Hi, I am 24 year old girl who is in love with a guy from different religion. My parents will not accept him unless I lie to them about his religion. I can not live without him. I love him very much. What should I do?

Hunnie, if you can't live without him there's only one choice! Talk with your parents about how you feel about him, let them hear his good qualities (I assume there are good qualities or else I would expect this question wouldn't be a hard one to answer) Your parents may not accept his religion, but if they love you and know that he makes you complete they should look past his religion and care for him as their future family member. And if they don't, then don't let it get to you. You have one life to live, don't let others live it for you.

-Mouse

Hi, am also in your situation dear.. am 25 years old and so much in love with a lady from another religion. Am trying all I can do to win her, yeah I know she does love me but the problem is her parents. She's told me that she knows very well they won't agree with our relationship but am not giving up she's also not giving up. So don't give up, if its true love I believe you belong to each other let religion not to be a barrier. So pliz don't give up dear. And also don't allow anything to prevent you from your happiness remember its your life your future,so be wise dear. Thank u.

Do you wish to be controlled by those beliefs to the point that you are unhappy for the rest of your life because some religion says you should be? I think it is time to review your own religion a little bit, and see if you even agree with it. I am not a religious person, but I am very spiritual. Denying what is in your heart, is almost always the wrong thing to do.

If it was a racist thing, would you view it different? If you and your parents were white, and he was a black, or vice versa, how would it be viewed then? Don't let your religious beliefs make you a racist, because of your parents. After all, there is just as much of a chance that all of you are in the wrong religion to begin with, or both of your religions are right and misinterpreted.

If you go against your heart, and watch how much hatred you end up building for both your religion, and for your parents. Instead, just do what you feel in your heart, that's why you're a grown up.

After all, how do you know this isn't a sign of god telling you that you are in the wrong religion, by helping your heart steer you the right direction!

Hmmm... I was in a similar situation years ago... where I was with someone for a long time, but that's as far as the relationship could go because of the religion thing. We were both strong in our own faiths, but that's the problem, neither of us was willing to back down or convert to the other's faith. We were stuck and in the end we broke up. Sad ending, but I eventually found the girl of my dreams, of the same religion, same level of faith and I'm so in love with her.

Would the guiding patron of your religeon want you to suffer because of your beliefs?

If not, be with the one you want. If so, well, personally I would start questioning Him.

The difference of religion is a major issue to a family, are you willing to give up all of your beliefs and change to his?

If not what about your children, snice if you are a true beleiver, you will feel your children can not be saved or go to heaven if they don't follow yours or his ( assumeing your father teaches that)

But the very last issue and the main issue, you don't lie to your parents,

It does not matter whether your parents except his religion or not. LOVE IS LOVE. You both should come together and except each others beliefs and share with each other your whole lives. Parents might not like it, will and could be a big fight but just be honest with your parents. Do what you feel in your heart is right. Religion should not divide people but it does. Love is the greatest gift in this life..

Hello. Just chiming in as I was in thee same situation with my daughter's father! I was so very much in love with him, and I believed he was with me as well. Our religions' difference made a HUGE difference to HIS parents. My parents AND my pastor condoned the love we felt in our hearts for each other, but were heavily against me being "sucked into" his religion...

As wonderful as his mother and siblings have been towards me(TO MY FACE), now that I am the mother of his child, and before- don't get me wrong- nice people... but... I was not of the same religion and I am sure he was told time and time again, not to marry me!( when I playfully confronted him saying "Oh you know your mother told you you cold mearry me anyways", his answer was "OK"?? And never denied it. It infuriated me to no end needless to say. But I am over that now, and although our daughter was conceived out of wedlock, which is a big big deal for their religion as well, they have lovingly accepted her. And I am glad, because the pregnancy drove him and me apart because she was to be kept a secret until he was ready to tell his folks... really?? In this day and age!

Why can't each person have their own faith, and still get along in a marriage? Why does it have to be one or the other.

I was seen as the anti-Christ because not only was I not of my (now) husband's faith, I belonged to no religious order, was not raised in any faith, in fact, never baptized. I came from a 'broken' home, raised by a single mother on welfare, and from the wrong side of the tracks. They did not see me as a good catch as you can imagine.

I refused to become a Catholic, although I agreed to marriage in the Catholic church, and did the preparation course and all that was expected of me.

It was VERY difficult with his family for all of the above reasons. The dislike for me started the day they knew about me, and only grew with each 'fault' or 'shortcoming' I had.

It took them years to accept me as I was, and although they were cordial, I never had the level of acceptance the other spouses enjoyed.

But, I held my head up, didn't answer to the criticism, and had a very strong, loving relationship with my husband. We overcame all of our differences. Eventually, success spoke for itself. While his sisters and brother still regard me as a second class citizen, oddly enough, his mother and I became best friends. She was funny and energetic, and adored her grandchildren.

While she got over the religion thing, the others never did.

But, you must be honest with your parents, and be prepared for the aftermath, because it will happen. However, love will survive.

I would tell them sooner rather than later. It is what it is, and they will be upset, but to lie, and/or wait, will only make things worse.

Good luck to you.

Why can't each person have their own faith, and still get along in a marriage? Why does it have to be one or the other.

I was seen as the anti-Christ because not only was I not of my (now) husband's faith, I belonged to no religious order, was not raised in any faith, in fact, never baptized. I came from a 'broken' home, raised by a single mother on welfare, and from the wrong side of the tracks. They did not see me as a good catch as you can imagine.

I refused to become a Catholic, although I agreed to marriage in the Catholic church, and did the preparation course and all that was expected of me.

It was VERY difficult with his family for all of the above reasons. The dislike for me started the day they knew about me, and only grew with each 'fault' or 'shortcoming' I had.

It took them years to accept me as I was, and although they were cordial, I never had the level of acceptance the other spouses enjoyed.

But, I held my head up, didn't answer to the criticism, and had a very strong, loving relationship with my husband. We overcame all of our differences. Eventually, success spoke for itself. While his sisters and brother still regard me as a second class citizen, oddly enough, his mother and I became best friends. She was funny and energetic, and adored her grandchildren.

While she got over the religion thing, the others never did.

But, you must be honest with your parents, and be prepared for the aftermath, because it will happen. However, love will survive.

I would tell them sooner rather than later. It is what it is, and they will be upset, but to lie, and/or wait, will only make things worse.

Good luck to you.

Very thoughful! I wish more people could be as genuine and accepting when it comes to matters of the heart, especially when it comes to their children and who they love!

Any religion that tells you to hate someone because of their religion should be abandoned anyway.

There is already too much hate in the world to spread it to your children.

What have you now decided to do? Are you still together.. religion is a bit part of people life but so is love and just like you I'm stuck thinking what should I do... I'm just wondering are you guys going to fight this battle until the end