Hello everyone. It's been awhile since I've posted anything here, so a quick update. I'm doing really well since I last posted. Have been getting out and having fun. Just enjoying my bachelor life, haha. I think I am finally over my ex. I can think about her and not get any queasy feelings in my stomach or get upset. Everything is going good... finally.

Now for the reason I returned; a girl I am talking to. But this isn't just some ordinary girl, this girl is my best friend's ex. I guess I better start at the beginning of some recent events if I want to make sense.

Okay, well this girl and my friend have dated off and on for about two years. It has now been a little over a year since they last broke up. Well about a week ago, my friend has decided that he wanted to try to get back with her. Seeing that he has no phone or car, he asks me to give her a ride to his house so he could talk to her. He even left me the task of convincing her to go (Don't ask me why I agreed to do that, cause I really don't know). I don't know what happened, but the car ride from her house to his seemed to bring her and I closer. Now we talk everyday, about random things, when we use to barely speak to each other. One thing she told me was that there was no way of my friend and her getting back together. Apparently he did something to her that she saw as horrible, I don't know what it was though.

See, I think I'm starting to like this girl. She is fun to hang out with and talk to. Plus I don't always have to initiate our conversations, she will actually text me at random times as well (our conversations have consisted of texts by the way). However, I believe I'm a little scared to feel this way about her. I don't know how my friend would react if he found out we have been talking, let alone that I like her. I'm in a bit of a turmoil, I don't want to lose my friend, nor do I want to sit back and watch this opportunity go by. I mean, what if she is the "one"? I know, a long shot, but I would never know unless I tried, right? I really don't know what to do. To be honest this is the last girl I thought I would end up liking, but it happened. So if anyone could give any advice on how to go about this, it would be greatly GREATLY appreciated. Do I risk it or let this slip by? Thanks in advance. BTW, like always, if anything is unclear, let me know and I'll clear it right up. Thanks. -Chillaxguy90

Talk to you friend. If your good friends I'm sure this whole thing isn't going to blow out of proportion.

First thing you do need to ask yourself is how important is your friend to you. Is he someone just someone you met at a bar and only known for a year? Or is this a long term 4AM phone calls, knows your favorite movie, as well as your disgusting little secrets type of friend? If this is a friendship worth fighting for, than get over this crush.

Keep in mind not all friendships fail when dating a friend's ex. It really depends on the strength of your friendship.

So go buy your bud some brewskis [if your old enough] sit down and talk to him about how you feel. Remember: never imply that you and his ex would do better. If he asks, don't say yes and give the "I dunno dude I just like her" answer.

Proceed with caution!

Sarah