I am a 36 year old female who is in my 2nd marriage. Different from my 1st marriage, which was full of physical abuse, this marriage involves my 4 year old son. It was so easy to get out of my first marriage because we really had nothing to fight over (no house, no cars, no land, no children, etc.), but this marriage I think is going to be a little bit more difficult and I really need some advice on how to go about proceeding with the divorce. Please keep in mind that one of the reasons that I want a divorce is because there is no communication at all between my husband and I without him getting mad at what I have to say which ends up in us arguing. I honestly have fallen out of love with him, I find myself hating to go home because he is there, I have changed a good 1st shift job to go to 3rd shift so that I would not see him all of the time. Please someone tell me what steps I need to take to make sure that my son is not hurt through all of this and the steps that I need to take to end this marriage.

Sheilak, you need to find a good lawyer and discuss all of your options with him regarding your son, support payments, separation of property, etc. to make sure you get all that is coming to you. It won't be easy, especially for your son. He won't understand but that is what you will have to cope with later on.

I am sorry you find yourself in this situation and if there is nothing else you can do, can't talk, can't reason, then the only thing is to get out with yourself esteem in tact. I wish you all the best.

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