ynyra
Sep 8, 2006, 03:19 PM
I have a dilema. While I was expecting I told the father of my child that he was not in fact the father and The baby was due earlier. I found out he had been lying about who he was when I got a call from prison as he was basically an immigrant and it a part of the country he shouldn't have been.
He tried to register himself to my address but without my knowledge. Then turned up on my doorstep late at night with nowhere to stay. He then had to go back to where he should have been and two months later I had only spoken to him on the phone. He said he would come to visit but cancelled at the last minute. I made the decision then that I could not rely on him and both myself and the child would be better off without him so set up the lie that he was not the father. I told him earlier to give him a chance to come and find us. I had to move around this time so he can no longer find us. We have been in contact by email but he does not know where we are or much about the baby. He has since left the country and been sent home. He says he misses me and would like to meet us when he comes back. I feel enormous guilt over my lies but am scared that he wants us only so he can live in this country. I wonder if I should meet him and maybe tell him about his child. I wonder if he really is a poor guy who has had a really unfortunate set of circumstances or the bad penny appears to be. Should I meet with him again?
He tried to register himself to my address but without my knowledge. Then turned up on my doorstep late at night with nowhere to stay. He then had to go back to where he should have been and two months later I had only spoken to him on the phone. He said he would come to visit but cancelled at the last minute. I made the decision then that I could not rely on him and both myself and the child would be better off without him so set up the lie that he was not the father. I told him earlier to give him a chance to come and find us. I had to move around this time so he can no longer find us. We have been in contact by email but he does not know where we are or much about the baby. He has since left the country and been sent home. He says he misses me and would like to meet us when he comes back. I feel enormous guilt over my lies but am scared that he wants us only so he can live in this country. I wonder if I should meet him and maybe tell him about his child. I wonder if he really is a poor guy who has had a really unfortunate set of circumstances or the bad penny appears to be. Should I meet with him again?