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speedemon13
Apr 30, 2009, 12:16 PM
I went out with my ex for 2 months. Her parents found out we were dating and fordid the relationship. She said she still loved me, and we would have to wait to college to start dating again. I was OK with this, since we are both seniors in high school. But lately, I developed a feeling that she might of have feelings for one of my friends. She was always talking about him. One day she sat next to him, instead of me. And recently I caught them cuddling in the hallway. I after I saw that, I ignored her for the rest of the day. That night I called her, and I asked her what was going on between them. She said, "Nothing." and that she was just playing around. I said, "ok i must be overreacting." She asked me if I was OK, I said I was fine. After that I thought everything would be fine, since she didn't seem mad on the phone. But the next day, I tried talking to her, and she just ignored me. I asked her, "why aren't you talking to me?" She answered, "what you said on the phone was stupid." I didn't understand why it was stupid, I only asked because I was worried about our relationship. I tried talk to her, but she doesn't want to listen to me. I still love her, and I don't know what to do, please help

HistorianChick
Apr 30, 2009, 12:20 PM
Has the fact that her parents forbid the relationship changed since you broke up?

Her parents don't want their daughter dating you. I'm sorry to say, but you shouldn't be hoping for anything in the future with her.

Believe me. Going against parents for a relationship NEVER works. I tried. It only ended in heartbreak.

I'm sorry that you're seeing this girl go after your friend. That hurts.

If you start to move on, you'll realize that you have an infinite number of possibilities in front of you - just waiting around the corner. Don't get all caught up in the drama of what's going on around you.

College will be a whole new chapter in your life. :)

speedemon13
Apr 30, 2009, 12:23 PM
Wait, I'm not dating her now. When her parents said we couldn't date, we stopped dating. But she said she still love me, so I decided to wait till college. I still want to date her in college, I can't do that if she won't talk to me

spitvenom
Apr 30, 2009, 12:24 PM
How long do you have until you go to college?

speedemon13
Apr 30, 2009, 12:26 PM
Has the fact that her parents forbid the relationship changed since you broke up?


No it hasn't. She said she still loved me, and that her parents said we can continue dating in college.

HistorianChick
Apr 30, 2009, 12:27 PM
Are her parents going to changer their minds after you all get to college?

Unfortunately, this could be a dead end street.

I hate to say it, but it sounds like she is trying to "see what's out there" and isn't as committed to a future relationship as you are... not to mention, the stress that she would face by going against her parents.

It's just something to think about...

speedemon13
Apr 30, 2009, 12:27 PM
How long do you have until you go to college?

A few months.
We will be graduating from high school in June, and starting college in the fall.
Were both going to the same college

HistorianChick
Apr 30, 2009, 12:28 PM
no it hasnt. she said she still loved me, and that her parents said we can continue dating in college.

OH! Ok, so, it's just a "not now" thing for them... that really changes the story...

spitvenom
Apr 30, 2009, 12:29 PM
Oh OK I thought you were a freshman or something. Is she not allowed to date anyone until she goes to college or just you?

speedemon13
Apr 30, 2009, 12:35 PM
Lol never mind she's talking to me now

speedemon13
Apr 30, 2009, 12:36 PM
She's not allowed. I can.
But I decided to wait