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limeman
Apr 22, 2009, 07:49 AM
I am happily married with 3 grown kids. My wife and I still have a healthy sex life after 25 years of marriage. However, I have found myself attracted to seeing naked men. I really don't want to have sex with them, but I do admire the nude male body. Does this make me a bi-sexual and if so, what should I do?

Synnen
Apr 22, 2009, 07:53 AM
You are a bisexual if you feel sexual feelings --as in, you want to have sex with--both genders.

I think you're just admiring the male nude body.

smoothy
Apr 22, 2009, 09:14 AM
If you get a stiffy watching a Mandingo porn film... and not from the lady costars... I'd say yes.

Alty
Apr 22, 2009, 09:15 AM
I appreciate a beautiful woman, but I don't have any desire to have sex with them. In other words, no, not bi.

binx44
Apr 22, 2009, 09:17 AM
To me the human body is a work of art. You enjoy looking at a nude body (no matter the gender) and you are just apprechating the uniqueness of humans. Being Bisexual is being attracted and wanting to have sex with both genders not just the opposite gender. I went through a rough patch in my life when I was younger trying to decide if I was lesbian or bisexual. For the first few dating years I only dated women but as I got older and realized the total sum of my sexuality I discovered I was bisexual as in I like to have relationships, sex and emotional relationships with both sexes.

Justwantfair
Apr 22, 2009, 09:21 AM
I am not going to determine your sexuality, but what you should do is continue to respect the marriage you are in.

Just because someone else turns you on, doesn't mean that you have an obligation to explore that lust.

I find other women attractive. I have fantasized about sleeping with other women, I have never acted on it, so I don't consider myself bi-sexual. Although the thought intrigues me I wouldn't act of that thought out of respect and love for myself and my partner.

binx44
Apr 22, 2009, 10:11 AM
I honestly would never sleep with a woman while with someone else (either men or women) I think the OP is just trying to understand who he is. I don't think he is saying he wants to go sleep with another man instead of being faithful to his wife

Xrayman
Apr 22, 2009, 04:10 PM
In today's language some people would not call you bisexual-because you do not desire to have sex with your own gender.

I would call it intrigue or bi-curious.

It is just another example where sexuality is not just homo, hetro or Bi, there are many variances-mathematically we could call sexuality as being described in a bell curve-distributed around some "norm" or median. But not just three options.

Basically you fit within the "normal area" of hetrosexuality

Cheers,

chrissymarie
Apr 24, 2009, 11:30 AM
No I don't think your bi. If you happily married with a good sex life with your wife that's all that matters. I think your just admiring the male body. I admire naked women's bodies but I'm not bi.

Catsmine
Apr 24, 2009, 01:23 PM
Limeman,

Beauty is beauty. You are noticing the beauty of the nude male. Good for you. After you complete your study you might care to check out some of Annie Leibowitz' photography of seniors... Absolutely exquisite

shazamataz
Apr 24, 2009, 11:42 PM
I've had this discussion with my partner before...
We were trying to determine what "bi-sexual' actually meant.

For him it was someone who sleeps with or has sexual relations with the opposite sex.

For me it's someone who would have a relationship with the opposite sex.

lighterrr
Apr 25, 2009, 12:14 AM
I wouldn't say your gay or bisexual, perhaps a little bi curious and like the prev. posters commented your just appreciating the image of men

A4Effort
Apr 26, 2009, 09:07 AM
Many people do not understand that sexual preference is on a spectrum. People believe that you are either gay, straight, etc... But you can be on a spectrum. So, the OP here might be heterosexual but lean a little towards bisexuality.