lilpadfoot16
Mar 24, 2009, 03:43 PM
Hi, this involves a little bit of a backstory.
I've known this guy for almost three years now, we met when we both came to the same college and shared the same major and interests. I had feelings for him at first, but thought he was dating a mutual friend. It turned out he wasn't, but did have a girlfriend back home. I decided he was off-limits and found a guy to date. Fast-forward a year... we've become good friends and are now living in the same building. My boyfriend broke up with me (his roommate now) and we started spending more time together, with him comforting me. His girlfriend breaks up with him a few weeks later, and we swap roles. Later in the semester, he starts hanging out in my room, along with the mutual friend from the first year. He flirts constantly with me, but always acts like he's joking. He asked me out more than once, also seeming to be joking with me the entire time. At the same time, we're each off and on dating other people. By the end of year two, I have a boyfriend, and he's single, but dating off and on and still good friends with me. During the summer, he transferred really far away and in the fall, my boyfriend broke up with me, so we started talking a little bit more over texting.
It's now the spring and after a few casual dates and some flirting with other guys, I realized that the guy who's been here for me all this time for everything is the one I STILL like and never really stopped liking. He was still flirting with me over the internet and texting, so I started talking to a friend about it and she pushed me to flirt back and then, on Sunday, for me to see what would happen if I casually acted like I liked him. I was shocked when I found out he'd secretly like me and that every time he'd joked around and flirted with me, it WASN'T a joke. We talked about it a little via text, but as he's really far away and hasn't had a good experience with long distance previously, he wantes to wait until we see each other again in May to figure it out.
However, my roommate and I are going to take a trip to where he is over our Easter break, so we don't have to wait as long and he's pretty excited about us coming down. But the problem is, we haven't discussed it any more, or really talked a lot at all. I'm not sure if he's freaking out just as much as I am or what's going on with him? I'd really like him to talk to me more, because if I'm going to invest myself in a relationship like this, I'd like more communication, and not just about the relationship type stuff, but I'm not sure how to ask. I don't know how to get him to open up to me more when we mostly have just the internet and text to talk.
Can anyone help?
Thanks!
I've known this guy for almost three years now, we met when we both came to the same college and shared the same major and interests. I had feelings for him at first, but thought he was dating a mutual friend. It turned out he wasn't, but did have a girlfriend back home. I decided he was off-limits and found a guy to date. Fast-forward a year... we've become good friends and are now living in the same building. My boyfriend broke up with me (his roommate now) and we started spending more time together, with him comforting me. His girlfriend breaks up with him a few weeks later, and we swap roles. Later in the semester, he starts hanging out in my room, along with the mutual friend from the first year. He flirts constantly with me, but always acts like he's joking. He asked me out more than once, also seeming to be joking with me the entire time. At the same time, we're each off and on dating other people. By the end of year two, I have a boyfriend, and he's single, but dating off and on and still good friends with me. During the summer, he transferred really far away and in the fall, my boyfriend broke up with me, so we started talking a little bit more over texting.
It's now the spring and after a few casual dates and some flirting with other guys, I realized that the guy who's been here for me all this time for everything is the one I STILL like and never really stopped liking. He was still flirting with me over the internet and texting, so I started talking to a friend about it and she pushed me to flirt back and then, on Sunday, for me to see what would happen if I casually acted like I liked him. I was shocked when I found out he'd secretly like me and that every time he'd joked around and flirted with me, it WASN'T a joke. We talked about it a little via text, but as he's really far away and hasn't had a good experience with long distance previously, he wantes to wait until we see each other again in May to figure it out.
However, my roommate and I are going to take a trip to where he is over our Easter break, so we don't have to wait as long and he's pretty excited about us coming down. But the problem is, we haven't discussed it any more, or really talked a lot at all. I'm not sure if he's freaking out just as much as I am or what's going on with him? I'd really like him to talk to me more, because if I'm going to invest myself in a relationship like this, I'd like more communication, and not just about the relationship type stuff, but I'm not sure how to ask. I don't know how to get him to open up to me more when we mostly have just the internet and text to talk.
Can anyone help?
Thanks!