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Texie Studstill
Mar 21, 2009, 05:18 PM
One of my best friends parents just got a divorce when her mother left her dad for some guy that she met.Whenever she claimed that she was going to see family she was seeeing this guy and her family founder her out. Now:confused::confused::confused::confused: she guilts my friend into feeling like a bad daughter all the time and is really rude and mean to her. Because of this she has turned her back on God and Jesus and claims that there is no God and even if there was he was rotton because he let this happen to her.She could care less and even says that if she was wrong that she can go to hell and she doesn't care. I don't want my friend to ruin her life and for all of those people who say that it is none of my buiseness, it is because saving people is my business and saving my best friend from hell is my priority.

artlady
Mar 21, 2009, 05:24 PM
We are human and we have feelings that are often confused and full of anger.Jesus understands that .He is still looking down on your friend and he is never going to leave her.Especially ,in her greatest hour of need.
She will come around,give her time.The Lord is infinitely patient and understanding.He will not forsake her.

arcura
Mar 21, 2009, 10:06 PM
Texie Studstill,
Artlady is right.
Jesus is right there with her and you and all of us. Right my our side.
There are many, many people who have gone through much worse that what your froend and her family have gone through who left belief in God somewhere in their life who have seen the light and gone back.
It happened to me when my 12 year old on;y son died of Reye's Syndrome.
I had prayed long and hard for my son but God let him die.
I was devastated, in much sorrow and angry.
But thanks to a marvelous sympathetic and understanding priest I soon came back to God and His Church.
This is a world of much suffering.
Jesus suffered far more than most of us ever will throughout or lives.
And He did it willing for us...
The suffering your friend is going through is part of this life and many, many others have gone through much worse, but they grew much stonger beause of it.
Pray for your friend as bess you can and continue to be a good friend.
Good friends are of great help to those who suffer and remember that her best friend is Jesus.
Peace and kindness,
Fred

christopherandc
Mar 24, 2009, 04:13 AM
You can witness to her by living your life as God wants you to live it. We can't force God onto people, only be an example... plant the seed. God will make it grow.

arcura
Mar 24, 2009, 01:56 PM
christopherandc,
Very good advice.
Fred

revdrgade
Mar 25, 2009, 09:54 AM
There are a lot of "prodigal sons" wandering around in the world. Your friend sounds like one who first has to squander all the riches she had from God and finally wake up to how miserable she IS MAKING HERSELF.

Then she will be ready to come home to God again. And you can be there to welcome her back in the Father's authority... and celebrate with her.

Hopefully she is not one who has been looking for some excuse to get away from God and has never been happy with any of His blessings and gifts. Some are like the grumbling Israelites in the wilderness after they were freed from horrible slavery in Egypt. Most of them died in the wilderness because of their selfishness and dissatisfaction over everything God did for them.

People all have the power to reject God no matter how well we encourage them to return to Him. But being there for her... for a time... is the best way to let her see the love of God.

arcura
Mar 25, 2009, 02:29 PM
Rev,
Again a very good post with good advice,
Fred

Wondergirl
Mar 25, 2009, 02:42 PM
God has put you in your friend's life for times like this. He doesn't want you to preach to her, but just cry with her and hold her hand and be there when she needs to rest her head on your shoulder. Your understanding and comfort and love will be what help her get through this terrible time.

Have you ever seen that poem called "Footprints in the Sand"? This is one of the times Jesus is carrying your friend -- with your help.

Footprints (http://www.barefootsworld.net/footprints.html)

arcura
Mar 25, 2009, 04:03 PM
Wondergirl ,
Wonderful advice.
Fred