jaimecat
Mar 17, 2009, 10:30 PM
I am in another country right now studying abroad. Im 21. I have had a crush on this guy I met last semester through class. At the time I didn't do anything about it because I was sort of with someone else (I was with Mr. Im Using You) However it ended a month later and this guy and I talked a few times on AIM. I guess you could say this guy was flirty from the beginning. Its strange since he's a frat boy and use to play football and I am a bit of a brainaic and was once a band nerd... so when I met him in class I thought right away we wouldn't get along. However, he must like my sense of humor because my classmate commented he flirted with me a lot.
Right before I left the country, I went up a few weekends to school to visit my friends before I left. This guy wanted to see me, so one weekend we went to a party together and then went out to lunch the next day. The second weekend I visited he took me out to dinner and then we went to a party. We left a little early to hang out at his place. After 3 hours of playing his guitar and Nintendo we started kissing. He wasn't drunk but tipsy I guess. He said things like "no words can describe you" and how it upset him I was leaving the country. He said I was beautiful and to make sure to keep in touch when I went away. I ignored this because the last guy I was with (Mr. Im Using You) was a seemingly nice Christian boy who really was only physically attracted to me and lied about it to keep me hanging on. He said all sorts of sweet talk too. (My ex boyfriend who strung me along for a year did the same.) I guess you could say Im paranoid. After making out with this guy, I told him I am not into hookups and how its not my thing. He said "I dont take just anybody out to dinner"
3 days later I got a text from him saying "He couldnt wait to see me again and hoped the time passed quickly." and asked if I was bringing my laptop so he could talk to me on AIM there. I said I wanted to see him again too and he said "Good, we feel the same." He kept saying to get a faster texting phone because he got all nervous when I didn't respond right away too.
I know for a fact this guy has done a lot of hookups though he has had one serious relationship, not like his history matters though. But at the same time he seems to be more mature since he gets annoyed at his brothers' partying sometimes and says he can't wait to graduate and get a job.
Im in New Zealand. I talk to him on AIM about once a week. It never takes long for him to IM me when I get on. When I first got here it took me over a week to get a phone and Internet and the first time I got on he Imed me and said "wow I have so much to say." We always have good convos and he has said he can't wait to take me out again and such and we have commented our timing sucks. When I said I hadn't seen Star Wars he said "If you want to be with me you will have to see it." He is staying one more semester at school (he is a senior now) I remarked that would drive me nuts and he said "Maybe so I think Ill be OK I have some friends younger than me plus youll be there so thatll make it easier" He confessed he is a romantic and we talk about everything so its not just him saying mushy things all the time I guess like a player would.
My questions is does he want me to be his girlfriend? Its way too early to ask him directly. I have no idea what could happen once I get back. I am only worried because I am so sick of being used. I want a boyfriend. Not a sort of boyfriend, we're not officially together crap. I have had so many guys do that to me and I get so hurt each time and I don't think I could do it again... especially because I really like this guy. The guy who did it to me last time wasn't that great. He wasn't social enough for me at all and wasn't even that cute but I got hurt so badly. This guys seems to like me... after all he's been talking to me so much when Im here and makes references to us seeing each other in the future. But I am still having doubts. It seems too good to be true.
Right before I left the country, I went up a few weekends to school to visit my friends before I left. This guy wanted to see me, so one weekend we went to a party together and then went out to lunch the next day. The second weekend I visited he took me out to dinner and then we went to a party. We left a little early to hang out at his place. After 3 hours of playing his guitar and Nintendo we started kissing. He wasn't drunk but tipsy I guess. He said things like "no words can describe you" and how it upset him I was leaving the country. He said I was beautiful and to make sure to keep in touch when I went away. I ignored this because the last guy I was with (Mr. Im Using You) was a seemingly nice Christian boy who really was only physically attracted to me and lied about it to keep me hanging on. He said all sorts of sweet talk too. (My ex boyfriend who strung me along for a year did the same.) I guess you could say Im paranoid. After making out with this guy, I told him I am not into hookups and how its not my thing. He said "I dont take just anybody out to dinner"
3 days later I got a text from him saying "He couldnt wait to see me again and hoped the time passed quickly." and asked if I was bringing my laptop so he could talk to me on AIM there. I said I wanted to see him again too and he said "Good, we feel the same." He kept saying to get a faster texting phone because he got all nervous when I didn't respond right away too.
I know for a fact this guy has done a lot of hookups though he has had one serious relationship, not like his history matters though. But at the same time he seems to be more mature since he gets annoyed at his brothers' partying sometimes and says he can't wait to graduate and get a job.
Im in New Zealand. I talk to him on AIM about once a week. It never takes long for him to IM me when I get on. When I first got here it took me over a week to get a phone and Internet and the first time I got on he Imed me and said "wow I have so much to say." We always have good convos and he has said he can't wait to take me out again and such and we have commented our timing sucks. When I said I hadn't seen Star Wars he said "If you want to be with me you will have to see it." He is staying one more semester at school (he is a senior now) I remarked that would drive me nuts and he said "Maybe so I think Ill be OK I have some friends younger than me plus youll be there so thatll make it easier" He confessed he is a romantic and we talk about everything so its not just him saying mushy things all the time I guess like a player would.
My questions is does he want me to be his girlfriend? Its way too early to ask him directly. I have no idea what could happen once I get back. I am only worried because I am so sick of being used. I want a boyfriend. Not a sort of boyfriend, we're not officially together crap. I have had so many guys do that to me and I get so hurt each time and I don't think I could do it again... especially because I really like this guy. The guy who did it to me last time wasn't that great. He wasn't social enough for me at all and wasn't even that cute but I got hurt so badly. This guys seems to like me... after all he's been talking to me so much when Im here and makes references to us seeing each other in the future. But I am still having doubts. It seems too good to be true.