We dated for four years. I KNOW it's true love, it's not just a crush or something physical... I miss him, he's my best friend, he understands me completely, I trust him to the fullest... He's the person I've opened myself to the most.

Just hugging him gives me chills, it makes me feel alive... We were THE PERFECT COUPLE... But here's the thing: we were too young.

We started dating at 13 and ended our relationship at 17. I honestly think it's wrong timing. There is no one in this world who can understand me better, who knows me better, who makes me feel as safe and as loved as he does... We still tell each other everything, we still hook up sometimes, and I know he still has some feelings for me... And I'm still in love with him.

But I don't think he wants a relationship anymore, not with me, not with anyone. Not right now. And I'm not sure about his feelings for me.

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We broke up last November and didn't talk for almost three months. Then, slowly, we got back in touch, just as friends, but only online. One day he asked me (online) about some guys I'd been hooking up with... I thought it was weird but I answered everything.
Later that night he called me and said he didn't like the fact that I hooked up with them, told me he wrote me many text messages but erased them all, because of his pride; that he dialed my number several times, but didn't call, because of his pride; he'd go "Can I tell you something", or "Can I ask you something", and when I said "Yes" he'd say "No, I don't wanna say anything anymore. I'll tell you someday".

After that, we started talking on the phone again, most of the time I called HIM, but he called me a few times too. I figured, he was the one who broke the barrier and it sure took a lot of courage... So I had to take the next few steps.

This one night we stayed up ALL NIGHT reminiscing about us. We talked about many great and also many sad moments from the years we spent together... And it was amazing. I felt his emotions come through and mine did too.

But then we talked and he implied that "dating again was not an option", all those sorts of things. He just pushed me away.
Now, he has an INCREDIBLE AMOUNT OF PRIDE, so I can't tell if he really doesn't want anything, if he wants to keep me around, or if he has real feelings and won't tell me because of his pride. He NEVER lets his feelings show.

It's really complicated, I can't tell if he's really moved on or if he just wants me to keep loving him, for possessive reasons. He hasn't been really open with me, and whenever he gets the chance he tells me about how he does NOT get jealous when it comes to me, that he's just possessive... He always finds a way to tell me he does NOT like me anymore.

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I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should just let him go, or if I should forget about my pride and talk to him about getting back together. Or play some kind of game of "I'm over you", I don't know... HELP??

If you really love him and want to try to make things work, just be honest with him. Tell him that you still have feelings for him, and ask him if he would be willing to give your relationship another chance. If he says no, move on. You are still very young and still have a lot of time before you should be getting back in a serious relationship. GL :D:D

I had a very intense and serious relationship with "my best friend" in high school. He and I talked about everything, made plans for the future, kids, we had it all planned out. It was the kind of love where you don't ever picture a future unless it has both of you there, together. After several years our relationship came to a devastating end. We broke up (it had been heading that way for months) but we drug it on for almost another year and a half after that (hooking up occasionally, then getting jealous over new/potential girlf/boyf's) in the end... we were finally able to distance ourselves from each other enough to become[platonic] friends and move on. At the time, I only used to wish we would get back together and couldn't imagine anything better. Now, 6 years later, I am engaged to the most wonderful, loving, perfect man and my ex and I are still friends and completely happy for each other. I've come to see not just the "good things" we had together, but all the bad things that existed then that I don't have with my fiancé at all. Moral of the story: in HS it's so hard to see beyond the here and now. Until you've really had a chance to live and meet someone who will really, truly, deserve and cherish you and not have to 'remind you' that he doesn't like you. Trust me when I say I know how you are feeling and I know the hopelessness... but you have your WHOLE LIFE ahead of you (I'm only 25) and sooner than you know it, you'll be standing next to the person who was really meant for you saying "I do" and you'll look back on the past and smile, and that will be it. It sounds like your boyf is doing his best to try and get you to move on... if you think he means it, then do yourself the favour and think about what it is that YOU want (don't spend all your time trying to decipher his mixed messages) and just know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Good luck!

This guy wants you but doesn't want a relationship with you, let alone anyone at this moment.

Then he gets upset/jealous when you start to move on with your life by dating other guys.

This guy doesn't want to be in a relationship with you and at the same time doesn't want anyone else to have you. I guess he wants you float along life waiting for him to decide what he wants and guess what your doing it.

If your going be friends with this guy then go ahead but separate your romance life from this friendship and stop letting him confuse you and miss out on your happiness.

Let go of the past and stop waiting for him to decides on what he wants.

Well, then... I'll just move on. That's my decision.

I know it'll be hard, but I guess it'll just make me a stronger person.

Thank you guys so much for your help... It really opened my eyes.

Believe it or not it will make you stronger.

I don't even though you should be friends with him right now because it will only weaken you. Especially when he's telling you "I miss you, I love you", blah, blah. That's only stopping you from moving on and keeping you stuck in the situation because it giving you false hope.

However, if you decide to stay friends with him set boundaries. When he crosses them make him aware of it and don't listen to his "I miss you, I love you,etc Because I know if you stay friends with him he is going say these things.

So again glad you listen but I hope you stick to your guns. And again, I don't think it is in your best interest to stay friends with this guy.