I think I like this girl (im a girl) she was my best friend but we got in a fight, that fight broke my heart! I did dream of her, but not wrongly... I never really wanted to kiss her or do anything else with her... but I felt protective of her, and I didn't want her dating anyone else... I wanted her. But I also like this guy allot! But the same, I don't want to kiss him or anything... but is it still bi-sexual?:confused:

You are talking about another girl then you switch it to him at the end.?
IF you have no sexual desire and do not want to kiss her or anything then it isn't bi
It sounds like a simple case of jealousy.

You are talking about another girl then you switch it to him at the end. ???
IF you have no sexual desire and do not want to kiss her or anything then it isn't bi
It sounds like a simple case of jealousy.

That's what I was thinking, it sounds like a little jealously, not wanting her to see any guys doesn't necessarily mean you are sexually attracted to the person.
I can admit that I was very bitter about my friends seeing other guys at school, but I wa jealous of them.
Now, I don't regret not dating while I was still at school, after seeing how badly all of my friends took their break-ups (which in high school is inevitable) I'm glad I waited until I was older :)

I don't have sexual desires for either her or him. I just really like him! And I think I might really like her!

Maybe you are a little bi-curious. If some will agree to that being such a thing. Do you fantasize about being with a woman or anything of the sort?

i dont have sexual desires for either her or him. i just really like him! and i think i might really like her!

Well if you really like him then of course you wouldn't want her to see him!

I agree with Adam, at a young age quite a few girls (and some guys) attentions are drawn to the opposite sex, it's just curiosity. Have you ever looked at a mens magazine or photos or girls and thought of them in a sexual way or just thought "oh she's pretty" because even I can admire other girls being pretty or sexy and I'm very much straight.

I'm not sure, I like her in the same kind of way that I like him.

I would say no, most likely it is more a matter that you are jealous of friends spending too much time with others

Mmk

How old are you also? Or is your question answered?

No its not.. I'm 13... like I don't like anyone in a sexual way at all not guys, not girls. I REALLY like this boy, I like everything about him... and I like her too... in the same kind of way.

Very close girl friendships can feel emotionally like romantic relationships with guys BUT there is NO sex involved or desired.

I would say that you are probably just confused at such a young age. It is hard to say what to do for a young girl your age, maybe perhaps you should just wait your feelings out and see what develops.

Well, I've have thoughts about it since I was 12... and she just left me about 2 weeks ago... and it broke me... a feeling I never felt before... I got rejected by the guy I like in November... but even that didn't hurt as bad as fighting with her... it was a completely empty feeling, I wanted to die, I cryed whenever I got the chance. I LOVED her. And I WANT her!

It is normal for us to feel this way about a friend we spend a lot of time with. We put so much of ourselves in a friendship and when we fight it hurts. We feel alone and abandoned.

I don't think its jealousy, it sounds your feeling are real for you!


PS, you probably just have a crush on the guy.. its all so normal.

Well, I had a friend that was really close to me, and we did everything together and partied every weekend and I practically lived with him and his girlfriend. I never had any feelings for him in a bad way. When we stopped being friends for some reason it really hurt me, but I knew it wasn't anything of emotional thing like that. I still miss hanging out with them, they were like my family. If you think you could find yourself in a relationship with a girl then give it a whirl. I know kids now a days are having sex more and more early, but please do wait on that.

I don't want to have sex. And the only girl I can see me in a relationship with is her... but we won't even be friends again... she's like a drug to me. I can't stay away... I'm addicted to her.

Isn't there a way to talk to her again or talk about your feelings to her?

I've tried... she don't listen... she says she don't care and then leaves... we live in a different state then the other... but we talked on aim and myspace and the phone all the time... and I fell in love with her, and I did tell her... and she liked me back, and then just... about a month ago changed, then two weeks ago left me.

Maybe the thought of a same sex relationship sounded good at first but she got scared off by the idea.
You are both very young and she might have talked to a few people about it and got a negative reaction so decided to distance herself from you.

I get negative stuff about it too... but I can't let go of her!

There are many types of love. Agape, lustfull, maternal to name a few. It seems that you love this person on a much deeper level than you would 'love' (want) a guy. I would try and hold onto and channel your feelings in a more 'accepted' way, so that you can be the best friend in the world to her and love her more deeply than a guy. I would go for the guy and be true to him if you do. It is, in my opinion fine to love more than one person at a time, even if you are 'bound' to one. This however stops when you cannot control your love for the other. Don't worry about it. Love is potent and confusing and sometimes we can get completely drowned by it, keep your head over and regain control.

i get negative stuff about it too... but i can't let go of her!

You have told her about it. She hasn't reciprocated. Let it go.
Stop stressing over something that isn't going to happen. Maybe go out and meet some new people, find another boy (or girl)

Yes, You have a lot of life ahead of you for now and you should live a little before you get into relationships at your age. I am sure once you get into high school and further on you will meet a good guy or better girl than her. High school always seems to be a time of experimentations anyway. I hope you get to get past this.