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BAMF
Mar 19, 2009, 06:41 PM
Don't judge me. :\
I got a little drunk and was joking around with one of my good guy friends that I would have sex with him. He was completely sober and obviously I didn't know what I was saying. He didn't talk about it until three months later and he ad the balls to bring it up and have this whole plan when we do it. We are good friends and it sucks now because its awkward between us. We never really had a conversation about it because it will just be very ackwarddd. What do I do?

ordinaryguy
Mar 19, 2009, 07:09 PM
We never really had a conversation about it because it will just be very ackwarddd. what do i do?

Time to have that ackwarddd conversation.

artlady
Mar 19, 2009, 07:16 PM
Honey, its awkward O.K.

If he is your friend you should be able to say anything to him.Just ignore it and if you bring it up say *I know this girl that got so drunk she asked some close friend to get it on* then from there say* oh gee I did that that too,only kidding*,lots of giggles now.
That's all :)

BAMF
Mar 19, 2009, 07:20 PM
Time to have that ackwarddd conversation.

Should I wait for him to bring it up, or should I?

letmetellu
Mar 19, 2009, 07:46 PM
You should bring it up, tell him he is a good friend and that you would hate to lose his friendship but you would really never like to mention or hear about it again. If he is a good friend he will do as you say.

ordinaryguy
Mar 20, 2009, 04:58 AM
should i wait for him to bring it up, or should i?

Yes, you should bring it up, and you should apologize profusely for talking sh!t while you're drunk.

Then you should spend some time alone trying to understand why you chose to get that drunk in the first place. If you don't nip this behavior pattern in the bud, it will very quickly get you into far more awkward situations than the one you're in now. Consider it a cheap lesson--a warning shot across the bow, so to speak.

liz28
Mar 20, 2009, 07:57 AM
I don't understand that if he knew you was drunk when you said what you why bring it up 3 months later? Why didn't he bring it up asap after the incident if he thought you really meant it?

It seems like he was dwelling on what you said a lot more than you think and probably just got the balls to bring it up.

Sadly, even though the two of you are friends if he can't expect that you don't want to have sex with him or keeps bringing the issue up, you might be one friend less when it comes to him.

I wish
Mar 20, 2009, 09:48 AM
Since you gave him the idea in the first place, it's probably better for you to bring it up. If he's really a good friend, you two should be able to be honest with each other.

Just clear it up so the two of you can go back to being normal friends.

talaniman
Mar 20, 2009, 06:05 PM
what do I do?

Stop getting drunk!!

You were lucky he was your friend, this time.

excon
Mar 20, 2009, 06:10 PM
Hello B:

I think you should do him. Many great love affairs started as great friendships.

You want to, anyway.

excon

Alty
Mar 20, 2009, 06:14 PM
I'd like to know how old you are? You sound really young, so why are you drinking?

Talk to him, or have sex with him, or avoid him, those are your options.

You're the one who got yourself into this mess, it's up to you to get yourself out.

No more drinking, you obviously can't handle alcohol.

Good luck.

johnnydonnydo
Dec 11, 2011, 01:22 PM
We are missing something here. Most of the times guys are friends with girls because they are hoping to get something more out of it down the line. He might not even be a real friend and I would say after reading the story that he just made the whole thing up to try to get it on. Saying that you brought it up takes of the responsibility of him and makes you feel like you feel now and also that you owe him with it.
I say that this three months ago when you were drunk thing is a lie. If he tell you next day you were drinking chances are high that you would know that he is bs-ing.
My advice: Know who your real friends are

mannyE11
Dec 12, 2011, 03:19 PM
Clear the air that you just want to be FRIENDS. (unless you want to of course) if he keeps persisting, then the best thing to do would be to stop talking to him until he calmed down or killed the issue.

Chabe21
Jul 21, 2012, 07:27 PM
Talk to him if it wasn't awkward before and he's your friend you should confront him...