bigkahuna7
Apr 15, 2009, 11:20 AM
Been with my girlfriend for about 6 years and would like some advice.
I don't love her anymore - we've grown apart and I know it - not sure if she realizes it though.
All the warning signs are there: she talks future and I sit silently; I would rather spend time alone in another room than out where she is; I don't like talking on the phone with her; she always tells me I look miserable; sex is a chore and probably twice a month if that - if I do kid around about it suggest it she just rolls her eyes; the 'love you's are basically rolling off the tongue like 'cya later'; I feel I've lost myself and who I am in this relationship with no answers; I'm more irritated with her about stupid things etc.
She would never initiate anything as far as a breakup - we've talked briefly about issues etc but she just kind of goes on with her bubbly self seemly to ignore it all. We broke up for about a month ( I left) but was really guilty about leaving so ended up back together - which I totally regret. I mean, when is it time to say when? There has to be people out there.. better suited for each of us. I'm not abusive but this is such a dysfunctional and toxic thing to me. Six years is a long time and that's what makes this really hard.
We have also done biz transactions together (some good some bad) and I feel like I OWE her and one of the main reasons I stay, but I'm pulling my hair out over how I feel. I just don't love her like I used to anymore. I still care for her a lot but really afraid to hurt her.
Advice would be nice.
Thank you
I don't love her anymore - we've grown apart and I know it - not sure if she realizes it though.
All the warning signs are there: she talks future and I sit silently; I would rather spend time alone in another room than out where she is; I don't like talking on the phone with her; she always tells me I look miserable; sex is a chore and probably twice a month if that - if I do kid around about it suggest it she just rolls her eyes; the 'love you's are basically rolling off the tongue like 'cya later'; I feel I've lost myself and who I am in this relationship with no answers; I'm more irritated with her about stupid things etc.
She would never initiate anything as far as a breakup - we've talked briefly about issues etc but she just kind of goes on with her bubbly self seemly to ignore it all. We broke up for about a month ( I left) but was really guilty about leaving so ended up back together - which I totally regret. I mean, when is it time to say when? There has to be people out there.. better suited for each of us. I'm not abusive but this is such a dysfunctional and toxic thing to me. Six years is a long time and that's what makes this really hard.
We have also done biz transactions together (some good some bad) and I feel like I OWE her and one of the main reasons I stay, but I'm pulling my hair out over how I feel. I just don't love her like I used to anymore. I still care for her a lot but really afraid to hurt her.
Advice would be nice.
Thank you