everythingmd
Apr 29, 2009, 01:58 PM
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years (lived together for 1). It's an amazing relationship, we talk all the time and we are both very honest, caring, affectionate, etc. towards each other.
I have always thought that he is an incredible kisser/lover. Currently, we have sex at least 6 times a week (we initiate equally) and it definitely isn't getting old.
Recently, however, I've been having a problem... When I met him two years ago, just thinking about kissing him would get me turned on. But now, even if we're full on making-out, or if he's doing things to me, I don't get "aroused". Not even just a little. If I do, it'll be a lot, but it usually happens 20 minutes AFTER we have sex. So even though I have a high libido, I have a tough time getting "turned on".
Thanks to the artificial stuff, we can have great sex, but afterwards, he always says, "Clearly I don't do it anymore if we have to use lube". I keep assuring him that I enjoy myself (which is true) and I'm probably having this problem because of some random thing (my favorite go-to excuse is, "Oh, it's probably because I'm dehydrated"). So far, it hasn't negatively affected our sex life, but I worry that it soon will... No guy wants to feel like they aren't pleasing their girlfriend.
I'm only 22, so I don't know what's wrong with me... It's very frustrating Is there something physically or mentally wrong with me? How do I get over it? Has this ever happened to any of you? How else do I reassure him that it "isn't him, it's me"?
Any help would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!
I have always thought that he is an incredible kisser/lover. Currently, we have sex at least 6 times a week (we initiate equally) and it definitely isn't getting old.
Recently, however, I've been having a problem... When I met him two years ago, just thinking about kissing him would get me turned on. But now, even if we're full on making-out, or if he's doing things to me, I don't get "aroused". Not even just a little. If I do, it'll be a lot, but it usually happens 20 minutes AFTER we have sex. So even though I have a high libido, I have a tough time getting "turned on".
Thanks to the artificial stuff, we can have great sex, but afterwards, he always says, "Clearly I don't do it anymore if we have to use lube". I keep assuring him that I enjoy myself (which is true) and I'm probably having this problem because of some random thing (my favorite go-to excuse is, "Oh, it's probably because I'm dehydrated"). So far, it hasn't negatively affected our sex life, but I worry that it soon will... No guy wants to feel like they aren't pleasing their girlfriend.
I'm only 22, so I don't know what's wrong with me... It's very frustrating Is there something physically or mentally wrong with me? How do I get over it? Has this ever happened to any of you? How else do I reassure him that it "isn't him, it's me"?
Any help would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!