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Parallelism
Apr 23, 2009, 07:48 PM
Okay. This is what is happening in my life right now, I would appreciate all feedback. This is also my first time posting so go easy

First off I'm 19 years old, 6-4' and she said how she loves tall guys (A LOT). She is 22

I met this girl on Craigslist under the dating section (NOT THE HOOKER SECTION). I'm basically a geek with no tattoo's / piercings and she's the complete opposite, she has 9 tatto's and 13 piercings.

We had our first date (also first time we met) at a sushi place and we talked and I thought it went really well. After sushi, that same day she mentioned how we should go to the mall. We did and we walked around and even forgot where we parked, we both had fun.
At the end of our first date (lasted about 6 hours) I said how it would be fun if we had fondue (cheese and bread type of food) tomorrow. She said yes and we did just that.

Finally it brings me to today. After the fondue she said how I should come over with her and watch a movie called Blow (not a porno, it stars Johnny Depp) and we did just that.

We cuddled throughout the whole movie then at the end I finally made a move and started making out with her, making out over time led to sex. Keep in mind I have known her for only 3 days.

--> Just on a side note, I really like her, I like her so much it hurts <--

My question is: Is she just using me for sex or do you think she wants a relationship (she did post in the relationship in craigslist). She does not text me a lot compared to other girls I've talked to or possibly been in a relationship with..

Any help? Thanks for taking the time to read this :) PLEASE ANSWER!

Gemini54
Apr 23, 2009, 10:43 PM
You've known her 3 days and you ask if she wants to be in a relationship?

I suspect she wouldn't know - give her a break, why don't you (and yourself for that matter).

Just enjoy yourself - you're 19, she's 22 - can't you just have a good time?

Who cares if she just wants you for sex (you are the one that made the first move though!), make the most of it, get to know each other and don't be too intense.

You've got plenty more time for that in years to come. Relax.

colonel7
Apr 23, 2009, 10:55 PM
I know what you mean about the hurt.. I love my girlfriend though we got in a little disagreement tonight.. the girl really must like you.. I'm the guy with 12 tattos an my girl has none.. do me favor an read mine.. hang in there bro

I wish
Apr 24, 2009, 11:30 AM
How about you slow it down a bit and do some talking. Go out to neutral settings and not only on her or your sofa. Watching a movie doesn't help either, cause there's no communication.

Suggestions: Talking on the phone. Going to the coffee shop. Going for lunch.

Parallelism
Apr 24, 2009, 12:00 PM
Buddy, how about you slow it down a bit and do some talking. Go out to neutral settings and not only on her or your sofa. Watching a movie doesn't help either, cause there's no communication.

Suggestions: Talking on the phone. Going to the coffee shop. Going for lunch.


Yah, I think I'm going to take her to the park and walk around and talk then hit up a coffee shop afterwards. Thanks for the idea, love it.

Also, over sushi and the mall we talked basically the whole time.

After reading the posts I'm going to converse more with her and take it slowly.

Thanks for the info, you guys rock

Parallelism
Apr 24, 2009, 07:17 PM
Hey just an update

I took her to the park and we walked and wondered around and we had a great conversation! We then hit a good 'bubble tea' stand that I love and once we got the bubble tea I took her to a another park with benches and a very relaxed setting (not a lot of people) we talked while drinking our tea.

I drove her back to her car and we just took and hugged and kissed for a few minutes. It was amazing

Thanks for your help again!

shazamataz
Apr 25, 2009, 02:28 AM
I slept with my partner on our second date...
Have I been using him for sex for the past 3 years? I think not.

Her having tattoos and you not having any is completely irrelevant. My partner had piercings everywhere and tattoos while I had none.

It's only been 3 days so only time will tell.

Goodluck.