I can't stop thinking about sex. I have a boyfriend and he doesn't seem like he is getting the job done. I as for sex all the time but it seems like I only get it when he wants it. I know that it wrong but I sometimes look at porn. I can't stop think about this and I want sex. I think that I want to lay around some days and have sex the way I want it. My boyfriend is not into sex like me. I don't want to go and find someone to get the job done but I'm not happy. What do I do?

Answer from a spiritual way:

Our birth has resulted from sex. Hence, no once can escape from sex. But... do the following: At least, for 5 minutes in a day... sit calm & quitely and watch on your breath... and say... this is my life... this is my life... after few days; you will realise... what your life relally. I have heard about some personalities those who enjoyed sex only when really they wanted to give birth to a child... other times they do nothing... do not get anger on my answer.

You TALK to him about it.

Not being on the same page and working together to compromise about your sex life WILL ruin your relationship.

Maybe you need to find a new boyfriend.

Find the right guy that isn't so selfish then its not going to occupy your mind so much because you might actually get what you want sometimes.

We seem to fixate on wanting the very exact things we are not getting. If you get it the desire to have it goes down. Then you won't find yourself obsessing over it.

First, from the Prior question, you need to see a doctor BEFORE you have sex any more! Seriously! If you have an STD, you are Spreading it.
Next, if he isn't having sex with you as much as you want, is your relationship based on sex alone? I sure hope not.

Ho Old are you?

I think it is time to shop around for a new man instead of staying with him.
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I think it's totally normal to have sex on your mind a lot. The first thing you have to do is realize that you are in control of your mind and your body. Don't feel or act helpless about feeling the need for sex. There's lots you can do to pleasure yourself and ease those anxious needs. Sex is about 20% body and 80% mind... so examine what your fantasies are and how you can get those fantasies met. It'd be better if you'd open up to your boyfriend about what you really want sexually, or you'll end up disappointed and won't give him a fair shot in your relationship. Doesn't sound like you have a lot to lose.

When you say 'getting the job done'... does that mean you're not having an orgasm? Or you're still not satisfied after being satisfied? Or you just want more sex? Whatever the case may be, I think you have to take responsibility to satisfy yourself, without compromising your own morals or standards... whatever they may be.

You should talk to him about it. Because he might like it too, but is just shy to initiate the conversation.

It's not really normal to only have sex on your mind and very little to nothing else. There are other things to life... including love and many other hobbies, plus learning and activities. Not saying sex is bad in the least, it's wonderful.. but it shouldn't be your only focus, or close to primary and to be honest, it will not get you far in life if it's your only focus. You will end up stuck as an old fogey with sex on the brain and still wondering why you haven't achieved anything. Seek therapy if all you think about is sex 24/7.. It's a wiring problem.

This was asked in 2009 - the thread is long dead.

There are more recent threads which could use some attention.