Avasean
Apr 4, 2009, 01:43 PM
I had been BEST FRIENDS with this girl since we were in the 5th grade. We did everything together; I was always over at her house spending the night, the weekends, the summers... we were inseparable.
As we grew up, I moved away for a year, then came back. In that year, I don't know if it was me or her that changed (or both), but from the time I moved back until almost a year ago, we were kind of friends off and on.
I don't mean to make her the bad guy and myself a saint (cuz I am nowhere near one), but every time things seemed to be going good between her and I, one of us would get a new boyfriend and she would start crap with me (if I had a boyfriend, she'd start crap with him too). I do admit that I did not ignore her childishness, but instead I fought back. It seems like she would just find things to fight with me about.
December of 2006, my doctors and I thought for a while that I wouldn't be able to have kids (we were wrong... I'm 38 weeks now). She decided in the middle of one of our month-long fights that she would bring that up and rub it in my face that she already had kids. Again, I didn't ignore it, I retaliated.
We became friends again... and in July of 2007, she and I were supposed to go see WWE RAW. Her mom was taking us for our birthdays. Well, being stupid (myself), I did something that I am not proud of and ended up getting arrested. I covered for her (because we had her daughter with us) so she didn't get arrested also. Instead of calling my mother or my fiancée... she just went to WWE RAW anyway AND took another one of our friends in my place.
We became friends again... and the next summer, she started dating my fiancee's work buddy. She started fights with me again; I don't know why or even what it was about. She would call me names, tell her boyfriend things which caused tension between him and my fiancée... which caused problems at work... which my fiancée then brought home and caused problems between him and myself.
My family had been telling me from the very first fight that I needed to get away from her and that she was no good and would never grow up. After the last fight caused problems between me and my fiancée, I decided that if she wouldn't grow up, then I would! I began ignoring her and have continued to ignore her for almost 2 years now.
She sends me emails on myspace which I read to make sure that someone in her family (who had become somewhat of my family) has not had some kind of accident or died or whatever. Then, I delete the message. I do not respond to her at all. Every time I get one of her emails, something tells me that she has somehow changed. I know you can't tell by a computer; it's something you have to see for yourself. I just don't want to be wrong and waste my time.
Any advice? Do you think people can truly change?
As we grew up, I moved away for a year, then came back. In that year, I don't know if it was me or her that changed (or both), but from the time I moved back until almost a year ago, we were kind of friends off and on.
I don't mean to make her the bad guy and myself a saint (cuz I am nowhere near one), but every time things seemed to be going good between her and I, one of us would get a new boyfriend and she would start crap with me (if I had a boyfriend, she'd start crap with him too). I do admit that I did not ignore her childishness, but instead I fought back. It seems like she would just find things to fight with me about.
December of 2006, my doctors and I thought for a while that I wouldn't be able to have kids (we were wrong... I'm 38 weeks now). She decided in the middle of one of our month-long fights that she would bring that up and rub it in my face that she already had kids. Again, I didn't ignore it, I retaliated.
We became friends again... and in July of 2007, she and I were supposed to go see WWE RAW. Her mom was taking us for our birthdays. Well, being stupid (myself), I did something that I am not proud of and ended up getting arrested. I covered for her (because we had her daughter with us) so she didn't get arrested also. Instead of calling my mother or my fiancée... she just went to WWE RAW anyway AND took another one of our friends in my place.
We became friends again... and the next summer, she started dating my fiancee's work buddy. She started fights with me again; I don't know why or even what it was about. She would call me names, tell her boyfriend things which caused tension between him and my fiancée... which caused problems at work... which my fiancée then brought home and caused problems between him and myself.
My family had been telling me from the very first fight that I needed to get away from her and that she was no good and would never grow up. After the last fight caused problems between me and my fiancée, I decided that if she wouldn't grow up, then I would! I began ignoring her and have continued to ignore her for almost 2 years now.
She sends me emails on myspace which I read to make sure that someone in her family (who had become somewhat of my family) has not had some kind of accident or died or whatever. Then, I delete the message. I do not respond to her at all. Every time I get one of her emails, something tells me that she has somehow changed. I know you can't tell by a computer; it's something you have to see for yourself. I just don't want to be wrong and waste my time.
Any advice? Do you think people can truly change?