Hey everyone my name is jason I was in a relationship with this girl for two and a half years. We went on a break about 4 days ago, over some issues. She is saying that she recently hasn't felt the same way about me (within a week or so she hasnt) and doesn't want to be with me anymore, and will come back to me when ready. The other afternoon she told me she wants to end the relationship, so I talked to her told her how I feel asked questions, kind of pleaded, but obviously didn't work. While we were on the break she said she only loves me as a friend and doesn't really care anymore. But later on in the day after the break up she texted me a few times about random stuff. Then around nighttime she texted me saying "im sorry ive been harsh to you i still love you and you will always be in my heart". So I don't know what that is supposed to mean. Anyway what should I do. Im not going to act all needy because that doesn't work, imma tuff it out and see what happens.
Other things to know: She says she likes this other guy he's nice blah blah blah.
Told me that I need to get a job and little things like that.(during the break)
Can anyone offer me some advice, I really love this girl and I want her back in my arms.
If you need to know more feel free to ask.

She is sayin that she recently hasnt felt the same way about me (within a week or so she hasnt) and doesnt want to be with me anymore, and will come back to me when ready.

Break up line no.1 "


she told me she wants to end the relationship, so i talked to her told her how i feel asked questions, kinda pleaded, but obviously didnt work.

Break up line no.2"


While we were on the break she said she only loves me as a friend and doesnt really care anymore.

Break up line no.3


she texted me sayin "im sorry ive been harsh to you i still love you and you will always be in my heart".

Break up line no.3


She says she likes this other guy hes nice blah blah blah.
Told me that i need to get a job and little things like that.(during the break)


She maybe uses different lines but she's been consistent on what she's saying. Just let her go. Yes, get a job and turn your attention on something else.

You should do what she wants, break up! Leave her alone, move on with your life.

Yup, this one was over before your heart even hit the ground my friend. Best thing you can do for yourself is forget about trying to get her back, only thing you will accomplish is hurting yourself. I've said it before and I'll say it again... the best "revenge" you can get on an ex is to live a good life.

This may appear to have happened fairly quickly to you but she has been thinking about it for some time and has made up her mind.

Best thing to do is go No Contact and start your healing process , its not easy but it just saves you hanging on to False Hope and prolonging the process.

Read the stickies at the top of the forum for some good insights , and then just come back and vent and we will all be here to help you through it.

Yeah guess my worse fears have become a reality. Do you think there is any hope left. Like her in a week coming back to me. I know I got to move on and I've already started because I'm a fairly strong guy, but this girl is my weakness. I really care about her and love her to death. She texted me again about 20 min ago, I feel like I'm getting mixed signals. So is her texting me her way of saying were friends now lets talk about friend or I can't let go of you? Earlier she also texted asking how I was... Ive goen through a lot in the past few months, any good things you guys can give me will help a lot.

You have 2 options here:
1. You can play her game and be her doormat. You will be miserable. You will sit around waiting for some form of communication and then drive yourself insane analyzing what her words did or didn't mean.

2. You can cut her loose right now and move on with YOUR life, not hers. As soon as you start playing things by her rules then you give her absolute power and control over your emotions. It's just not worth it.

She feels guilty and that's a normal trait , ie: she doesn't want you to hate her.

Tell her it was her choice to split up and you can't be friends ( because that just gives you these mixed feelings your having)

If you keep answering her texts/emails etc. she knows she has you on a string and then you'll never start your healing process.

Go complete NC and then if she does miss you she MAY come back , but don't hold out for false hope because NC is to help you move on and heal. If she does come back then you will be in a far better place emotionally to decide whether that's what you really want.

Good Luck!

Thanks a lot for replying its helped me put a lot into perspective. As well as this website, you all tell the truth the HARD truth but that's how it is. Imma move on and make my life better. I will keep you posted if anything changes or if I need help through this. Thanks

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Hey I've posted the other day about my relationship break up. Well we were going to stay friends intill we got in a fight today. She says never call me again lose my number blah blah blah. So I was like w.e peace. 20 minutes later she sends me a text saying "by the way i cheated on you 5 times" I call her asking questions she says "you dont deserve to know" she also said some other . 15 minutes after that he calls saying "oh i didnt cheat on you i was just sayin that to piss you off so you would never talk to me again, you would know if i did"... I say yeah whatever peace. Now at this point I'm done with her her she wants to play games with me w.e. Im asking you guys if you think she did or not. It don't really matter as we are done for good, but I just want to know what you think... Ask me for any other info if you want any. Please don't tell me to just forget about it as that's a given just tell me what you think.

Who cares! You even said your done with her [don't make me quote you].

She's a b-- be glad your done with her @$$.

Sarah

She's not part of your life anymore, so you can stop worrying about her. She obviously still has you in her system, so she's just letting it out.

You got to remember that she's healing from your break up too. She's choosing to handle it her way and you should stick to handling it your own way.

Stick with the no contact rules man. If she contacts you again, just ignore it. Let her say whatever she wants. She will recover eventually and realize how immature she is.

Very true stuff, now that I think of it, I should have ended it awhile ago, I think she might have slipped out out of reality awhile ago wish I acknowledged the signs.

Thanks man people on this website have experience with this kind of stuff, good to know when your going through tough times.

Coming from a girl...
They may cheat because they are unhappy for a reason it may have nothing to do with you. If you truly loved her she would expect you to get on with your life and not hassle her.

I had a Bf who hassled me for weeks after our break up and it ended up with me going away for a few months.

Although she has hurt you, you still need to think of what is best for her as well as yourself.

Yeah forsure I think we have kind of grew apart for awhile now so this break up is easy for me, I mean I do hurt but not as bad as you would think. This is best anyway I hope she comes to her senses for the reason of her being extremely out of line for reasons other than this too. But I know what's best for me, I still got my boys, ill find the right girl for me.

Yes you will.

Me and my ex have broken up a few days ago. She says she still wants to remain friends, but says there is no hope of us getting back together. Yesterday she calls me (we got into a fight earlier that day) and says "weve been together for a long time i dont want to through everything away, we have some mixed feelings, we should meet up sometime, but not soon and talk, but we are not gettin back together", I'm like all right. At night she texts me asking do I still love her, I say "yes wbu?" she says "yes. do you still want to me?" I say "why not..." her response is "k jus wondering". What did those texts mean, is she playing head games or what. Just give me your opinion.

Quote: "yes. do you still want to F*** me?"
It didn't type in the first post.

She's insecure right now. She just wants to know if she's still attractive before she completely breaks from you. All you've done is stroked her ego and given her a confidence boost so that she can go out and start dating other dudes. Plain and simple. Be careful.

Damn I was hoping it was some kind of sign, in a good way for me.

Whatever you do, don't meet up with her to talk. If she says there is no chance of getting together, then what's the point? She probably wants to listen to you beg to be with her and all that comes along with it. Just another way for her to get a boost before she puts herself out there with other guys. If I were in your shoes, I'd just tell her that I don't want to see her again and leave it at that. Let her boost your ego for a bit. It sounds like she's not ready to fully leave you behind yet, so she will probably still contact you after this from time to time, until she finds someone else that is. Use this to your advantage and move on.

Yeah its just mind games it drives me nuts, they say things then it gets your mind racing, and brings out all these thoughts, moving on is besst.

So why are you still even putting up with her cruelty? That's the whole problem, your staying in her target zone, instead of ignoring this fool.