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200709
Apr 27, 2009, 05:41 AM
Hi my names yolanda anyway I met this guy on a chat line a couple of weeks ago he's in his 30s and he is in the middle of getting a divorce but anyway he calls me telling me he likes talking to me and that he misses me.. then all of a sudden he doesn't call me for a couple of days I try calling him but he has his phone off also he says he has a little bit of feelings for me do you think we have a chance together

liz28
Apr 27, 2009, 07:09 AM
First, I wouldn't date anyone that isn't divorce. I don't care if he is going through one it has to be final because I even consider dating him.

Now I assume that two of you have met and is just dating. I also assume that he is hot and cold because he is going through a divorce if he isn't dating someone else.

Also, I would be leary of him especially since he told you he is developing feelings for you, too soon. You don't want to end up being someone rebound especially since he is going through what he is going through.

I wouldn't expect too much from here and this includes a relationship. I think your better off dating someone that is available and not going a divorce.

I wish
Apr 27, 2009, 07:16 AM
Have to spread rep.

I agree with Liz28. There is a huge RED FLAG here.

This guy in the process of possibibly going through a divorce, but there is no way for you to know for certain since it's all online.

He's in a very complicated situation as it is, there's no reason for you to make it even more complicated for him.

If he wants to talk to you, he will find you. Otherwise, there is no reason for you to throw yourself at him and become the girl he cheats with or rebound.

Krazi
Apr 27, 2009, 07:19 AM
DING DING DING... RED FLAG
I have a feeling your a lot younger than he is.
He is married and he says he is getting a divorce, how can you believe that?

You met him online "couple weeks ago" and he tells you he misses you...

Run!

This guy is either "wanting cake and eat it to"

Or...

He maybe an "online predator"

I betting it's the first choice.
If you want a relationship w/ someone then let it be with someone in your town not online.

pathisfer
Apr 27, 2009, 07:40 AM
You sound very trusting to me and are probably investing too much into someone you don't know. People going through a divorce are dealing with heavy issues and men especially will find rebound relationships to get them through it which isn't good for you! He'll use your emotions until he gets back on his feet and then meet someone else.
You just met him and you already want a chance with him- that signals very low standards on your part and signals to him a willingness to be taken advantage of.
His phone being turned off for blocks of time is also another red flag- it's possible he's not being upfront about getting a divorce. I'd also be very suspect of someone talking about feelings already when you aren't even dating or haven't even met.

sammeh182
Apr 27, 2009, 07:45 AM
I would let him get his divorce sorted and have himself sort himself out before Id let anything happen,if it is meant to be then it doesn't matter how long you leave it I think