Me and my boyfriend began arguing about 2 months ago as he said he needed space and to see his friends as we were used to spending everyday with each other! I never stopped him doing any of this but his friends began to say he was under the thumb etc so he began to see less of me which I understand! At the beginning this caused the arguments because I felt like he was trying to get away from me but then I began to understand! He didn't go on a lads holiday last year and I felt like I am blamed for this even though he said he didn't want to go because he knew how he felt when I went on one and he didn't want to do the same to me... Anyway to cut a long story short he told me he didn't know whether he loves me anymore! :( we had a big argument and he said he couldn't keep arguing cause it was hurting him and if we had another one that would be it! Anyway a couple of days later we had a nice day together even though we didn't hug or kiss (he doesn't feel comfy at the moment) but I saw him out on the night and he tried to hug and kiss me! I was shocked so pulled back and he got shirty with me when I tried to find him later and seemed to push him further away! :confused: we had a big argument that night and he said things were going to take a long time to go back to normal if they even do!Anyway we haven't argued for around a week an half and I don't feel like he puts any effort in he still doesn't hug and kiss me because he said it doesn't feel right and he's finding it hard:confused: I'm confused as I thought if people wanted to make a go of it they wanted to do these things? I feel as if I always have to ask to see him!and I always have to text him first etc... I don't know how he feels as he never says and I don't like asking in case he gets annoyed. I only see him around 3 times per week now and he says he is finding it hard to hug or kiss me!he doesn't want to hold hands etc :(

Everyone keeps telling me to walk away but I would like to fix this as he makes me the happiest person in the world just knowing I have him in my life :( I can't understand if he feels how he does why is he sticking around in my life?why hasn't he walked away? Does anyone have any ideas?

me and my boyfriend began arguing


he said he needed space


this caused the arguments


we had a big argument


he said he couldnt keep arguing cause it was hurting him


we had a big argument that night

Wow times don't sound that happy...


he makes me the happiest person in the world

Oh my mistake.

Are you kidding me? You wrote all that and then ended with "he makes me the happiest person in the world? Come on. Your fantasy that if you got him is what makes you happy. It gives you something to dream about, but the reality is it is not working. The dream is what makes you happy, not the man. He's not into you, like you are him. It's time to let him hold up his word. If he's not going to be available then you need to leave it be and move forward. There are other guys who actually pay attention to there girlfriends and don't argue that make girls much happier then this example.

I can't understand if he feels how he does why is he sticking around in my life?
For the same reason you let him stick around, Neither of you knows any better.

why hasn't he walked away? Does anyone have any ideas?
You walk away.

He doesn't feel the same anymore. Things change. He doesn't put any effort into the relationship which tells you he doesn't care anymore. There are other people out there who would love to make a relationship work and make you happy without all of this drama and knows what they want for sure.