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heartsmashed82
Apr 1, 2009, 05:08 AM
I'm a 26 year old gay male from New Zealand.

2 weeks ago i checked my email and found an ex had found me on a website called OldFriends.com where u can contact people you haven't seen for a long time. He wanted to meet me again after not seeing each other for 10 years. We met and fell into each others arms when we laid eyes on each other. We had the most amazing 4 days together and i fell in love with him all over again. Then he just ended it after we had a wee argument, without any explanation and I have gone from loving life and feeling wonderful to becoming alone, depressed and i can't stop crying. I never did anything wrong and am such a loveable guy. I miss him so much. I don't now what to do and i feel worthless. What can I do?

Phillip. :(

artlady
Apr 1, 2009, 05:31 AM
Then he just ended it after we had a wee argument, without any explanation
Perhaps the wee argument was the catalyst for the breakup.Maybe wee to you but not to him.

Your perception and his may be vastly different. What you saw as an opportunity for a long lasting romance and what he saw were two different things.

Clearly,you need to move past this and get on with the business of living.

You did only invest four days.Be grateful you did not invest longer as it seems clear he had a different agenda.

Break-ups are the worst but you have to force yourself to put one foot in front of the other and continue on.

I wish
Apr 1, 2009, 07:09 AM
Didn't see each other for 10 years? Sounds like both of you can be completely different people.

Sounds to me like he's as total stranger and you were expecting too much out of a 4 day relationship.

Think about it this way, had he not found you, you would not even have had those 4 days. Be happy that you got to see him again and had a great time!

talaniman
Apr 1, 2009, 09:30 AM
Sorry it didn't last as long as you wanted it, or end the way you thought it would... BUT, you did get 4 good days out of it, appreciate it for what it was, a great catch up weekend type thing, now its back to reality.

Romefalls19
Apr 1, 2009, 09:39 AM
Sadly it sounds like you wanted more than he did. He wanted a quick vacation from life, and you wanted him to share life with him. Be happy for the time you had and take this as a lesson that you deserve better.