I'm good looking, can bench 300 and squat 400. Have a nice car, and am funny. I'm probably one of the best guys in the high school. I would be a great boyfriend; treat girls with respect, buy everything for them (if they wanted that), no cheating, hold the door open, and be there for them. ONE thing is stopping me though.. I want a girl who has some respect for themselves. I REFUSE to date anyone who has been known for 'getting around'. If I wanted to simply have 'fun' and make out with a girl I could have done that a long time ago. Is it so hard to find someone these days who has some self-respect and who is good-looking? Please help, I'm feeling hopeless in my search...

You can't rush these things. A girl you admire will come. There are so many beautiful girls with respect and you might be missing them. It's good to have confidence but don't try to get really swelled. Girls like a traditional sweetheart but then again there is a girl for just about every personality... So be patient. :)

Yes, there are good looking females out there that have self-respect. Maybe your looking for love in all the wrong places. Girls are every where but I know finding the right one is difficult but don't give up.

The ironic thing is when your looking for someone you never find what your looking for but when your not looking she would land right on your lap.

Um... In my experience, girls with self respect won't like you buying them everything. The want independence and self respect, not to be pampered like a princess. At least that's what I've noticed, they may not seem like "HOT" girls, but beautiful yes. Better looking than the "HOt" girls. But these are all just useless words that generallize women, you are looking for one out of many, so first work on yourself. As you are preoccupied with that then it is highly probable that you'll attract her.

What I mean by work on yourself, YOu don't say much about your personality, and what you do say is vague and hard to interpret. So, perhaps try being more into who you really are? Who ever that may be. For all I know you are the best guy out there, but it isn't important what me or any one else thinks, only what you think. How you think will affect your other behaviours, so I highly advise you watch how you think. Who do you want to be, who are you now, and why.

Also, "the best things in life are worth waiting for."- unknown.

Peace and kindness be with you

Maybe girls with self-respect aren't looking for a boy whose only line to describe himself is "I can bench 300 and squat 400 and I have a nice car". Those who have been "getting around" probably are.

Girls with self-respect are probably busy doing stuff like studying to get the grades to go to a good college, volunteering, music lessons, sports,. so maybe you should first think about what hobbies you have that you might share with a girl, what interesting things you could talk to her about, and what activities you could enjoy together. Then look in that field.

There's a great saying 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder'.

Are you looking for an eye candy trophy girlfriend to match your equally good looks and charm?

Or.. a girl you can have fun with, shoot the breeze with,talk to, and know that your there for her,and she's there for you and can see past the bench pressed muscles to the 'real you'?

Those type of girls are not rare,in fact there everywhere!
Open your eyes and observe the girls around you,see past the superficial looks and look for the beauty within... and there's your girl!

Just keep getting to know more girls. That's the only way to find out if the girl you are looking for is out there. Don't limit yourself to the same group of people. Don't limit yourself to only the people in your surroundings.

Your description of yourself is remarkably shallow and so I would "guess" you are attracting remarkably shallow women. Or girls.

From your first statement you sounded like a guy I wouldn't date.

Don't go bragging about yourself.. it is very unbecoming... there are ways to let a girl know that you are a good guy without blabbing about how much weight you can lift...

"I am probably one of the best guys in the high school".

Yea, right. Sorry mate, but I think that you need to eat a large slice of humble pie.

Unfortunately, your attitude is what is standing in the way of finding someone with beauty and self respect. Sadly, you have neither so how can you possible attract it?

A little less hubris and a little more humility may help you find the sort of person you want to attract.

FYI, I'm a 23 year old guy... but let me put it this way.

Say, for this example, that I'm a girl that comes up to you.

Ready?

I'm a BEAUTIFUL blonde, absolutely drop dead gorgeous, I work out three times a week, and I am curvy in ALL the right places. All the guys always check me out, and they all want to sleep with me, but I'm too good for them.

... how's that sound? Kind of turns you off, doesn't it?

Any girl with self respect won't go out with a guy that starts with...

"I can bench this, squat that, have this much money, etc."

They usually go for the guys that say, "Hi. I was wondering if you wanted to go grab something to eat with me..."