My ex-girlfriend went to her ex-boy friend's funeral about two weeks ago. She said she felt different and very comfortable with him and the family while she was there. She said she didn't love him, but was confused about our relationship. She said she loved me, but wasn't in love with me. So I asked her what she wanted to do and she said she wanted to break it up. She didn't want to let me go, because she knew if she did she would never see me again. I didn't answer yes or no. I just continued asking what and why. Later that day we talked face to face and I told her that if in three weeks she didn't know what she wanted she didn't love me. I told her I would stop all contact with her for three weeks and we would see each other again on April the 7th to see where she and I were in our lifes. This is really hard to do. I really need some answers and advice. I still want her back and I would still take her back.

Do you really want to be with somebody that does not love you? How can you love somebody but not be in love? What is so confusing about a relationship? It is easier said then done but she broke up with you, instead of making all these deals to get together to see where everybody is, is not doing you any good. Move on.

Forget the 3 weeks, if she doesn't contact you, leave her alone. She let you down gently, take the hint.

Look, I know how you feel, but I doubt she changes her mind. Let her deal with her feelings of loss, her own way, and in her own time.

It will be hard, but you have your own loss to accept, and come to terms with.