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dw1189
Apr 27, 2009, 06:13 PM
OK so I've been dating this guy for almost 3 months. Everything was going great and we were really happy. He use to tell me all this sweet stuff and we would have so much fun just hanging out in my room (I live at school) doing nothing. A couple of weeks ago, I've noticed that he started to change. He doesn't say anything sweet anymore, we haven't had sex or any like that in over a month. When he comes over, all he seems to do is just sleep and eat, granted he is in season but he naps before he comes over. He now seems to move all the way over to the other side of the bed so he doesn't touch me and doesn't seem to want to cuddle. Its almost like were just friends and not in a relationship. I feel like I don't make him happy anymore. What does this mean? I am playing on talking to him tomorrow but I'm scared of what he might say. I'm not the kind of person who talks about their emotions. Any help as to how I should approach the subject?
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ylaira
Apr 27, 2009, 07:18 PM
im not the kind of person who talks about their emotions. any help as to how i should approach the subject?
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Casually ask " Hey, I noticed you seemed distant lately. Is there anything I should know about?" If he said "Everything is okay. Nothing to worry about." Believe it. Besides it's too early to demand constant affection. You should just be having fun and never mind these stage.

If you want to make a romantic relationships work, you must learn how to express yourself. I don't mean being a drama queen. Neither you or him is mind reader so you must communicate and make sure you're both in the same page.

chuff
Apr 27, 2009, 07:18 PM
It sounds like he's lost interest. You are doing the right thing by asking him.

Gemini54
Apr 27, 2009, 07:42 PM
You've just got to talk to him. It may well be nothing to do with you, but how do you know unless you ask? And if you don't like what he says - well, at least you know and you can take it from there. Life's like that, sometimes you just have to take a deep breath and do it.

talaniman
Apr 28, 2009, 08:07 AM
Talk to him!

artlady
Apr 28, 2009, 08:14 AM
If you are not the type of person who talks about feelings ,you will always be in this sort of dilemma ,if not in this relationship than in others.
Communication is the vital link that makes a relationship.

Confront your fear about sharing your emotions.The worst that can happen is that you find out the truth.Isn't is better to know than NOT?

I wish
Apr 28, 2009, 08:43 AM
Repitition can't hurt.

You need to talk to him about your feelings. Communication is the key.

dw1189
Apr 28, 2009, 10:36 PM
We broke up. He said he didn't have time for a girlfriend right now in his life and that I did nothing wrong. "i just can't do this right now. I just don't have [the] time to commit to a relationship rite now. And its not fair to you to just drag along the way. I'm sorry... I still want to be able to talk to you and be good friends. I just hope that you understand that you did nothing wrong... I just have many things going on in my life rite now to balance a girlfriend in with all of it... its not that things really went wrong. Its just for the past week or so that I realized that its too much to have a girlfriend rite now." p.s. he didn't have time to call or meet in person, this was over txting

Romefalls19
Apr 29, 2009, 05:19 AM
Yea, break ups through texting are a cowardly way out, sadly all you can do is accept this decision and move on. Try going no contact and fill your time with hobbies and school