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microwave oven
Apr 2, 2009, 05:48 PM
Here's the deal. I'm in my mid 20s & I met a guy in a class I was taking. It was very obvious that he liked me & I would always see him checking me out. He'd go out of his way to talk to me & made it a point to hang out with me during lunch breaks. After a couple of weeks he texted me to hang out outside of class, but I told him no (I had no interest in him at the time, & frankly found him annoying). Then he asked me again & I said yes, partially out of boredom, but I was also intrigued. Since then we've been hanging out constantly. When we're not together, we're on the phone or texting. He's super flirty with me some days (he gives me nicknames, holds my hand, puts his arm around me, teases me etc.), but other days we're more like good buddies. There have been times when he's practically begged me to hang out with him. I got tired of the mixed signals, so I asked him if we were just pals or trying to be more. As soon as I said this he looked like he saw a ghost & got all quiet. The next day he called me to give me an explanation, saying he was hung up on an ex & that's what's holding him back & that he's on & off w/ his behavior and feelings. Now he's been toning down his flirtations w/ me & I feel like we're just old pals, which sucks because I do like him more than a friend. We hve tons in common & there's never a lull in our conversations. It's just frustrating because I thought for sure he felt the same way, otherwise I wouldn't have jeopardized our friendship by asking him point blank. It's so annoying because I didn't even like him to begin with. He pursued me!

expat in SM
Apr 2, 2009, 05:52 PM
OP,

I completely understand how you feel! I have had same thing happened to me. I took it light hearted since it happened at work, it is not wise to date within the same company any ways.

So my advice is that -taking it light hearted. Sometimes you do need to protect yourself from be hurt.

About him, you don't know for sure if he truly likes you or not, me either, I can't tell!
So don't blame on him being a player, just take it light hearted and stay friends.