I am 17 years old I am pregnant and my fiancé is going to the military soon I want to go with him he was in the army about a year ago and got sent back for injury he wants to go back now so he can make a better life for us my parents would not be OK with this is there any state that will let me get married being 17 and pregnant without a parents consent?
If your just going to lecture me do not reply I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years.

What state do you currently reside in with your parents? And when do you turn 18?

You have to be 18 to get married. However, if your parents don't treat you as well as they should you may be able to get Emancipated. But there has to be just cause in order to that.

I think you should talk to your parents. Let them know that you realize you made a mistake my getting pregnant so early. But you have made an adult decision, they should allow you to provide for your child.

Remember that your parents just want what is best for you. They want to protect you. I think you should wait it out until you turn 18, then make the decision to move with your boyfriend. Plus, it might not be so bad with your parents help for the firt few months of having the baby. Just a thought.

First was he "discharged" from the military for the inury or just on leave.

If discharged his first problem or issue will be getting back in. If that is what he really wants, that he what he has to do first.

After that you wait till you are 18 and get married.

I am sure your parents want you to finish high school and then the best life for you.

I will be 18 in march next year. I live in Ohio and as I have been told you can't get ammansipatied in Ohio is this true? I need to get out.

Here are some links that may help you:

Ohio Marriage License Information, Laws, Requirements (http://www.weddingvendors.com/marriage-license-laws/united-states/ohio/)
Ohio Emancipation Laws (http://www.expertlaw.com/forums/showthread.php?t=1900\)
http://www.youthrights.net/index.php?title=Ohio_Emancipation_Law

MRS.S

OK thank you very much I have done a lot of research on this and some say you can get married without a consent if your pregnant not in Ohio but in other states I have a long while before I turn 18 I can't just be doomed for the next year there has to be something that can be done

The best thing you can do is talk it out with your parents. Tell them you wish to move out, your going to have a child and you need to not only act like an adult but be an adult. Meaning paying for rent, bills and handling life situations.

You could make this into a "group meeting" where you, him and each of your parents discuss this like adults.

I would suggest having a mediator in your conversation, like a school councilor, a pastor or even a therapist.

MRS.S

It's too bad you feel you will be "doomed" to wait for marriage, which is a lifelong commitment.

What is one year in a lifetime?

It's too bad you feel you will be "doomed" to wait for marriage, which is a lifelong commitment.

What is one year in a lifetime?

Very true. However we don't know how her relationship is with her parents. Believe it or not some parents abuse their children, whether it's verbally, mentally or even physically.

Sorry if that seemed condescending, internet communication is funny like that.


MRS.S

Very true. However we don't know how her relationship is with her parents. Believe it or not some parents abuse their children, whether it's verbally, mentally or even physically.

Sorry if that seemed condescending, internet communication is funny like that.


MRS.S


Ok, but I haven't heard any complaints similar to that.

What I hear is a person who believes she is ready to run away and is willing to go behind her parents backs without their permission to get married before the law even recommends marriage (for great reason).

I believe that if we have parents that are stating that she needs to wait for marriage, we probably are talking about some responsible parents. That doesn't indicate to me any form of abuse.

I think we are wrong to encourage against a parents wishes, when it is clear parents would know their daughter better than we would and it doesn't require jumping to fill in the blanks to respond.

Very true. Like I said we don't really know their relationship.

Aaron2Baby: If moving out is what you want you need to understand that marriage isn't a ticket to freedom. It may seem like that to her now, but in the end you get packed on with more responsibility than you had to begin with. I'm not suggesting that moving in is less harder, you still have responsibilities on your shoulders.

Try talking it out with your parents, as I mentioned in my previous post.

MRS.S

maybe canada?

Haha moving to Canada would be a lot harder. Immigration papers, cost, finding a job, finding a place to live... the list goes on!


MRS.S

but the plus would be government healthcare for your baby

She can still apply for Medicare in the U.S.

Plus it'll take her 1 year [plus], to receive things like Child Tax, National Children's Cheque, GST or any other things like OHIP.


Moving out of the country is out of the question- you need a reddie!

MRS.S

Yes my parents are the reason I want out aaron is always going to be there no matter how long we wait that is not what it is about I have been moving around places trying to get away I got a job I'm saving money for when I leave I have a car he has a job my parents are divorsed and there has been some major issues here resently and in the past with my father who I am living with at the time but I did sit down with my mother who I am trying to move back in with although my dad says he will not allow it and my mom has said she understands and that she will sign the consent for me to get married now my question is can she be the only one to sign or does my father have to as well.

Who said anything about moving to canada lol I don't have enough money for that lol and so this parent thing is settled I understand that teens come on here who are just mad at there parents but that is not how it is with me there has been police report after police report I have been through much more pain then I should and now I am pregnant I don't have to worry about just me getting hurt now

In the court order for your parents who has legal custody of you?

First, even if you were to get married in another state you have to be a resident of that state and most states require you live there for at least 6 months.

Which parent actually has custody of you because most likely you would need that parent consent.

Also, your 17 so you only have 1 more year until your 18, so why not wait until then?