Well I'm seeing this guy a few months, and were up for everything, he wants to have a full on 3 sum. Lately I've been finding girls atractive,(im not gay just curious) so I agreed, but in a 3 sum someone gets more left out ye? He wants to have it with his ex girlfriend, so I'm afraid I'm going to be left to the side haha while they go at it.Does anyone have experience in this?

MMM sounds more like it is for his pleasure rather than to satisfy your curiosity-I'd say watch this situation, YOU are going to be left out not just during the act, but I think forever once he gets a taste for her again...

Why did he break up with her?

I'd suggest a threesome with another guy (of your choosing-FIRST, then a girl of your choosing next) then see if he is still interested in doing the ex-gf with you...

I think you may discover his real intentions-sorry about that.

Had to spread the rep but I agree with xrayman. I'd want to see the look on his face when you asked for a threesome with YOUR ex.

Absolutely do not do this.

You will not have a boyfriend if you do.

Hi, synnen, I agree, but does she really need a fellow like this ! She is well rid of him.

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The sum of three plus what? ;) Had to say it!

It's not a good idea. Obviously he's still attracted to his ex, this will end badly, and yes, you will be left out.

Break up with this jerk, it's time to move on.

All right thanks a lot guys :)

I'm begnning to think it's the ex-gf's idea and not his when you really think this thing through - otherwise why would she have anything to do with him?? Ditch the bum. You can do better than him anyway.

I have just switched on my "I-Smell-a-Rat-O-Meter" and it's off-scale, I really think he and the ex-gf are looking to hook-up "legitimately" while you are in bed with them.

My Creep-O-Meter is now off-scale-time to find another BF.

I think it's a case of he and his ex wanting to fulfill a fantasy they didn't have the nerve to do when attached. It makes sense that they feel they can now accomplish it this way, by having a 3-some. Yes, creepy, I think so too.

Ask him to have a threesome with your ex first. Bet he changes his mind.
I agree with everyone here in saying he is not worth your time.. that is just something you don't ask your girlfriend to do!

It seems like you might be doing this for all the wrong reasons. You don't have to do anything you don't want to and always follow your instincts.

He wants a threesome just to sleep with his ex. I would never, I mean never ever have a threesome an ex.

So don't open this door and if he gets mad then hey your better off without him.

Simply put...

This is wrong on so many levels.

I've had several threesomes in my life with two women.

But with that said, none of them were ever seriously under consideration for marriage in my case. Thus some of the other issues that can come up never did.

So this is the same personal trainer that cannot reveal he is seeing you?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/woman-have-stronger-feelings-344034.html

And the same guy that isn't getting you over the top?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-sexuality/great-sex-but-no-orgasims-344052.html

Tell him to forget about the threesome.

Tell him to get down on his knees and figure out how to please you.

You say he "knows what he is doing"... sure... I'm sure he is more experienced and might be getting you closer... but my experience is a woman might have to work hard to find what her needs are, and this is the time to explore for yourself...

Forget the threesome. If you want to date a girl, date a girl. Fine.

But the threesome is probably going to distract you... unless they both are focused on you... and I'm guessing he isn't going to be... you will have yet another experience that isn't quite up to what you deserve or need.

If you can't spell "3 Sum" you are probably not ready for a threesome.
(Sorry, couldn't resist.)

Anyway, let's look at the pros and the cons:

Pros:
You get to try something new.

Cons:
He gets to fool around with his ex
He gets to show he doesn't respect you
He gets off while you hope for the same
He knows you guys are not serious. You realize it AFTER
The ex doesn't like you
You are not bisexual and feel lost
You were just curious but you now have 2 exes to deal with
(him and her)
You get talked about behind our back for servicing both of them

It's your call, but the cons seem to be winning right now...

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I think it is a bad idea it will complicate things and it may stir up things between him and his ex

Ask him why it has to be two women, two men and a women make three also.

So he would not object to having sex with another man for a threesome if he expects you to do the same.

??

Still wrong in too many ways, agreed.

In my opinion threesomes should only ever be attempted if you are single, or have had an open relationship for a while and are comfortable with that lifestyle.
Wanting to involve his ex in this shows that he clearly still desires her at least on a sexual level.

This would be hard enough for a couple assuming the third wheel DIDN'T have a relationship at any point with one party. THey almost have to be either near strangers or really, and I mean REALLY close friends. Anything in the middle is likely to blow up at some point. But like was mentioned above... tell him if he gets this you want a threesome with two guys and he has to actively participate with them as well.


Bet that slams on the brakes real fast.

I'm telling you right now, if a guy I was dating wanted ME to have a threesome with HIS ex, he'd be gone before the sentence hit the floor. No lie. He wants permission to cheat? I don't think so!

In my opinion threesomes should only ever be attempted if you are single, or have had an open relationship for a while and are comfortable with that lifestyle.
Wanting to involve his ex in this shows that he clearly still desires her at least on a sexual level.

I don't think you have to be single to have a threesome.
Usually it is a couple and a third single person.
You don't have to have an 'open' relationship either, so long as there is trust there.

It should only be done in a very trusting relationship and never with an EX!

Altenweg agrees: Something you want to tell us Shaz? ;)
Lol I admit to having a foursome :o me, my partner and our best mates (who are married)
We discussed the rules extensively which is why it never got awkward (and trust me there were a lot of rules! Lol)

Fuzzball_Kara agrees: Good advice. Interesting adventure I bet that was.:D

Lol yeah, it's not something I would rush out and do again straight away but it wasn't half bad either ;) :)

I've had threesomes before with my boyfriend but only with girls not with other guys. I never have been left out because we put down ground rules before anything ever happened. Though I would have to say the threesomes were my idea origionally and never included anyone's ex. Bringing ex's into new relationships is poison in my opinion