OK.. we were all hanging out and we were all a bit drunk. The driver has a girlfriend, and I knew that, but I'd crushed on him for a long time.. before he had a girlfriend. He dropped everyone off and I was the last one, and when I went to leave, he kissed me.. it was mutual.. I liked him, and he had a girlfriend so I know it was wrong, but I still did it... we made out for 2 hrs.. maybe more. When we left I felt amazing, but guilty because he had a girlfriend. When I asked him about it, he said that he felt the same way, and thought we had a connection.. its only been 2 days since, and I don't know what's going to happen, but we supposed to hang out again next week and I think the same thing might happen. Im confused I'm torn between being called a home wrecker.. because I'm knowingly letting him cheat on his girlfriend, and letting my feelings play out... just give me some advice.. that was my first kiss.

Hmm... can you guys share your first kiss experiences? That would be interesting...

If I were you I'd ask the guy why he's cheating on his girlfriend because if he likes you more then he should dump her and date you

Put your foot down now...

The longer it plays out, the worse it'll be.

Seriously...

I get you are into him and he is into you.

Now you get to decide if he has it in him to be into you enough to leave her.

He has already left her. In part.

So...

I'm pretty open to people doing what they want to do... I get grumpy when it comes to marital vows being demolished... but outside that, its often open game.

So...

Id say get control. Keep control.

I'm not into head games, but here... you might want to see what he is made of.

Lead him on a little, but let him know you aren't just his side diversion.

If he is done with her, time for him to find a pair.

If he is just keeping things interesting while staying with her... then its up to you.

Is playing with the boy worth the noise? I can't answer that.

Just don't get emotionally caught up in this more than him. Stay in control. In a power position.

Look... every love I've ever loved has cheated on me. I'm attracted to naughty girls. Its just how it is. So I'm not one to just tell someone to screw around if it feels good.

But I also understand where you might be. Where he might be.

So... you get to choose what you get. And you own that decision.

If the taste of the boys lips on your lips is worth the noise... I'm not going to smack your hands. He isn't married. You aren't. No kids. Right??

But you don't get to play the game and complain also.

If he's willing to cheat on her, he might be willing to cheat on you.

All that said... you are talking about a first kiss. Which means you are likely young.

So.. the best advice I can give is always take care of yourself first.

Period.

put your foot down now...

the longer it plays out, the worse itll be.

seriously...

i get you are into him and he is into you.

now you get to decide if he has it in him to be into you enough to leave her.

he has already left her. in part.

so...

im pretty open to people doing what they want to do... i get grumpy when it comes to marital vows being demolished... but outside that, its often open game.

so...

id say get control. keep control.

im not into head games, but here... you might want to see what he is made of.

lead him on a little, but let him know you arent just his side diversion.

if he is done with her, time for him to find a pair.

if he is just keeping things interesting while staying with her... then its up to you.

is playing with the boy worth the noise? i can't answer that.

just dont get emotionally caught up in this more than him. stay in control. in a power position.

look... every love ive ever loved has cheated on me. im attracted to naughty girls. its just how it is. so im not one to just tell someone to screw around if it feels good.

but i also understand where you might be. where he might be.

so... you get to choose what you get. and you own that decision.

if the taste of the boys lips on your lips is worth the noise... im not going to smack your hands. he isnt married. you arent. no kids. right???

but you dont get to play the game and complain also.

if hes willing to cheat on her, he might be willing to cheat on you.

all that said... you are talking about a first kiss. which means you are likely young.

so.. the best advice i can give is always take care of yourself first.

period.

Thanks for the response.. ye I am kind of young.. 16.. hes 17 . Too young to mess around in this stuff.. but what is being a teen without exploring?Nd I LOVED the kissing... so I don't know.. thanks for your advice :) hope there are more people like you who respond..

Young love is often Big.

Young lust, Bigger.

Both are usually for a time. Not all time. Tho' it feels that way.

So... you need to figure out where YOUR comfort zones are.

If kissing him while he is dating another upsets you. Fine. You need to deal with it.

A "homewrecker"? At your age? Less likely, tho' possible.

One of the most important things I think any woman can do is to take control of her mind and her body and choose to act in harmony with her needs.

Boys are dumb.

I'm a boy.

I know I'm dumb.

So... you need to think about your wants and needs first, and that includes what is healthy for you... not just what you desire.

Lmao... tru say.. nd homewrecker cause I know this girl.. she quotes when I asked what she thought about it "stealing another girls man" and ""lol.. idk.. my comfort zones... have no idea yet.. is it normal to not be able to stop thinking about it? In a completely good way... it WAS amazing..

I know I'm dumb.

So... you need to think about your wants and needs first, and that includes what is healthy for you... not just what you desire.[/QUOTE]

Emma

How old are you?

emma

how old are you?

I already told you.. im 16 and he's 17

I already told you..im 16 and he's 17

Srry I responded a bit rudely...

Unless you like sloppy seconds I would leave him alone and have a second kiss with a single, available guy.

srry i responded a bit rudely...

No prob.

I'm too damn lazy to read all the thread pages. Danke for responding.

First of all, aren't you a little young to be drinking? Unless you're in France or wherever.
I think you should talk to him about it. Whatever happens this is all going to end up being emotional. The girlfriend could get pissed to heights depending on how emotional she is. Yeah, you might want to get this taken care of before it gets out of hand. Good luck!

Please don't start another thread relating to the same issue and cut out the drinking.

Here is her other thread https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/guys-definition-jerk-343264.html

Closed, OP is doint nothing but text typing