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dx4530
Apr 7, 2009, 12:15 PM
Before I begin I wonder if I'm to old to correct my social problems I woke up a little to late in life and saw that there's a series world out there and nobody is born to play games on the computer/internet most of the day like I did when I was from about 15 years old till now when I'm 19 I never cared about socializing or to make friends nothing the main thing I was interested was to get new games brows the net that's it now I'm left in the dark with no friends no social skills what so ever most of my conversations are comprised of a lot of Corney jokes or just things that nobody is really interested I'm trying to make friends everyday I try to say every day good morning what's doing etc. but I don't sound interesting please please somebody help me your so lucky you have friends you don't even begin to feel what it means no friends at all I'm still willing to learn and reverse myself... thanks in advance any comment would be appreciated

HelpinHere
Apr 7, 2009, 11:16 PM
First off, get out there.
If you are in college, or just your community, participate in activities.
If you are into gaming/computers, find a club about electronics/computers/etc. that you would be interested in. I know many local game places like GameStop sometimes hold weekly game nights, that is a great way to meet people.
You DO NOT want to try to change who you are immediately or just join a popular club that you are not interested in because people are there. The last thing you want to do is embarrass yourself in front of many people. It is more work, but is also much easier and truer to yourself to work up the social ladder.
Find something you can do in a social manner that you are interested in, and go from there. You may meet someone who invites you to something else, meet more people there, and expand your horizons almost infinitely.
You don't need to feel like there is anything wrong with you or your life, but if you want to improve your social life, this is how I recommend it.

girlontheshop
Apr 8, 2009, 08:17 AM
If u like electronics you could work in a electronics shop or something and you many make some friends there who may also enjoy technology

talaniman
Apr 8, 2009, 08:42 AM
There is nothing wrong with you other than feeling awkward. We all do. Just balance your life between your game time and getting into the real world and interacting with real people.

Practice makes perfect, so don't be surprised if the results you want (friends) doesn't happen right away. Stay with it and you will get comfortable with just being yourself, and others will pick up on it.

We all go through this.

dx4530
Apr 12, 2009, 10:09 PM
First thanks everybody for helping with your useful opinions I'll try to execute each comment... First some probably didn't understand me clear enough (that's fine) that from 15 years old till now (19) I used to miss class or only go in for about 2 hours or depending which day sometimes longer , most of my mid-older teenage years where NOT SPENT IN SCHOOL just on the computer ( I admit now I was young at the time and a really stooped thing to do , now its just costing me headaches... ) there-for losing most of my social skill's I can barely interact with most people in a normal conversation after a minute I got nothing what to say anymore even to my own mother ,most classmates etc... I've noticed it several times in college because I'll be honest with you I look like a normal intelligent kid... but after some class mates did try by chance to interact with me they just found out who I am because after a few minutes the conversation turned out to boring and wasn't any more really interested in me. A example for you to better understand me would be that I'm never up-to date with the news in my college nobody is intrested in telling me any news for instance that a classmaid got engaged,new proffesores coming in or going out etc... I often find out days later simple things that the rest of my grade knew when it happened I fell like I'm left-out-of-the-action whatever I do know I often find out by incident ( don't get out my words that I'm complaining because I don't now the news ) I have a hard time to find classmates to dorm in camp,sit with me on the bus etc... I'm very bored in college everday is hell, I fell like I'm living in the arctic wilderness between pengwins that don't interact with humins... it's a very said boring life...

HelpinHere
Apr 12, 2009, 10:28 PM
Well then, as far as that goes, try interacting with people OUTSIDE of your college community.
If everyone there is interested in college news, and you said "...i was interested was to get new games brows the net..." then go find people OUTSIDE of college, interested in games, browsing the internet, or other things you are interested in.