Lol, Good morning on this wonderful Friday. I had to vent to someone, and I sent a PM to a friend but think venting to you guys would also help me greatly. My relationship is hitting a serious rut as of late. All my fiancé does is work and homework, which I understand but can't help but feel neglected. We spend no quality time together, we live with each other but she doesn't get off work until 6 and by the time she gets home it's usually 6:30. Then the two little girls are with us until 7 when they get a bath, once their done, it's 7:30 and we get dressed to go to the gym at 8. We get back from the gym at around 9 or so. Then she starts on her homework which takes her until close to midnight at times and then she immediately wants to go to bed. Every other weekend we don't have the girls, so that's usually our weekend to do things together. Well now she has to work. She told them her availability is only until 4pm on the weekends. Saturday they have her working until 5:15, then she has a ton of homework she says, so once again no quality time. So I held out hope for Sunday, now she has to work Sunday as well. I feel like I am being patient as it is and understanding, but it's been this way for a month and a half. I don't mean to sound like a pig, but our sex life has all but STOPPED! It's to the point where I have to schedule in advance for it, and even then it gets canceled most times.

I know I am in the wrong here, but hear me out. I'm not making life difficult for her or even bringing this stuff up. Actually it's quite the opposite, she texted me this morning saying "I'm sorry I feel like I don't have time for anything. and you've been so patient, thank you for that." But it is still really frustrating and I'm getting to the point where I am at a complete loss with what to do or how to handle this. I know some of you might say, just deal with it but it is quite difficult. I'm trying to do what I can to ease the load that she is handling but I can only do so much. I am currently, picking the girls up from day care, feeding them, doing their homework with them and taking the oldest to her tee ball practice and being the assistant coach on the team.

Been there Rome, been EXACTLY where you're at... it is hard. Don't really know what to say but good luck. Takes patience and a lot of it. I assume summertime means she isn't taking classes? If that is so, hopefully you can get some quality time in together. No doubt she is stressed out to the max, so luckily she has you to be such a good support system.

Carry on... :cool:

Thanks KC, and I hope she has the summer off but I don't know because they are online courses. At least after this semester she only takes one class and the work load is easier. Sadly that is 4-5 weeks away. I know she is really stressed out, which is why I vented here instead of telling her because I didn't want to seem selfish and add to her stress level.

As frustrating as it is, keep doing it. She needs the help and support, and so do the kids. Been there myself many times. The good news, it will pass as do all glitches that life throws at us.

Geez, I feel like you already know what I am about to say, but I will say it anyway, Cope with this situation in a positive way, no matter how hard it may seem, and reap the benefits of helping your partner, through this difficult time.

Consider this a cyber slap on the back, for doing the right thing by yourself. Great rant

"Carry on"/ by KCTIGER!

Thanks Tal, it really means a lot to know that I have learned so much from this site and the people on it. She is an art major so they have her doing tons of drawings, which take a lot of time and stress her out. So I figured vent to my friends on her, make her life easier whatever way possible. I help her out as much as I can, she is currently taking an English class and struggles writing, as she says. So I proof read her material before she submits it to help her out a little bit more.


Thanks guys!

You are doing so great, Rome. You are such a wonderful man to her, and offer such great support to her as well. Things will start to mellow out with her busyness but in the meantime, keep doing what you are doing, and by the way, you are not wrong at all for feeling the way you are feeling. It can be frustrating sometimes when you don't have enough quality time together, but you will, especially once you two are married. You have your whole lives together in front of you :-)

Awl thanks Starlite, I know we have our whole lives ahead of us and that is really exciting. I guess, as bad as it sounds, I almost feel unappreciated in a way. Which I know isn't the case, but the disconnection helps feed the monster of it. Like last night, I went out and got her fruit because she had been craving it, when I came home I cut it all up for her and made her coffee because I knew it would be a late night with her homework.

I am right there with you Rome minus the kids. My wife works and goes to school. Here job just laid off 600 people so she is working some much over time to make up for all the people gone in her department. Then she gets home and it is homework homework homework.

I was lucky last month was my birthday or I probably wouldn't have had sex since Feb. She just doesn't have time or energy. It rather sucks but I understand and the semester is almost over.

The worst part is she is so busy and Im really not that busy. Then she gets mad at me for watching TV. We have been having stupid arguments and that is not helping at all. I understand it would drive me crazy if I was that busy and she wasn't but I finished college years ago and my job didn't lay off 600 people. I got a copy of Rosetta stone to learn some different languages but have yet to use it because she needs the computer all the time and that's fine.

It's not like I come home sit in front of the TV with a beer in one hand and my other hand down my pants like Al Bundy. I do whatever house work needs to be done when I get home. It is not that much because it is only the two of us. I go to the Gym in the morning because I know I won't go after work plus it is just empty in the morning so I get done faster. She hasn't had time to go to the gym so I think that is making her mad also.

Sorry Rome didn't mean to Hi-jack your thread but I have held this in so long that I feel much better letting it out.

Ha ha no problem Spit, maybe this will turn into a nice venting thread. I know how you feel about the stupid arguments! We have been having them as of late as well. I can't even remember what half of them are about. We are definitely in the same position because she complains that I have all the free time, which I don't. I clean up, do dishes, make dinner at times(not the best cook), get the girls ready the best I can, make her coffee when she needs it, mow the lawn, fix the vehicles and any other household chores that need to be done. When I finally relax, I watch some TV or play some Xbox. I also see your point about your sex life as well. The last time, that I can remember was on our over night stay in Atlantic City. Once we got back, shut down. It got to the point where I would have to ask, and then it's not fun for me and makes me feel even worse if she says "no"

Hey you... great post... and such a real problem for most relationships.

As normal, I agree with the others... but have one question... Is there any way you could do the gym in the mornings? That would give you that solid hour of together time..

So what do you do? I have been here too and it created a lot of resentment. I don't think I handled it right but I felt like I was be taking advantage of. I mean come on, if I loved someone but was so busy, I would at least make time, you can always make time.

Dude are you kidding me!! AC was the last time for me too!! We went to Harrahs for my birthday. I really didn't want to go but she loves the Red Door spa so I got her a day there while I gambled. Weekend was great but once we got back it was all over. 2 weeks ago I made her go to the spa in Philly (well actually a suburb of Philly) she loves just so she could relax.

I have to admit it has been hard but I never thought marriage would be easy. But I now understand what everyone talks about on here about how you have to work at a relationship.

She is not a morning person ha ha, I could do the gym in the mornings as I used to but we get up at around 6:30 every morning to get the girls ready for school.


I wish we could do the gym in the morning.

Ha ha I agree Spit, it is a lot of work, but well worth it I think. I'm hoping I don't have to wait until my birthday for the next round(it's in August ha ha) Once we got done in AC, it was Easter and man, it all was over. The whole time together was GONE! Back to the school work.

And inertia, the best way to deal with it, which I am trying is to be understanding that there is a lot of their plate. They might not even realize how you are feeling because they are so distracted by everything.

I try to put myself in her shoes. I know if I have that rare stressful day at work then come home and have a bunch of things to fix around the house I am in a bad mood. Now she has to do that everyday except school work with a deadline so that is even more stressful. I don't want to add to her stress by saying make time for me.

That's my point Spit, I know she is under A LOT of stress and making myself sound selfish and needy is only going to add to it and fuel a possible argument. So I'll just take the licks now and wait for the storm to pass, hopefully sooner than later

Yeah that is what I am doing. My problem is I like to argue with people and sometimes when I should just say yes, no, OK, I start to argue with her and that makes everything worse so I keep that in mind when she gets upset.

Yep, exactly! I am what some people might call "confrontational when it comes to certain things. I also sometimes have a tough time conveying my point to someone without sounding demanding.

Rome dear a little something to brighten your day "Alles hat ein ende, nur die wurst hat zwei".

Do you need a translation?

This too shall pass. Her school work won't last forever, even though I'm sure it feels that way.

I remember all too well when hubby started a new job. He had to go to 2 training courses each month, 1 week each, out of town, in winter while I was pregnant, for 6 months.

I was miserable, stuck at home, fat, retaining water, lonely, hormonal, you name it! But telling him wasn't an option. I knew that he felt horrible that he was gone half the month, adding to that wasn't going to help either one of us, he had to do it and I had to suck it up! :)

I have an idea to spice things up a bit, hope it's doable and to your liking.

Her next day off, when she doesn't have too much on her plate, get a sitter, rent a nice hotel room, go, order room service, strawberries covered in chocolate, feed each other in the tub, drink wine and just enjoy each other. Sound good? Sound doable? Do it!

In the meantime, you're doing what needs to be done, you're a great guy, so chin up, look forward, there is an end in sight!

The only days off she has are during the week when I am working. We did the hotel room thing 2 weeks ago before Easter and even then it was stressful because she had to worry about school still. I am starting to feel better because of this thread to be honest, I guess I just needed the outlet?

Its hard waiting for the end of the semester, and things get back to normal. Until next semester.

Oh yes, extremely hard ha ha but I know that adding to her stress level will only make things worse. The best thing I can do for her and I is to let it roll and try to be a supportive and understanding fiancé that she needs right now

My wife is happy that I am doing all the cooking. I grew up in my grandma's restaurant so I have been cooking since I was 10. I try to make her something that she loves at least once a week and if that means cooking fish (I HATE THE SMELL OF COOKED SEAFOOD) then I do it for her. You know if you have asked me 5 years ago if you were married and didn't have sex for over a month what would you do My answer without hesitation would be LEAVE. Funny how we grow up.

You know if you have asked me 5 years ago if you were married and didn't have sex for over a month what would you do My answer without hesitation would be LEAVE. Funny how we grow up.

Ain't that the truth?

It's amazing what you learn to accept, what you get accustomed to.

We've had our dry spells, all couples do. I've been with hubby for 19 years, heck, if we didn't have problems I'd be surprised.

The key is getting through the tough times, they never last forever. In the end your relationship will be stronger because you hung in.

Wow, that sounds so grown up. What the heck is happening to me? ;)

EXACTLY! That really is too funny. That was my answer too, people would say "once you get married, sex is gone" I would say "and so would I be."

I can't cook at all, but I am a good coffee maker. I try to start her morning off right everyday, I get her food ready and also pour her coffee as well as get the girls food done for her.

Ha ha! I know, I'm 22 and I'm realizing that a relationship isn't always rainbows and butterflies, you have to work for it. Sometimes it's going to rain and when you think it can't get any worse, it rains harder, but I'll still stand through the rain because I know she's worth it.

Ha ha! I know, I'm 22 and I'm realizing that a relationship isn't always rainbows and butterflies, you have to work for it. Sometimes it's going to rain and when you think it can't get any worse, it rains harder, but I'll still stand through the rain because I know she's worth it.

You're only 22! Wow! I put you at late 20's early 30's, you've got a good head on your shoulders for 22.

Oops, now all the 22 year olds are going to give me crap. Bring it on! :D

Ha ha! I've been through a lot in my short amount of years that forced my hands at growing up quicker than most. I had a life threatening disease when I was 12 and when I pulled through, I knew I needed to live life to the fullest and not waste time. That became my driving force behind setting goals and accomplishing them quickly. Then at 17, I lost my best friend in a car accident, and just compounded my belief that life is short. So I have a career, a wonderful fiancé and 2 great kid(well step kids but I don't see them that way)

So I have a career, a wonderful fiancé and 2 great kid(well step kids but I don't see them that way)

Because you love them they are your kids. I believe there's much more to being a parent then just supplying the DNA. :)

I too grew up pretty quick because of crap that happened. I didn't have a life threatening disease, just a lot of really bad life altering events. I really could have turned out a lot differently, somehow I found my way here and I like it.

I often wonder what kind of person I'd be if I hadn't suffered through the things in my past. Better? Worse? I guess I'll never know. You play the cards your dealt, and I play to win! :)

Your kids are lucky to have you, so is your fiancé. You'll get through this, because you want to. It really is as simple as that. Go figure. ;)

Ha ha I know! Alten you made things so much better, you're right if you want to get through something, you will. How is it that simple lol

Ha ha I know! Alten you made things so much better, you're right if you want to get through something, you will. How is it that simple lol

It just is. :cool:

Now you have the key to life, use it wisely grasshopper! :D

Geez, Rome now you have jinxed me. My wife read this darn rant and she is withholding sex until I draw her a nice bath, cook her a nice meal, massage her feet... and take out the garbage!! Now what? Should I just leave??

Too late, she locked the front door, is the window a good option?

We settled things, how do I look in this apron??

We settled things, how do I look in this apron???

Pictures! I want pictures! :D

I guess this discussion has already gone in another direction.

But I wanted to say a few things. First off, you're doing really well Rome. The fact that she texts you by acknowledging that you are in deed very patient with her is a very good sign. Just keep supporting her.

I'm not sure how much longer she has until she graduates, but this is one of the reasons strict parents tell us not to date while we're still in school. School takes up a lot of time and some people also have to work to keep up with bills. This is the decision that the two of you made. You believe that you will find a balance, but you should also be aware that some things, especially school has to take priority.

I know it sucks that you don't get to spend time together, but it will get better. Why don't you meet her during her lunch breaks on the weekends?

I am planning on meeting her for lunch breaks this coming weekend and also have a lot of work to do on her Jeep. Her muffler was messed up by her ex before we met and I am finally going to fix it since we have some nice weather and I got a welder.


Also Tal, the window would have been a good option! I bet the apron looks great on you! Tell me it's flower print too!

I've got a few aprons that I think would suit Tal. Take your pick Tal. :)

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18984

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Have you been stalking me Alten, that's my body in the last apron!

And my apron in the first picture.

Rome, you sound like an awesome guy. You're doing great. Your fiancé is very lucky to have you; heck, you're lucky to have each other. That's what it's all about, I guess. Sticking together through the hard times. Being there for each other. Great job.

(I was surprised you are only 22 also!)

I think having something to look forward to helps. Plan a really fun date in the near future, hopefully after this semester, for just the two of you. Then you can have that to focus on when you're feeling like this.

I'm feeling this way, too, presently. My boyfriend works a lot of overtime. He has to. He has three kids. We don't live together. We work in the same building, but live an hour apart. So, it gets rough. I am really looking forward to the summer plans we made, though, so that keeps me going.

Hang in there. It will all be worth it!

Yes, Alty, he is a great guy, with a good head on his shoulders and a great future ahead of him. A guy like him... not easy to find. I think he just needs a pat on the back. Pat... pat... pat... pat

Thanks everyone, it truly means a lot to me.

A quick update, surprising enough she brought it up last night that she isn't happy at all with how we don't get time together and she feels really bad that I am doing all these things for her and she thinks that she isn't showing her appreciation the right ways. She took a break from her homework last night and we spent a little time together and tonight we are going out to dinner when she gets off work and then she is going to work on her homework for a little bit then spend more time tonight together since we have the house to ourselves.

Be careful, she may want you to prance around with nothing on, but an apron.

Was that your experience Tal? Do you need someone to talk to about the abuse you receive at the hands of the apron?

You guys are killing me! Pictures, I want pictures!

Tal dear, just post the pic, you'll feel better, we're here to support you. You know you'll feel better if you get it all out. Talk to Alty. :)

Rome, sounds like things are taking a turn, that's great. See, told you it wouldn't last forever.

Isn't it nice how I'm always right? ;)

Ha ha, aren't the women always right? Even when they are wrong ha ha!

Ha ha, aren't the women always right? Even when they are wrong ha ha!

Rome dear, I thought I was wrong once but I was mistaken. ;)

Ha ha! Funny how my fiancé says the same type of stuff

This sounds like the busy time of life for you. That's just the way life is during 'those years' of early family life. Its especially tough when one or both adults are going to college still and working and raising kids all at once. It won't always be such a rat race but it is always best to do today what you can because tomorrow you might just collapse from it all and not be able to get anything done. ;) ;) You sound like a very nice supportive partner. Your girlfriend is lucky to have a you. Just hang in there and know that its not always going to be this way.

Hang in there Rome! When school finishes things will change. It's good to know that your girlfriend realizes how much you are contributing to the family/household. I don't know many guys that would step up to the plate like you have. I can't imagine the weight on your shoulders. It's good that you can vent here for emotional support, but I think your girlfriend should organize her time to put you higher on her list of priorities.

Nice drought ended for me this weekend.

Ha ha me too! It was well worth the wait, of course I wouldn't want to wait like this every time

Yeah my wife apologized to me I told her there is no need to apologize. She said to just let her know and she will drop whatever she is doing.

Well it looks like I found this too late, but my suggestion was going to be to set aside just one night a week where you didn't go to the gym and spend some time together then... well... I'm glad things are going better!

Same thing venom, my fiancé apologized and feels really bad because I do all these things for her and doesn't feel she shows enough appreciation. She said she will do her best to make "us" time more often, I told her the school work is more important to finish and there will be time for us.

Yeah I told her don't worry about it. She was going to take summer classes but then she decided not to. I was very happy about that but I told her if she wants to take summer classes go ahead.

My fiance's school goes through the summer, but she next term she will only have 1 class instead of 2, which will limit the work load.

You two guys are great. Where were you when I was dating? Oh you, in diapers. :(

Alty you can thank all the women in my family for me being the way I am. I'll never forget when I got my first GF my mom said to me You have to treat women with respect. If you ever think about lying to a girl or doing something that will make her upset Picture my face on her and imagine lying to me. So to this day I just can't do it.

Spit, I learned how to treat a lady from my mother too. Her words were usually, if you hurt her, I'm going to hurt you but same basic principal.

Funny.

When I was growing up it was my dad that I emulated.

When I started dating, every guy that came over got the "I have a shot gun and I'm willing to use it. No one would miss you, so keep your hands off and your pants zipped".

I'm actually surprised any guy stuck around after that.

I pity the first guy that comes over to take my daughter on a date. I'll be there with the shot gun and the lecture.

Alten, my uncle actually gives every guy who comes over to date his daughter a 12 page book on how to treat her. The last line reads "I have 12 acres of land, a shotgun and a shovel. They won't find you"

I pity my girls first date too, I hunt so I have guns and the shotgun will be getting cleaned when he stops by along with my two cousins who are police officers standing next to me.

No kids for me. Yaz and condoms willing I never will.

Rome dear, if you ever need my help digging a hole, call, I'll be there! ;)

The thing that worries me is that I know what teenage girls do, I also know what teenage boys do. They can't fool me. I'd rather be oblivious, or would I?

Ahhhhh, she's 6, I've got maybe another 6 years before she's interested in boys. There's already a little boy in her class that tried to kiss her and told her that he's going to marry her one day. Is it bad that I want to throttle him? Sydney handled it well though, she pushed him away and said "No! You aren't allowed to kiss me, you didn't ask!" That will all change soon enough. :(

No kids for me. Yaz and condoms willing I never will.

No kids? Should I ask why or too personal?

Mine are 4 and 5(going to be 6) and I keep telling them no boys until they are 18 and they agree, for now anyway. I've already got my rules lines up. I'm going to buy a couch that has 4 cushions and they will be on opposite ends with me in the middle. I will be that over protective father

We are to selfish. We might wake up one Saturday morning and decide hey lets go to AC we go. If we want to lay around in our underwear all day we do it. Plus I don't think either one of us have the patients to have kids. I had to take my nephew (he is 8) for a weekend and I was ready to jump out a window after the first day. Just question after question. I was in the shower he was still asking me questions through the door.

Mine are 4 and 5(going to be 6) and I keep telling them no boys until they are 18 and they agree, for now anyways. I've already got my rules lines up. I'm going to buy a couch that has 4 cushions and they will be on opposite ends with me in the middle. I will be that over protective father

I'd smother him with the couch cushion, really!

I'd love the "no boys until 18" rule, but I don't think it will work. I have a feeling boys will start calling in 6 years or so. :eek:

Girls are much harder then boys. My hubby's favorite saying "When you have a boy you only have to worry about one prick, when you have a girl you have to worry about every prick in town".

We are to selfish. We might wake up one Saturday morning and decide hey lets go to AC we go. If we want to lay around in our underwear all day we do it. Plus I don't think either one of us have the patients to have kids. I had to take my nephew (he is 8) for a weekend and I was ready to jump out a window after the first day. Just question after question. I was in the shower he was still asking me questions through the door.

Many people don't want to have kids, it's not selfish, if you know that you don't want it then don't do it.

I hate the people out there that think that just because you're married you have to have kids. Parenthood isn't for everyone, just like marriage isn't for everyone.

After my wedding, while in the receiving line, one of my relatives asked "so, when are you having kids?" For God's sake, can we let the ink dry on the marriage certificate first? Jeesh.

My response was "we just got a dog, if we can keep him alive for at least 3 years then we'll consider kids, but if he dies, I don't think we should have children".

That shut them up for about 1 month. :(

Your hubby is right, I am no about to let them date and mommy doesn't want them to date either. I simply told her, I know how I was when I was younger and it isn't happening like that. Also, no way are they having a cell phone with picture messaging! It is NOT happening.

Spit, I see your point, my kids ask me a thousand questions. What I'm doing, why, when, why am I on the computer, who is that, is that my friend. But they are the most entertaining little things in the world. The smallest things amaze them.

We get asked the so when are you having kids question all the time. My wife just answers the person as soon as you are going to pay for everything they need. That usually shuts them up.

But they are the most entertaining little things in the world. The smallest things amaze them.

They're better then cable TV. ;)

To see the world through a child's eyes is truly amazing. Everything is wonderful, happy, fun.

When it snows they're delighted, we complain.

When it rains they can't wait to jump in puddles, we complain.

When they play in mud they're having a blast, all we see it the dirt.

If we could just learn to be more like children, the world would be a much happier place. :)

No cell phones here either. I don't agree with giving a child a cell phone, heck I don't have a cell phone.

I grew up just fine without a cell phone, computer, text messaging, cordless phones, answering machines, cable TV, okay I'm showing my age, but you get my point, right? ;)

Girls are much harder then boys. My hubby's favorite saying "When you have a boy you only have to worry about one prick, when you have a girl you have to worry about every prick in town".

I'll be on AMHD in about 13 years when R starts to question me about boys. My thread will be something amongst the lines of "Daughter wants to date; Chest pains are present"

Sarah

I'll be on here when mine start dating, but it will be on the Law forum probably saying "Daughter dated boy, I shot boy. What's next?"

Or on here, "daughter dated boy, boy broke heart, should I break his neck?"

I'll be on here when mine start dating, but it will be on the Law forum probably saying "Daughter dated boy, I shot boy. What's next?"

Or on here, "daughter dated boy, boy broke heart, should I break his neck?"

Better yet.

"Not Charged With Murder Yet but Wanted for Questioning- The plot thickens"

Haha..

Sarah

See Alty that is another reason I can't have kids. I'm 31 and when it snows I jump for joy because I don't have to go to work (50 mile round trip commute everyday so work tells me don't worry about it take the day off)

When it rains I am calling everyone to see if they want to play football in the mud. And I have a blast.

And I really don't want to be caught arguing with a 6 year old about it still being my turn to play with the Nintendo Wii.

See Alty that is another reason I can't have kids. I'm 31 and when it snows I jump for joy because I don't have to go to work (50 mile round trip commute everyday so work tells me don't worry about it take the day off)

When it rains I am calling everyone to see if they want to play football in the mud. And I have a blast.

And I really don't want to be caught arguing with a 6 year old about it still being my turn to play with the Nintendo Wii.

LMAO! I love it. You don't need kids, you are one! :D

I'll be on here when mine start dating, but it will be on the Law forum probably saying "Daughter dated boy, I shot boy. What's next?"

Or on here, "daughter dated boy, boy broke heart, should I break his neck?"

Mine will be, "how do I dig a 6 foot deep hole in the winter, need advice asap!" or "need to hire a hit man, will pay good money, cash".

It might be better if I move away once the kids start dating. :eek:

mudweiser agrees: that's when you become a grandma ;)

I will never be old enough to be a grandma! Bite your tongue young lady! :eek:

LMAO! I love it. You don't need kids, you are one! :D

My wife says that all the time!

My wife says that all the time!

All wives say that to their husbands.

When I introduce my family it's "This is my son Jared 10, my daughter Sydney 6, and my big kid Mr. Alty 38". ;)

He actually fights with the kids over the Wii and Xbox. I don't know how many times I've had to put that man in a time out. :p

All wives say that to their husbands.

When I introduce my family it's "This is my son Jared 10, my daughter Sydney 6, and my big kid Mr. Alty 38". ;)

He actually fights with the kids over the Wii and Xbox. I don't know how many times I've had to put that man in a time out. :p

I love time out;)

I love time out;)

Then she's doing it wrong! :rolleyes:

I think the number one reason I shouldn't have any kids would be last Christmas we were at my in-laws and my wife's niece was walking buy and somehow she had food in her hair (she is 3) to get her attention I actually made the sound you would make to get a cats attention you know psst psst psst. My mother in law leaned over and said you do know that is a person not a cat, Maybe you two shouldn't have kids! I have yet to live that one down.

Spit, psst, psst, psst. LMAO, mental picture! :D

Then she's doing it wrong! :rolleyes:

Depends on your definition of "wrong"

I think the number one reason I shouldn't have any kids would be last Christmas we were at my in-laws and my wife's niece was walking buy and somehow she had food in her hair (she is 3) to get her attention I actually made the sound you would make to get a cats attention you know psst psst psst. My mother in law leaned over and said you do know that is a person not a cat, Maybe you two shouldn't have kids! I have yet to live that one down.

When my fiancé and I first got together and hung out with the girls, I played "fetch" with the youngest. She kept telling me to throw the ball so I did. I didn't see the problem, still down. It's fun, she likes it, I like it

When my fiance and I first got together and hung out with the girls, I played "fetch" with the youngest. She kept telling me to throw the ball so I did. I didn't see the problem, still down. It's fun, she likes it, I like it

It's all good unless you pat her head, rub her belly and give her a treat when she returns the ball. ;)

Our kids try to play fetch with the puppy but it doesn't work too well. That little dog has them well trained. They use to throw the ball, he'd run to the ball, pick it up, then drop it on the ground. Then the kids would run over to get the ball, pat him on the head, tell him it's okay and throw it again. Now the dog doesn't even go to get the darn ball, he just waits for the kids to do it. They usually give up after an hour or two. :)

Depends on your definition of "wrong"

It's supposed to be a punishment, no toys, no TV, nose in the corner and think about what you've done, one minute for each year you've lived, so 22 minutes for you.

That sounds really mean. :eek:

That's a long time out, I think I'll take the spanking

That's a long time out, I think I'll take the spanking

:eek: TMI! :eek: :p :D

Ya, I usually take the spanking too, for me it's 38 minutes in time out, that's almost an hour! :p

Ha ha ha!! Yep you're getting up there :p

Ha ha ha!!! Yep you're getting up there :p

Hey! 38 is the new 20, just like red is the new black! :cool: