this just happened alittle while ago and its one of many many many many many MANY problems. my husband is black and im spanish and he has this fixation on black people being the best which i dont say anythin to because u can believe what you want, but what pisses me off is that he keeps saying that spanish people copy black people because of the way they speak and dress and that spanish ppl dpnt listen to rap or write rap and that they are now doing it bcuz they want to be like black ppl, he saids things like spanish females are sluts bcuz everywhere u go u see a yung spanish girl wit a baby and that spanish parents jus let their kids do wat ever the fuk they want. he saids that its ok for him to say that bczu its the truth and he talks about the faults that black ppl have but it seems like he thinks hes better because black is the dominant race. and hes jus so fkin cocky about and i jus feel like smackin the out of him. n i tried explaining to him thay i feel offended when he keeps talkin about like that and all he saids is that he dont care because he's not talkin about me. but the way i see it is that if u love me then u should respect me enough to stop doing somethin that bothers me so much. i mean what do u ladies and gents think. am i jus being weird or is he just an ?

Sorry Patricia, I'd really love to answer, but the bold print makes your post way too hard to read.

Good luck.

I've have heard the same conversation- if not similar.

Tell your husband that there are black sluts too- oh yea and Asian, Caucasian, Middle Eastern, etc. Sluts aren't just certain a ethnicity.

I see your husband ignorant and uneducated. You need to tell him that he sounds like that!

I know you've already talked to him about it but maybe this time tell him:

"I know you'd be angry if I were to tell you that African Americans were nothing but lazy slobs [or add any other stereotype]-. I know that you would not only be angry but be hurt. That's how your making me feel! It's uncomfortable. I respect you and in return I would like your respect.".

When you have ignorant people like that you need to tell them straight. It takes a lot for them to change, and I mean a lot. I'm sure his behavior isn't new to you. You met him like this so there isn't really any turning back unless you intend on getting a divorce. You saw the hand you were dealt yet you accepted it- I for one would've ran the other direction.

Do you have kids? I sure hope not, those negative perspectives will be instilled in their head and they'll grow up like their daddy... ignorant.

Step up, not for yourself, but for other cultures. Racism isn't a way of life, it's just an excuse for sorry people who have their own personal issues.

Racism = Ignorance
Ignorance = Scared of Change
Scared of Change = No balls
No balls = A closed and narrow minded individual who lives in their own pitiful dark world and will never have any knowledge in the real world.

Good luck to you.. really.

Sarah

Hes a racist and you married him so there must have been clues before you tied the knot.

If he knows this bugs you and persists in saying these ridiculous things then tell him if he is going to talk like that you are going to ignore him.

I hope if you have any children he refrains from spewing his bigotry to them.

Just because something is cool doesn't mean it came from a black person.

If he has to keep saying this over and over,sounds like he is trying to convince himself as much as anyone else.

How would he react if someone said those things about you?

FYI.. The bold type does make your post difficult to read.

My wife is spanish. I know a lot of spanish people. This husband of yours sounds like he is a racist. How can he not realize that by insulting one race and grouping them together like that is actually putting you in that group as well.

Does sound like he is cocky, has he always been this way? This bothers you so much, it is emotional abuse. You need to be straight up with him. If he does not care about your feelings. Well maybe you need to find solutions that will set him straight.

For example, I hate to suggest this which I do not normally do but what about telling this guy that if he continues this type of behaviour you can not be around it anymore. Let him know how much you hate this type of talk and be prepared to show him your series about not putting up with it anymore.

Use your words, no need to get physical.

Joe

Had to spread the rep Artsy, but I was thinking the same thing that there must've been clues before they were married. Someone doesn't suddenly turn into a racist jerk overnight.

Personally I couldn't be with someone that degraded my race because I am proud of my heritage and ethnicity. And one step further; any child that I bear will have my blood and I will not allow anyone to mistreat my child.

So you need to decide if you want to continue to put up with this because it's doubtful that he will change.

Yes, if I was you I would have slapped him a long, long time ago on my way out the door.

I don't think talking will do anything to change his ways nor views because I am should you discussed this with him time after time with no changed results.

I couldn't be married, let alone, stay with someeone that puts down my race in my face. He is very bold and has no goof but this is who you choose to married.

You stated this is one of many, many, many, many, many, MANY problems-well I don't know what could be bigger than this. If your marriage is full of so many problems then why stay in a problematic marriage?

Don't stay with guy let alone sleep in the same bed with him when he insults your race any chance he gets. That's like sleeping with the enemy. Sooner or later your going go besert on him due to all the build up anger.

Time for you to do what is right for your own sanity because this marriage is beyond unhealthy with no point of return. This is going to end with someone in the hospital and someone in jail.