Ever since I recall, from my childhood, I have never had any "friends", I just don't know why. Am 25 yrs old now, and still the trend continues, what is it? I wonder, but I can't figure an answer at all. To be honest, I think subconsciosly I have developed a mentality to please everybody, this is a mistake, but I just can't turn back. At work, every member of my team needs my help to figure something or other, be it handling a client messaging or a technical glitch... whtever whatever. But that's it, they form their own groups and I feel left out.

I am by nature an outspoken person, If I find something wrong, I say its wrong and try and find a solution for it. I see everything as an opportunity. People on the corporate "above" know me and appreciate my work and come to me to help them create a solution for their otherwise mundane tasks. When my entire team comes to work and goes home just doing at least partially doing what they are paid for, I sit at nights coding or creating the solution that I promised. Believe me, I have spent 48 hrs non stop in my cube on the same chair without sleep or food or even taking a leak. Some maybe call this extremely obsessed. But me on the other hand, when the solution that I make solves a problem, all these self inflicted so called "suffering" are just worth it.

Sometimes I feel, for the work that I do, or the way I do it, I at least out to be proud, but am not. Its just such a hallow feeling, I just don't know. I wonder if there are any body like me out there ? Why is it that some of us don't have friends ?

Apply as much effort to your personal life as you do your work life, and perhaps you will get more out of it. You have to separate the two, they aren't one in the same. While it is good to be so dedicated to work, it doesn't leave much room for a social life to speak of, does it?

Being a good friend requires being a great listener. Try listening and relating to others more. Being devoted to work can have it's drawbacks. Most people like to leave work at work and face friendships that way. Do you have any hobbies that you enjoy? Making friends that have the same values is always beneficial.

I never thought about these things until a couple of months ago. But you guys, are right. I just don't have any personal life at all, its ages since I had any fun at all. I spend close to 16 hrs at work and the rest of the time I sleep, including weekends.

Even relationships for that matter, I just shun them away, I met an awesome girl at work some time ago, we knew each other for about 10 days, was great, then I was down with a bad flu, and she started crying over the phone hearing my voice. At that moment, something happened, After that I kept avoiding her and after sometime it just cooled off. This sort of thing happens to me all the time. No relationship has lasted no more than a month.

I now know, its all my fault. But I don't know what am I doing wrong. I just don't know what to do ? I feel trapped by myself.

I used to play a lot of soccer back in college, used to love the game. I am looking at a soccer ball right now, I just don't have that interest anymore. Guess I have lost it. I hate to sound like this. I am a positive guy all right, but I know right now it doesn't make any sense.

I feel your pain, because of my work I don't have much of a social life either.

The best way is to get involved in something. Join an after-work soccer league or something where you can meet people.

Less work, more play. Your personal life suffers, if your working after the rest of the crew goes home.

I find it hard too because for me I don't connect well with many people out there but when I do the friendship is really really close but that means I don't have much friends but only really close ones. I find it easier to be friends that you can see daily and spend time together a lot.

But nevertheless don't worry about it you ll find your own group of friends everyone will. You don't have to worry about that now just do what you like to do and get out more and they ll come when you least expect it.