K well of course every relationship story starts with a girl rigth of course. So I met her in university saw her walkng down a set of stairs and said to myself *i got to have her* so maybe 2 months later her and I became boyfriend and girlfriend, it was the best feeling of my life. I love life with her she is amazing, makes me laugh, takes care of me, is sweet and kind yet so adorably innocent.

So her and I have now been together for almost 16 months and counting. Now believe me it was not easy, her and I both made our fair share of mistakes but we always talked them out and always made up and it ended up making us stronger in the end.

Here I am in love not a care in the world... well actually that's a lie there's maybe one care... she is Muslim... I am Catholic. Now don't gte me wrong I don't give a hoot what she is or where she is from at all I love her for her I don't love her more or less cause she is muslim that's not me at all, I love her cause she is amazing to me. Maybe 2 months ago the marriage topics was brung up, and yes I would LOVE to marry her I was looking for love and found it. But... I don't know if that can be enough like in fairy tales.

This is a backstory of her and my life. She was born here in Canada, in fact all her brothers and sisters were born here. It was only her parents who immigrated here when they were in there 20's. K so to pick up where I roughly left off her and I started going out... but we could NOT tell her sisters. So her and I dated for roughly hmm maybe 6-9 months without letting her sisters know about anything at all. K so as time went on I grew to love my girlfriend more and more and was thinknig wow I really wanan marry this girl. But one problem for me to marry her I would have to become a muslim. Now note this, this is easier said than done because I have Panic and Anciety Disorder.

K so another month passes and one of her sisters comes up to me and blantly says *you like my sister don't you*... lmao I just stared at her an nodded my head like an idiot. *I was friends with both her sisters while I was dating my girlfriend, we are all very close*. She says *I don't have a problem with that, I don't have a problem with you do you wanan go out with my sister?* I nodded my head again lol she said *u know what that's cool with me I'm fine with it I like you you're a nice pure guy, it's hard to find that these days*. Which is what I am, I'm kind I'm gentle I'm nice I'm sweet I'm caring I'm everything my girlfriend wants. K so now me and my girlfriend *go out* to what her sis thinks even though we have been dating for 9 months now. So later on I tell her other sister that me and her have been going out for just maybe a month and she says *cool I like you your good to her I can see that, I don't have that problem at all took a lot of guts to come tell me that, don't worry about anything*.

So now time passes and it's been almost 16 months with my beautiful angel. *we are like 100% one of her brothers know cause I'm always around her and coarse buy her lunch and movie tickets* and if he had a problem he would have told me plus I'm very close to him to me and him are really good pals.

Now my problem is the marriage thing/topic. Im confused I don't know what to do? Do I love her? You f****** bet I do with all my heart, but do to my panic anxiety disorder things come harder off than they seem and my girlfriend TOTALLY understands that. She said if I were to convert to marry her her and I would take baby steps to try to get to that point. The things is I just don't really get it? Like I understand her parents have a different culture and so forth and I've grown to be a part of it, I tyr to go to muslim things and ceramonies when I want to, to expose myself to the culture.

Just I always think should I really have to change what my whole life has been to please two people *her parents* so they would accept me? Like why can't they accept me for who I am? Im nice caring and sweet and don't drink or do drugs, I beat out about half the muslims at their own game because most people do in fact drink and do drugs when that is a big NO NO. My parnets have FULLY excepted her, they freaking love her *more than me I think somewtimes* haha and my grandparents adore her so much my grandma always brags about her to people. I just don't get maybe why can't hers do the same for me, like I'm not like EVERYONE ELSE I'm my own person and so far I've been doing a damn good job of that.

I love her with all my heart just these question always come in my head. If the parnets are so concerned about *our childrens* religion I will look them both dead in the face and say you want them muslim I will guran-damn-tee it. If that os so important to them then the kids can be muslim. I just dot understand why I must have to change and make sacrifices?

I don't understand this world. Maybe I never will, I just feel my heart aching knowing if I don't convert ill loose her, it's plain as day she will be torn from me. If I don't I lose th elove of my life, if I do who knows maybe when I gte even older id regret it who knows I honestly don't that's just a speculation. I need advice from you guys/girls. OH and to point out I'm not a heavy catholic and she is NOT A HEAVY MUSLIM EITHER we both don't do much in our faith at all, like not even the bare minimum lol.

As my last point I hope I don't offend anyone with this last statement. But god must have a weird sense of humor. To pick out one prophet to spread his word to different groups of people. To have it only divide and separate the world and the people we love the most because of something called "religion"

Oh and to also point I sit here dressed in a suit waiting to become Godfather to my Nephew... lmao ohh the irony

Alpha zero---

Peace be upon you,

Word of advice... as qur'an states--theres no compulsion in religion... therefore if you feel that you would be converting just to please HER PARENTS--- it is better if you do not convert... islam has nothing to do with culture or nationality... if someone says well this is how we do it here and there... forget that, because basics of islam is this --- no white man is better than black, nor is black better than white, or is arab better than black/white and vice versa... if you really love her as you say----research Islam not culture of hers, but Islam the religion, believe me you won't regret it! And listen, if you do end up converting to islam... stick to it and bring her into it even more and I promise you, her parents will be happy, so will both of you and your future generations to come... and God knows best...

First fairy tales are only in books and movies. Finding love is hard and maintaining it takes a lot of devotion,compromise, trust, good communication, and sweat and tears. Your partner shouldn't only be your significant other but your best friend as well.

I am happy you found someone that you love and she loves you back but I sad to him how religion might break the two of you apart. That's a tragedy and I can understand the dilemma your facing.

The Muslim religion is very strict. I am surprise that the family is okay with the two of you dating but I guess they are okay with up until marriage. I to think her parents should except you just like your family have accepted it but sadly it doesn't al!ays work out that way.

I see why your title is what it is and I wish it wasn't. I don't know much about the Muslim religion but I have one member of my family that converted to this religion due to him marrying a girl that was part of it. He did it because he wanted to and before then he didn't belong to any religion.

You have a tought decision ahead of you. I know you wish things was different, religion wise, but the only word of advice I can give you is not to convert to a religion if your ready and if your heart isn't in it. If you dol, make sure you educate yourself about it. It best that you talk to other people that are part of the religion and if you go to the religion board there is an Islam follower expert that can answer any questions you have and I must suggest you visit a Mosque.

You don't understand her culture, and the role parents play in her life. She doesn't understand yours, and what you expect of a wife.

These are things to be overcome by you both. Until you both have a plan as to how you will proceed, enjoying learning, and don't press marriage.

No matter the religion, its still about the plan you both work together on. There is no hurry in that, nor should there be. You must both learn of each other, and of yourselves, and have your own plan. That takes time and communications.

Take the time to talk honestly, as you have here, to your g/f. Working together is how you find solutions, and lift the weight of the world off your shoulders.

Don't be so blind by love you miss the options you have, explore them all. You have plenty of time.