I see people here focusing on the positives of being single. More free time, being able to do things on your own, not having to deal with the negatives and drama of that person that lead to the breakup, etc etc...

What if this doesn't apply?

What do you do if you're stuck and completely confused as to why you've been dumped or if the only reasons you have are negatives of yourself? What if you got along great with your ex and you enjoyed doing everything with that person? No arguments to remember and nothing but positive memories that torture you knowing it's over.

Nobody and nothing is perfect but you can love someone more because of their flaws. It's those flaws that makes the person human and the relationship real. It's those flaws that you fell in love with.


How does one recover when you can't answer: Why?

There must have been something in the relationship that wasn't meeting the needs of your ex. Relationships are a mutual fulfilling of needs and when some needs are not being met and its not being communicated it can be hard to understand why that person left.

Maybe it is not a question of why? Maybe it is more of knowing and realizing that the relationship is over and it does not really matter why? It is over, and that is all that you need to know. I do believe that you need to get past that why? Just understand that your better off knowing now then down the road later on which would be a lot harder. This experience is just that and experience. Now it is time to heal and know that a better, a stronger relationship will happen in the future. That will be because of what you learned from this relationship.