Hi guys,

I am in a serious trouble, I am in love with a girl and she is in a serious relationship with another guy, but by the time I came to know about this I already started Loving her. Now I cannot quit I love her a lot. I know her from 1 1/2 year, the day I saw her I felt in love with her, but later I came to know that she is already in love with some other guy from more than 2 years, they both know each other from 4 years and their family members also agreed for their marriage. Now she doesn't have any feelings for another guy. Now she is a very good friend to me, in fact best friend of mine. But how should I tell her about my feelings. I am scared that she may feel bad and any thing may happen. But I can assure one thing that if I propose her she will never get angry on me but at the same time she will not accept me, because she lover him a lot and he loves her a lot. I don't say that I will not be able to live with out her. But I will definitely say that "I will bring her every happiness in the world", I can look after her 100 times better than him. I don't say that he is bad because now he is also a good friend to me. The main point is she knows that I love her but she never tried to show that.
I can definitely say 1thing that she will or may not be happy with him forever, the reason for my confidence is I came to know about her past (in fact she told me), she was already engaged to some else before she fell in love with the present guy and she was also about to get married with him, her sur-name is also changed in all documents (no one knows this expect me, her boyfriend and her mom), but at that time the guy dumped her and ran away. She was in depression and at that time her present boyfriend was working with her and of course he was a good friend to her, he proposed her at that time and he made her realize that he is not that kind of a guy who is going to cheat her. It took her 2years to accept his proposal as she was in depression, Later he convinced her parents as well. The main reason behind her acceptance was because he tried to help her in that sad situation and the way he convinced her. One more thing I found was that she accepted him because he has been waiting for her for more than 2 years. So she just accepted like that but later life moved on and she adjusted with him but now he is every thing to her. This is her story and no body knows this, even the guys parents and her family members except her Mom. Her boyfriend never dared to tell this with his parents because he knows that they will never agree for this, they will not allow him to get married with a partially divorced (because as per all her documents she has, she is married, her name is also changed in all the documents, Including my office database she is legally married, moreover she cannot even apply for a divorce as she don't know where that guy is)

But what about me I really Love her. You may think that I am stupid but what should I do. I only know 1 thing that I can make her happy more than any one in this world. For my surprise I came to know that she is getting married to him in the next month. And I don't even have any issues with her past as well as my parents will never go against my wish.

So, guys suggest me something, so that I can get her. I really need her in my Life. And don't say or suggest to forget her.

you really need to tell her, otherwise your going to lose her forever. just ask her out for a coffee and tell her.

Sorry, but I'm going to say exactly what you don't want to hear: she is involved and planning to marry someone else so she is not available to you.

You say that he is a friend of yours so I can in no way suggest you pursue his fiancé. She's made her choice and if she wanted to marry you, she would.

I think you've answered your own question when you say she "would never accept a proposal" from you because she loves him a lot.

you really need to tell her, otherwise your going to lose her forever. just ask her out for a coffee and tell her.

Thanks for suggestion, I am actually planning for that, But whts next? She may say no to me

Sorry, but I'm gonna say exactly what you don't want to hear: she is involved and planning to marry someone else so she is not available to you.

You say that he is a friend of yours so I can in no way suggest you pursue his fiance. She's made her choice and if she wanted to marry you, she would.

I think you've answered your own question when you say she "would never accept a proposal" from you because she loves him a lot.


I do understand that, But I am helpless, that's the reason I am looking for some other ways

I only believe one thing - Nothing is Impossible, but I don't know whether it is going to work in this case or not?

Thanks for suggestion, I am actually planning for that, But whts next? She may say no to me


If she says no.
Then if I'm honest with you. Its over for good. You've lost her.
But there's plenty more fish in the sea right?
And if you genuinely can't move on, then you need to explain it all.
Hope this helps, good luck! Xx

She is In love with someone else and getting married, Which means she is not available to you.
How can you claim to be her friend when you want to destroy her relationship with a man who she loves and makes her happy. You said yourself that he is everything to her. You said "I can make her happy more than any one in this world." How is wanting her to leave someone who is everything to her going to make her happy? If she doesn't want to be with you then no, you can't make her more happy than anyone else in the world.

Also if you do tell her and she feels the same way and leaves her fiancé for you, who's to say she won't then leave you when the next guy she likes comes along.

You say she definitely maybe (which contradicts itself) won't be happy forever with him, and you know this how? Because she told you about how her ex left her? How does this prove she won't be happy with her current boyfriend.

In my opinion if you loved her you would let her be happy, which she is with her current boyfriend, If you tell her your feelings she will almost defiantly not leave for you and it will make your friendship awkward.

She's getting married and that means this girl is head over heels in-love with her fiancé. Most likely she will say no.

She can't be happy while you're just watching forgetting the rest of the world. You got to life on your own. Next time, don't get involved to an involved.

Start staying away to move on. Switch your focus. NOW!!

So basically you have wasted a lot of time not telling her how you feel?? Now you want her to change all her plans because you waited how many years??

Seems to me you had your chance long ago. You go tell her how you feel now, and see what she says but be prepared for the worst.

No more excuses, come clean, and deal with the consequences, since you weren't man enough before, to be honest with her, and not man enough now, to do the right thing.

Curious though if she is legally married, why are your chances any different than anyone else's?? It's a sham either way it goes, and doesn't matter with whom.

You say yourself that she is very much in love with her fiancé, and he is everything to her... do her a favor and stay out of this. You aren't the one, he is. You will get over your feelings for her in time.

Don't tell her!

What do you expect to happen? You tell her how you feels then she goes running into the sunset with you?

Get real by getting a grip of reality.

If you can stand being happy for your friend or control your feelings for her--than you don't need to be her friend.

Time to start making some new friends and don't disturb this lady life because I guarantee the outcome won't be what you expect.

So basically you have wasted a lot of time not telling her how you feel??? Now you want her to change all her plans because you waited how many years???

Seems to me you had your chance long ago. You go tell her how you feel now, and see what she says but be prepared for the worst.

No more excuses, come clean, and deal with the consequences, since you weren't man enough before, to be honest with her, and not man enough now, to do the right thing.

Curious though if she is legally married, why are your chances any different than anyone else's??? Its a sham either way it goes, and doesn't matter with whom.

Have to spread rep.

There's your answer. Why would you wait so long to tell her how you feel?

However, you will regret it and feel even more pain if you don't let her know how you feel. You better let her know before she actually gets married, but don't expect her to feel the same way about you.

Hey dude I'm in in a similar kind of problem, the girl whom I love once said that she loves me and she had an ex- byfriend whom she loved very much but now after a silly recovery from a misunderstanding, she says she has a boy friend and now I'm in dilema whether she is testing me or I have lost her love. She talks to me ssometimes as I'm her boyfriend but she always reminds me about her boyfriend... please suggest me, what should I do. Should I leave her or should I wait??
For your problem I wold just suggest you to forget her and help yourself forget her in being your life partner