It's a real big story m just putting up here in brief... I am bit reserved kind of guy, always use to get shy while talking with girls.. hence, never had ny girlfriend... n never felt desperately the need to have a girlfriend. I was happy and satisfied from my life.. had lot of dreams and ambitions... my hobbies.. my desires. And then one day I met a girl. Fall in love with her and my life got changed from that very moment. She never loved me but liked me a lot as a good friend. At one point of time I started feeling intensely about her. But then I understood that we can't force nyone to love. So I started taking her as a good friend. Though it was not a easy task for me... but then I got used to it. Today she called me and told that she is getting married next month. Suddenly I started feeling very depressed and sad. Don't know but I got this feeling that I should end this relationship now, so I told her that forget me and live your life happily. Because I can't see her spending life with sumone else. I don't have that strength to accept this fact that she belongs to sumone else from now onwards :(. We had a long discussion about this today. I was trying to convince her by saying that as destiny bought us together 2 yrs before... same way we'll meet each other in future again if it's written in our destiny. She told me that all this is crap and I can't loose u. I am totally screwed up... I don't know how to handle this situation now. How will I b able to cop up in future with the fact that she is married now and stay her good friend. I loved her like nything and did whatever I can do for her. I don't know whether nyone can take her place again in my life. This feeling is eating up me from inside and making me feel very weak :(

Listen this girl isn't your girlfriend and never have been so I don't understand why you can't accept the fact that she is getting married and holding that over her head.

You expressed your feelings towards her and she didn't feel the same and you knowing that still decide to be her friend.

Now you want to know what to do? Accept that she isn't more than a friend and if you can't keep your feelings under control than stop being her friend and make new ones. There problem solve.

She told me that all this is crap n i can't loose u. I am totally screwed up...i dunno how to handle this situation now. How will i b able to cop up in future with the fact that she is married now n stay her good friend.:(


Find a girl on your own and she should understand that. If she's your friend, she shouldn't be selfish. She can't be happily married while you are just watching forgetting about the rest of the world. You got a life on your own. You should start staying away from her, NOW

I can see you being disappointed, knowing that you will never have her for more than friendship, but you have put too much into her being a friend if you ask me.

Now that there is no reason for any more false hope, its time to get back to the other areas of your life, and making new friends, and leave her alone to be happy with her life, and you be happy for her.

You may be shy, but that's no excuse not to deal with your feelings in a mature way, without the excuses.



I was trying to convince her by saying that as destiny bought us together 2 yrs before... same way we'll meet each other in future again if it's written in our destiny. She told me that all this is crap

Thanks a lot guys for such nice and mature suggestions. What I feel now that the best thing to do is to stay being her good friend and make her happy. Finally that's what I always prayed that she should stay happy in ny condition. If staying with me as a good friend makes her feel happy then m ready for it :). And coming on to my life.. what I feel now that m done with this love business, now I should concentrate more on my career and goals.

God bless you all