I've been seeing this girl I met through a co- worker that was dating her. After a few months of them breaking up (which was totally involuntary: parents got in the way), we started seeing each other. (we are not dating)

We have been seeing each other now for about 4 months now and she still hangs out with him and swears nothing goes on. I was o.k with that... now tonight she told me that he kissed her and she said "" then let it continue. I recently introduced her to some other friends and she says she thinks one of them is cute but she would never do anything with him.. but obviously I have my doubts. She also says that if she had to pick between me and the other two, hands down it would be me. But she doesn't want to bring it out in the open because it wouldn't be fair to me that she has feelings for her ex and can't be with him, and likes one of my other friends...

I really like this girl and she is unsure. What should I do? I feel lost and I told her I don't want to wait forever to make up her mind (we have slept together)

Well dear, to start with,, I am pretty sure this is going no where,, I mean you say she has feelings for her ex,, well, she is not committed to you,, how can you be sure that she likes you.. being with you, kissing, sleeping together, doesn't mean she likes u,, may be she likes spending time with you,,
First, answer yourself, do you see a future with her.. if you do, check if she feels the same way as you do,, (she shouldn have feelings for her ex in this case or on a new person), only then commit to it,,

Here goes what you should do in one word "leave".

Quit while your happen because your only going get hurt.

If you stay with her your going be second guessing everything all the time.

Trust is out the door because she crossed the line when she kissed her ex that she isn't over. Now she got her eyes on someone else and who knows what she might now. This girl has no self control and only cares about her wants and needs-that is called being selfish.

There are so many red flags here so don't ignore them. Don't let your common sense interfere with your common sense.

Food for thought: Never get involve with someone that isn't over their ex. Major no no!

Sounds like she's not ready to settle down with only one guy. She's keeping her options open. If you like her, I think it's time to for you to back away. You're just going to get hurt.

Like Liz28 said, she's obviously not over her ex yet, so you need to keep giving her space.

Thanks a lot guys uve been very helpful!