is these days. Adults have huge problems with on-line porn, so why wouldn't an immature 16 year old? Some kids just get obsessed by the stimulation and can't stop - he's 16, the hormones are raging and the testosterone is kicking in. (scary) He's also a tech savvy kid who is able to 'pull the wool' over his very worried mum's eyes.

A few things that distraught mum could do:

1. Get some technical advice on how to block the porn on the computer and the phone and put in passwords as well.

2. Tell him he's on probation - he needs to go to counselling and limit his social activities until he takes responsibility for his actions.

3. Get him involved in some physical activity - camping, sport, odd jobs, a part time job. Anything that deflects his attention from the porn, gets him active and engaged in other activities.

4. Get his dad involved, if he's around.

5. Try not to be too punitive around this issue, but make it really clear that it's utterly inappropriate.

Be consistent in your messages and try not to worry too much. Let us know how you go.

Just show him your and then let him lick it then he will be good

I am just joking tell him he is grounded

Of course it goes in through one year and out the other, he's 16! If he's going to look at porn he is going to find some way to do it. I would suggest taking away his cellphone and getting rid of his internet on his phone unless he's willing to pay the charges? And put locks onto the computer that prevent certain searches. You have to realize he is entering the age in which stuff like this Is going to be entering his life and maybe you and your husband should have a serious sex talk with him if you haven't already, this could possibly freak him out a little bit and steer him away from inappropriate searches for awhile.

When my 13 year old brother was caught searching porn not only did he get a good talking to but my parents and most of their friends all would tease him about it and he would get extremely embarrassed (and he should be) , which certainly kept him away from using the computer/cellphone for that kind of use.

I have he dose not have a phone anymore i have the laptop computor but he hates it when i say he cannot go on it unless i am in the room but that still dose not stop him from trying to get on to these site..

So you put your foot down and if you had been doing that he would not think he could get away with this behavior.

You put you foot down,unplug the computer and that is that.

If he becomes aggressive with you call the police he needs a wake up call,

If he gets arrested for child pornography he will be in a world of crap.
So its time you decided that he is not the boss and do some tough love and unplug him before he gets into serious trouble.
That's just my opinion.

If he gets arrested for child pornography he will be in a world of crap.
Thats just my opinion.

Just because he is 16 does not mean he would be looking at child pornography. From previous experience 16 year olds are generally more interested in the normal B.B.B (Big Boobed and Blonde)

Hey hey don't do smthg rash... everything including taking away his phone will make things worse for the both of you... see first of all get him into some sports or get him into some hobbies he'd like... and most probably there is a reason behind it like some girl dumped him or smthg... or he's just a porn addict... for that get help like talk to his teachers about his performance... ie just start
"showing" interest in his life by that I mean a frndly interest not a mommy interest... cause its not just hazardous for your little girl its hazardous and disastrous for him.
The first thing you should do is stop acting miserable and start taking the thing as a menial task,it'll be hard but do give it a try.

Just because he is 16 does not mean he would be looking at child pornography. From previous experience 16 year olds are generally more interested in the normal B.B.B (Big Boobed and Blonde)

Believe me he is looking at girls his age or younger and we need to educate these girls as well.
Point is ,I bet he is looking at young girls ,his age and under the age of 18,there's trouble.
Assumptions aside,he could be in a lot of trouble and Mom too if there is porn on a computer in her home.

I think social services would be looking for a needle in a haystack if they thought they could prosecute every teenage boy that looks at porn.

We know that young teenage girls, and girls not yet teenagers think it's a hoot to post pics of themselves online, and to their phones. Some will say they do not have any idea of the consequences, and I think unless they are in a coma in a snowbank in Alaska, they most certainly do know what they are doing.

We are so tied up in the superficial use of these electronic entertainment toys, that we fail again and again to address the why's of this behaviour, when unsupervised use gets out of control and trouble happens.

Any parent who is surprised at what is on their kids computer should be ashamed of themselves. Any parent who allows unlimited use of a cell phone, particularly one with picture taking features, and no cap on texting, also needs to step up and take responsibility when they find porn or anything else innapropriate or suspicious. The cell phone is also used by adults to lure children, as is the computer.

For a 16 year old that does not seem to get that what he is doing is innapropriate, needs to have his toys taken away. No cell phone, no internet access. After that, the parents need to get into counselling with a counsellor who is skilled enough to know how to teach them how to apply appropriate discipline, guidance, and necessary skills to parent affectively.

Just my opinion here, but if this particular 16 year old kid 'keeps looking up porn and girls on the internet', then there is a bigger problem with parents who are unable to stop him.

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Twink24 disagrees: 16 year olds don't want to look at girls their own age because there really isn't anything for them TO look at. All they want are big boobed older 18, 19, and 20 year olds, honestly! I have a brother turning 16 next month, I do know this kind of stuf.

And I have two sons who were teens not too long ago and I saw what their teenage friends were sending them on web cams.We disagree,it is a matter of opinion and not deserving of a reddie!
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