Hello, Im 19 and I have a little problem
Ok so there was this guy that I liked for about two years now. We went through high school and never officially dated, but we both knew that we really liked each other. In the last couple months of senior year he got a girlfriend and that hurt. I was always there for him whenever he needed me around and I started to think that he was taking advantage of my caring and loving nature because he would always run back to her. Anyway for about the last month or so we have been hanging out a lot, movie nights, dinner, or whatever. Well, I'm starting to think that I'm not that into him. Like when I'm around him I don't feel the passion that I used to feel for him. Its just kind of like "blah". I don't feel the chemistry that I used to feel for him. Could it be that I spent so much time wanting and wondering and playing the what if game that I couldn't really see that we aren't really compatible at all? When I'm with him I do enjoy his company and I would help him if he ever needed it but "its" just not there. Do I tell him? I don't know if that would be the right thing to do. I mean I've fought for him this long and then I don't even want it anymore? He tells me that he doesn't want to lead me in the wrong direction and the he's not ready for a relationship and so he's not that affectionate or anything and Im a very affectionate person. Could that be part of the reason that I'm feeling the way I feel. Please help

Tell him, you aren't into him and you can't force that, nor should you want to.

Just remember this when he moves on again and you all the sudden feel like you messed up. Sometimes it's really just about wanting what you can't have.

I am a little confused-- are the two of you actually dating or just friends? The reason I asked is because you state that your not that into him and you want to tell him but than you say he told you that he doesn't want a relationship right now.

Sometimes when you are friends with someone of the opposite sex things can get fuzzy. It becomes fuzzy because you get comfortable with them and sometimes engage in activities you would do when you have a boyfriend or girlfriend. Then feelings starts to kick in especially when your not involve with someone at the time so I can understand the confusion.

Sounds like you didn't know him too tell well before and now that you got to know him better, he's more of a friend to you than a boyfriend.

I don't think you really need to say anything. But if it makes you feel better, you could tell him that you used to like him and now you just see him as a friend. That way, the tension is out and you guys can just be normal friends.

I guess we're not friends but we never made it official, but I don't want to anymore

Them step back and just be friends with him, if you want to.