View Full Version : My ex girlfriend is dating someone else and I want her back
dany232009
Mar 19, 2009, 01:40 PM
I date my girflriend for 1 year, then we live 4 month togheter, things happened I lost my job and things get worst, honestly I could manage with more filosofy but I couldn't, so I ask her to move out with her girlfriends back until.
Of course after that things get worst, we date 6 more months but we fight too much, so finally she broke up with me with a text message,
Inmediately soon she start to date someone else, already pass 2.5 months, she contact me twice in the midle , but I didn't answer and now she try to contact me again and I answer back but she still with the other guy and she said they have a very good relationship, so I ask her to meet her because I don't think and I can't drop a relationshipp by text message, I need to see the other persone eyes for that, she told me what for...
I loved her but also I want to be OK, so I will meet her in 4 days and I was thinking not to show her that I want her back, on the contrary accept the fact she is dating someone else and be happy for her that she move on, also not to be jealous and don't talk bad about the new guy, also tell her that I wish to find someone else in the future like her.
Do you guys think I have a chance...
Alty
Mar 19, 2009, 01:43 PM
It's unlikely that you two will get back together again, that kind of thing only happens in the movies, not in real life.
Go to no contact, forget about her and move on. It won't be easy, but it's your only option.
Good luck.
liz28
Mar 19, 2009, 06:39 PM
She move on so maybe you should do the same.
I don't understand why you need to meet up with her to drop the relationship because you been broken up with her for the pass 2 1/2 months. So you don't need to drop it is has already been dropped.
I don't know why your ex is getting back in contact with after 2 months but I think it's to mess with your head, or she wants attention, or to make you jealous. Either way it is giving you false hope.
And why would you want to step on someone else's shoes if you know she's with someone?
dany232009
Mar 19, 2009, 06:58 PM
She move on so maybe you should do the same.
I don't understand why you need to meet up with her to drop the relationship because you been broken up with her for the pass 2 1/2 months. So you don't need to drop it is has already been dropped.
I don't know why your ex is getting back in contact with after 2 months but I think it's to mess with your head, or she wants attention, or to make you jealous. Either way it is giving you false hope.
And why would you want to step on someone elses shoes if you know she's with someone?
Yep you maybe right, I was thinking she contact me because she miss me sometimes even if she is with someone else, or just to hols me just in case or just because she want to know about me
But regard why I want to meet her after she is with someone else, well I think maybe this relationtship is like a bounding one and beside you cansay by phone or text anything but if I see your eyes you can't lied me, I like face to face and I thing nothing can be worst than now so I thought there s nothing to lose more.
I don't like the situation but I will show her that I am happy for her because she found someone else, maybe you know I can find out something, if not I have the all life from now
Thank you for your concern take care
dontknownuthin
Mar 19, 2009, 07:25 PM
I think your energy should be spent on recognizing that a chance with her would be a step backwards, and we should all move forward. Why? First, you hit a snag - a lost job, and let it impact your living situation and hers. She broke up with you over it. She's dating someone else but talking with you... I mean, it's a mess, beginning to end.
Focus on getting your young life on the track you need to be on, and look forward for the right person. Find someone that helps you in the tough times, and who would have more respect for you than to break up with a text message. Get some job training, go to college, or just find the next job. Spend time with your family, with your core group of close friends, and just let the right girl come along.
Breaking up hurts but it's kind of like bandaids... it hurts just as much but just longer when you peel it off slowly. Breaking up, getting back together, breaking up and so on is exhausting and acts as a barrier to any other girl having a chance because you won't even see them.
dany232009
Mar 19, 2009, 08:43 PM
I think your energy should be spent on recognizing that a chance with her would be a step backwards, and we should all move forward. Why? First, you hit a snag - a lost job, and let it impact your living situation and hers. She broke up with you over it. She's dating someone else but talking with you...I mean, it's a mess, beginning to end.
Focus on getting your young life on the track you need to be on, and look forward for the right person. Find someone that helps you in the tough times, and who would have more respect for you than to break up with a text message. Get some job training, go to college, or just find the next job. Spend time with your family, with your core group of close friends, and just let the right girl come along.
Breaking up hurts but it's kind of like bandaids...it hurts just as much but just longer when you peel it off slowly. Breaking up, getting back together, breaking up and so on is exhausting and acts as a barrier to any other girl having a chance because you won't even see them.
Thank you for your answer