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Glitr513
Mar 25, 2009, 04:58 PM
My x and I dated for about 4 months. He was my first sexual partner! Those 4 months I was with him were the happiest times! Ourcjemistry was strong. Sadly the morning of my birrthday he decided to put us to an end. He said it was beacaise of school and football n prepairing for college n the fact that @ the time he said I was immature. Honestly I believe it was because his mom n I grew a mother/daughter relation ship which he had never experienced before and he wanted to be able to flirt around with other people. I'm elated that we are still friends. I still buy him gifts on holidays n special occasions. We still chill with each and hang out recently he invited me over but I couldn't go. However he is going away to college in September. Do I tell him that I still love him and how do I tell him! And this is his senior year n I would love to go to prom with him but how do I bring the conversation up that I want to go with him. Help me plzz asap.
jrsg
Mar 25, 2009, 05:48 PM
I would recommend you move on. It sounds like you have good memories of your first love, and maybe it is best to leave it that way. The "second round" of relationships don't usually go well, in my experience.
I think you should just remain friends.
As for the prom, ask him as a friend. It is a last chance to do something special with each other before he leaves for college, which would be nice for the both of you, and may even provide you with some more closure.
Good luck, and let us know how you're doing!
steffybabytm
Mar 26, 2009, 03:23 PM
Oh boy, I have been in this boat before. Your first sexual partner is a toughy because you gave them something precious and to let that go, is hard. Guys are different from girls and when they let go, usually it is honestly gone. I know that you love him but there are plenty of fish in the sea, and everything happens for a reason. If it was meant to be, it would have happened. So stay strong and be independent. The worst thing you can do is act too clingy and throw yourself at him because you still want him. As tough as it may seem, in my own experience with a similar situation, I will give you the advice to try and move on. This world is full of men willing to give out their love and all you need to do is find it. I'm not quite sure what to tell you about the prom ordeal, but maybe you can find yourself another date.
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-Steffy Baby TM
Mommy102808
Mar 27, 2009, 07:48 AM
That's pretty soon to be giving up something so precious. In four months you gave this guy your virginity so of course you are going to feel an attachment to him and always will. Breaking up with you on your birthday was a low blow he could've waited for another day. Seems to me that he sees college as girls, girls, girls, as a lot of guys these days do, and you need to find a guy that is going to be happy that you bought a gift for him on special occasions and holidays. You sound like a great girl give another guy a shot at love. As for prom if you truly want to go as friends go, but if you want to go to try to rekindle that love that has been lost don't go. Because you might end up hurt. Good luck =D