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mgallagher13
Mar 21, 2009, 02:50 PM
I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half, sex was happening often at first, but now its maybe once a week if that and does not last as long as it used to. He likes to masturbate to pictures online and porn sites more than he likes to have sex with me. What can I do to turn him on more, and make him more interested in having sex with me.

bronzebabe
Mar 21, 2009, 07:26 PM
Speak to him about this...tell him you are a more than willing partner...does he ask you to watch the porn with him? maybe that would help...

letmetellu
Mar 21, 2009, 08:01 PM
About the only thing you can do is to tell him that he is running your relationship, and if it does not stop you are afraid that it will end.

Being addicted to porn is a bad thing, it has ruined lot of marriages and relationships, I hope you can get him to do something about it, that is if you really love him, but if you don't truly love him I would not think of staying in a sexless relationship.

Synnen
Mar 21, 2009, 10:05 PM
Unplug the computer.

Xrayman
Mar 22, 2009, 03:58 PM
1. Smash the computer.
2. Use a vibrator in front of him-DO NOT ALLOW him to touch you-until the online porn is GONE.

3. if this does not work-move on to someone that will give you sex.

Fr_Chuck
Mar 22, 2009, 04:19 PM
Put a porn block on it

Alty
Mar 22, 2009, 04:36 PM
Masterbate in front of him, when he gets turned on and wants to join in, say "Sorry, but your times up, you only paid for 5 minutes".

No, really, talk to him, a relationship is about communication. Porn can become an addiction and it sounds like he's already there.

Choux
Mar 23, 2009, 04:56 AM
The "honeymoon" is over, girl.

He's on his way looking for more kicks out of sex since he doesn't feel the old excitement.

He doesn't confuse love and sex in his mind, he's an effer... do you think that having sex means he loves you? YOu guys are on a different wavelength and will have to have a few serious talks to get this straightened out.

If he really prefers computer sex to you, get rid of him and live and learn. Life is compicated, relationships are complicated. :)

Best wishes,

shazamataz
Mar 23, 2009, 05:44 AM
It could be case of spicing things up a bit... what sort of porn does he look at, maybe you could try dressing up in a sexy outfit or costume like his porno girls.

On the other hand, I think you need to look at your relationship as a whole. Is it just the sex that is bothering you or are there other aspects of your relationship that have waned. Does he talk to you like he used to, do you still go out together etc?

Most computers can have passwords put on them to prevent sites with nudity etc or you can put in specific sites... I also agree with the smashing though :D

smoothy
Mar 23, 2009, 06:13 AM
Maybe he is having issues with you and he doesn't have the balls to tell you? Almost all guys like porn and most guys would rather get off with a real woman than choose his hand to do it.