ericssonjohn
Apr 5, 2009, 07:00 PM
Hi All
I have a question about how to deal with people like work colleagues that always disagrees.
I had a boss that never ever agrees with anything a suggest, yet my other boss is completely opposite and is very encouraging to my suggestions that are often very good according to others. I got so fed up with this so I quit. But after a few years I came to another place to do a job and came across another person who was just the same, and I noticed that if I came with a direct suggestion it was never ever approved, but if I put it in a different way such as "I knew a guy who did a job this way..." and left it like that, he would come back after a day or two and "telling me how to solve the problem" just the way I said "the guy I knew" had done it.
I'm sure I have seen a word for this, something like "reverse polarity personality" or something like this.
My questions are these: How do you deal with these persons?
What causes them to act like this?
Is it a common thing?
It is almost as if they cannot accept that someone younger can suggest anything at all, like a complex to always know better. I don't know but it is extremely tiering to work like this and you often stop having any input at all, cause all your ideas will get shot down anyway.
Thanks for the word:
John
I have a question about how to deal with people like work colleagues that always disagrees.
I had a boss that never ever agrees with anything a suggest, yet my other boss is completely opposite and is very encouraging to my suggestions that are often very good according to others. I got so fed up with this so I quit. But after a few years I came to another place to do a job and came across another person who was just the same, and I noticed that if I came with a direct suggestion it was never ever approved, but if I put it in a different way such as "I knew a guy who did a job this way..." and left it like that, he would come back after a day or two and "telling me how to solve the problem" just the way I said "the guy I knew" had done it.
I'm sure I have seen a word for this, something like "reverse polarity personality" or something like this.
My questions are these: How do you deal with these persons?
What causes them to act like this?
Is it a common thing?
It is almost as if they cannot accept that someone younger can suggest anything at all, like a complex to always know better. I don't know but it is extremely tiering to work like this and you often stop having any input at all, cause all your ideas will get shot down anyway.
Thanks for the word:
John