I have a 25 yr old son that is very disrespectful to me and other family memebers I have told him he has to leave but he refuses how can I get him out of my home.. before he destroys it even more?

I imagine you tried to talk with him already?What is he destroying? This must be gut wrenching at the same time since it is your son. If he is wrecking things, you have the option of calling the police but that's even a sticky situation. Be patient and I know that the experts will soon answer your question better and in more detail for you. Sorry you're going through this and best of luck to you all.

You can always go to court and legally evict him. Call the cops if his behavior is to the extreme or especially if you feel threaten. When I had a former friend of mine staying with me and I feel threaten and she wouldn't leave, I called the cops. They made her gather all of her belonging and then leave. The outcome might not be same with every situation but I was happy that the cops make her leave. Thank goodness for them.

However I must say if he was my disrespectful son his things would have been on the porch a long time ago. I wouldn't have my grown child giving me grief in my house. He would've been out whether if he wanted to. He needs to grow up and you need to be stern and put your feet down.

You can always go to court and legally evict him. Call the cops if his behavior is to the extreme or especially if you feel threaten. When I had a former friend of mine staying with me and I feel threaten and she wouldn't leave, I called the cops. They made her gather all of her belonging and then leave. The outcome might not be same with every situation but I was happy that the cops make her leave. Thank goodness for them.

However I must say if he was my disrespectful son his things would have been on the porch a long time ago. I wouldn't have my grown child giving me grief in my house. He would've been out whether or not if he wanted to. He needs to grow up and you need to be stern and put your feet down.

Thank you so much for answering.. I have called the cops and they tell me there is nothing they can do... but I am going to the courts and legally evicted him.. It is so sad it has to come down to this and I know he will hate but but hey tough love I just hope he can get ahold of his anger before it destroys him..

I imagine you tried to talk with him already?What is he destroying? This must be gut wrenching at the same time since it is your son. If he is wrecking things, you have the option of calling the police but that's even a sticky situation. Be patient and I know that the experts will soon answer your question better and in more detail for you. Sorry you're going through this and best of luck to you all.

I have tried talking to him but he doesn't listen he just tells me to mind my own business.. he is destroying the house he has huge holes in the wall of his room which I am going to have to pay to fix it and I really don't have the money for it.. and yes he is breaking my heart... Thanks for the answer by the way...

I am so sad to read this story...

I know it's after the fact but the key is to find out... why he has so much anger in him... the destructive attitude would then heal.

I believe there is some phycological problem deep inside that needs to come out before this can happen.

Yes I know you have threatened and now actioned various procedures already, but somehow I feel your going down the wrong road... short from a therapist, I'm not sure what else you can do.

Maybe approach him as his friend, bricks and mortar can be replace.. I know at a cost.. but the mind is a complicated computer, that just requires the professionals to repair..

I sincerely hope that things are better for you both now and in the future.

Since you posted this in this forum instead of the Real Estate Law forum, it opens your question for advice on dealing with your son from a relationship standpoint.

But the legal answer is you have to go through the eviction process as you are doing. Since I doubt if he has a lease or an agreement to pay rent, then the process becomes a longer one.

He is considered a month to month tenant, even though there is no lease or rental. So you have to start by giving him a written 15-30 day notice to vacate. The amount of time is dictated by your local laws. If he has not left within that time, you have to go to court for an eviction order. This requires a hearing. At the hearing an order will most likely be issued, given him a few days to vacate. If he still isn't out by then, you have to hire a sheriff to forcibly remove him.

The problem didn't happen overnight with your son.

What do you think is causing all the anger and aggression. Has he always been this way?